HeartBorken Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Been a few months since break haven't talked to the ex in months. I felt like my life was getting better at least just a bit with a new job and hanging with friends. I was even thinking about getting back into dating. I don't know if its because Christmas is next week along with my Birthday (27th) but i just feel horrible right now. Was watching a Christmas special and just started bursting into tears. I guess its the feeling of being alone on these days but it just hurts. I know she doesn't give a damn about me anymore which makes me feel even more pathetic for still caring and thinking about her. Wish i could just have this pain go away. 1
LostConfused123 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Hang in there. I know how much it HURTS!! The holidays seem to magnify the pain. We are all here for you! ((hugs!!)) 1
LadyM Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Lost is so right - the holidays do magnify the pain. I had been doing well, and now I'm not. I so desperately want to stop caring. Wish so hard this pain would stop already. It's all a senseless waste because he is not thinking about me at all. I so much understand how you feel. Starting to date could be just the thing to get your mind distracted from your ex. Attention from the opposite sex can cure many woes. Happy early birthday! 1
SYLLPalmer Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Your mind is healing and fortifying itself. It is a painful process due to all of the repeat and rewinding that goes on, but it not with out great rewards. You go into the next relationship a better man and better lover. Independent of her. Don't shy away from the pain, let your mind absorb it so that it can serve you better in the future. My first breakup was legion. At 8 years the pain was less frequent but still mind numbing. At 12 years I was free. We learn from our pain and as such make better futures. It sucks big time but think of it as nasty foul medicine for your soul. Christmas makes it all the sadder. None of us can escape the crappy Christmas. We have a life expectancy of 78 years! You will have better Christmases, maybe even 3 decades of stellar Christmases with the right one. I have the Christmas birthday bonus too, Jan 2. Woopitdy doo! Just for the record I am acutely heartsick after being blind sided in cyberspace. I can't eat and what I do = up chuck. I hate the pain but I do welcome it. Do what you can to make those around you that love you have a happier Christmas. That is where you will find your joy. Me too. Peace. 2
confusedsoul14 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 At times like this, I think it is best to start loving yourself more than anything else. Start taking extra extra care of yourself and do all your favorite things. Do a little workout to release the feel-good hormones and get rid of unnecessary stress. I got heartbroken recently, and I couldn't stop crying, especially at night...Then I started writing my feelings down and trust me it helped me so much! Actually that's when I came to loveshack and it felt really good to talk to people who are going through the same situation as me. Start meeting new people and try to develop a new crush. Just enjoy the flirting without trying to take any of it seriously (atleast for a while)
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