I give up with this whole dating lark

[Versacehottie]

So today he has contacted me, and I've had the most odd text messages ever. He initiated contacted and asked how I was, I replied and the conversation continued. At one point he was asking questions, waiting for a response then replying with one-word! What the hell is that all about?! I replied with 'ok' thinking there was no way he could respond to that but he did with 'haha'?!?! He then went on to say how bored he was. I did ask whether he meant in general or with our conversation. He replied with just in general and asked if I could text him tomorrow.

 

I must always attract the strange ones!!!

 

I sure wish there was a "don't like" button. Saying that he was bored when you don't really have an established relationship is not leading with his best foot and I would be cautious of his intentions. Either that or he's immature or lame or both.

[Eggplant]

Hi Mimsicles,

 

It doesn't matter how much a man likes you, I wouldn't make the 3rd date a meet the family thing, regardless of if he suggested it.

 

Honestly, it sounds to me like this man was after sex and then tried to fastforward the relationship to get the sex by saying he wanted to meet your family so you'd believe he was after more and was so serious