PogoStick Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 For many people exercise does improve depression, regardless of weight loss. There's a difference between simply eating less, and exercising hard on a regular basis. The latter allows one to feel pride at working hard for their own benefit. 1
Eau Claire Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 (edited) When I was on Match, the number one requirement for me was that a man was fit and leads a healthy lifestyle. I really couldn't care about height, a crooked nose or balding. A flat belly trumps a wobbly third eye. Anyways, sure matters to me. Being fit is like money. It may not bring you happiness but more likely. Edited December 26, 2013 by Eau Claire
Softie Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 (edited) If it bothers you being overweight, the losing some will make you feel more confident and thus enjoy life a bit more. One would suggest make some minor adjustments to your eating such as cut down on one thing or two, don't cut it out completely and then also just add a little more movement to your daily life such as taking the stairs. These are fair more sustainable adjustments than completely overhauling a diet and then falling off the wagon, chastising yourself and going around and around in this vicious cycle. Make small changes, reap the benefits. Eat less move more that's the only math and thought to it. Edited December 29, 2013 by Softie Adding
thefooloftheyear Posted December 29, 2013 Posted December 29, 2013 (edited) When I was on Match, the number one requirement for me was that a man was fit and leads a healthy lifestyle. I really couldn't care about height, a crooked nose or balding. A flat belly trumps a wobbly third eye. Anyways, sure matters to me. Being fit is like money. It may not bring you happiness but more likely. Thats a proper analogy, but NOT to prove your point... Some of the most fcked up people I know are wealthy...They are miserable, most are on some sort of drugs and many are alcoholics..Conversely, there are many people that live very happy lives with comparitively little... The saying is true..Money will not bring you happiness... And, as I stated earlier in the thread...Im the most fit person I know at my age, and no one in my entire circle of people I know are even close to my level of fitness... Im fine, but in no way am I the happiest out of this group of people....Not even close.. That doesnt mean stay fat and dont care about your appearance, but no way does it guarantee happiness, or even make it more likely...I know plenty of out of shape people that have their lives in order.. TFY Edited December 29, 2013 by thefooloftheyear 1
Author Rimer Posted January 1, 2014 Author Posted January 1, 2014 THanks for all the comments! I feel like since I've put on more weight that.. I don't want to be around people that much anymore. I used to be very social. I feel like i'm building a border around me and not caring what happening to me. Just accepting this is my life. Sucks.. I just wonder does putting on weight, not feeling healthy, not feeling good about myself and do I really like give out that kinda "aura" that I'm very depressed even tho around friends I try to show like everything is good that do I give off somekinda feeling. Because everytime I see a friend take a photo of when where out and partying. While I think I'm showing my friends nothing is wrong and when I see that picture I can see from my face I'm not happy and pretty much look lost. Here's what I'm hoping that.. Losing weight.. Would bring me back out of my shell, would give me motivation to start living.. bring out that happy funny guy I used to be... Because mostly my family has said that lose the weight and it will cure all your problems? Is it really that easy?
kassy Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I don't think losing the weight will itself solve all your problems. But think of it like low hanging fruit. It is something you can easily identify makes you fee worse about yourself. So losing the weight will almost certainly make you feel better. Will it make you feel amazing and perfect, unlikely, unless during the long time that it will take to lose the weight slowly and sustainably you work on the other issues you have one by one. Then when you have lost the weight you may feel like a proper representation of who you feel you are. If all your friends just go out and get drunk, then maybe it may be good to put on your list meeting new people who you connect with on a social level better now? I am still friends with my old friends but now have a group of friends from cycling which I took up when feeling similar to you a few years ago. I love that we meet for a long ride, I'm the worst and always get dropped but we plan it so I do less and we should all get to a cafe at the same time and we chill and have breakfast, have a chat and a laugh and then ride home. Most rides are about 4-5 hours. I find it sociable and also I find cycling therapeutic. Not saying cycling is what you should do but more suggesting maybe start with the weight loss but use it as a starting point to reevaluate other aspects of your life. I've lost nearly 30 pounds, probably more of fat as my muscle has increased so much, and feel much better. I have another 30 to get to my goal... It'll probably be another 18 months. I'm in no rush. I suggest you start making changes and see how you go. I like the concept of eating breakfast like a king, lunch like a queen and dinner like a pauper. Maybe start with trying that one day a week? It's all about small manageable changes. Like drinking more water. Good luck. I hope whatever you do you feel better soon
ConstantVoyager Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 As long as you don't do anything extreme, there's absolutely no downside to losing your extra weight. You might as well try and see what happens. The worst that can happen is that the only benefit you reap is improved health. On the other hand, it could help lift your depression, increase your confidence and introduce you to a new circle of friends if you do something social like group runs, group rides or joining a sports league. You may also want to visit a psychiatrist to see if you have a level of depression that could benefit from medication.
Maaikekf Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I actually lost quite a bit of weight when I broke up.. Not intentionally but the end result was neat. All in all, it helped my self esteem, it made me feel better about myself. And trust me, if you feel good about yourself, it makes you look a lot more attractive. Whether or not you'll get a new relationship doesn't really depend on your weight, but on the way you carry yourself, on the personailty that shines through. Your looks themselves are less important than the way you feel about yourself. 1
Eau Claire Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Yes, it will be a change for the better. How can being healthier not be better? 1
FitChick Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It changed this woman's life. Not just her body but her whole attitude.
Iguanna Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It changed this woman's life. Not just her body but her whole attitude. The attitude these people create are caused of how they are treated by others, may it be fat people, gay people, ugly people, stupid people etc. If others were treating them good, they would feel good for themselves. It's nobody's business if someone is fat or gay or short or ugly or whatever. But we have learnt from the magazines and from the television that we are supposed to be like the top models and actors we see there, just cause the beauty industry wants to make more money on our expense, our kids' health, both physical and mental. The only reason that it would be good for someone to lose weight is for health reasons, not cause they will be made fun of or they will ruin other people's aesthetics on the beach (I've heard of this story as well...). I'd say it's the same thing with gay people, it's not their fault they feel bad but it's how they are treated by others and this attitude is supposed to be changed, but I don't want to get off topic.
FitChick Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 (edited) The attitude these people create are caused of how they are treated by others. Not true. Read the article. She said: "In the end, it didn’t matter what the “cause” was that I was blaming it on; I was the one that truly controlled what I did and how I reacted." Edited January 5, 2014 by FitChick
Iguanna Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Not true. I think you are overly strict for something that leads people to death every day. Are you denying the negative (and deadly) impact of how people treat fat people has on them? Are you denying that hundreds of young women literally starve to death cause they believe they are not thin enough (and beautiful)? This is a modern disease of the society and we have to fight against it, not feed it more...
Elias33 Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 The attitude these people create are caused of how they are treated by others, may it be fat people, gay people, ugly people, stupid people etc. If others were treating them good, they would feel good for themselves. It's nobody's business if someone is fat or gay or short or ugly or whatever. But we have learnt from the magazines and from the television that we are supposed to be like the top models and actors we see there, just cause the beauty industry wants to make more money on our expense, our kids' health, both physical and mental. The only reason that it would be good for someone to lose weight is for health reasons, not cause they will be made fun of or they will ruin other people's aesthetics on the beach (I've heard of this story as well...). I'd say it's the same thing with gay people, it's not their fault they feel bad but it's how they are treated by others and this attitude is supposed to be changed, but I don't want to get off topic. You are comparing gay people with fat people? Isn't that apples and oranges? What about fat gay people? Becoming fat is something that can happen with any minority or ethnicity, and is quite universal. It's a human condition. Comparing this with overal acceptance and tolerance for minorities and ethnicity (factors that can't be changed) is reaching in my opinion. Having that said, I do get your point. The treatment of others should be respectful and without harm. But that is going off subject. Eating disorders in both extremes should deserve a well informed and caring approach. Not ridicule.
MixedUpChick Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 When you're in shape, you will feel confident about yourself. Women pick up on that. Yes it will change your life. You will have more confidence to do ANYTHING. Anything like this should be approached as something you want to do for yourself and NOT necessarily to be a lure for the opposite sex... Dont go in thinking the motive is to be more attractive to the opposite sex. That will happen on its own. I think these 2 early posts in this thread sum it up. Will losing weight get you a: mate, better job, etc? No - but it will make you feel more confident & happier, & it puts you in control of making that happen, which in general will improve your life. Win.
mysunflower Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 It will make you feel lighter, and less tired when you walk or do manual work
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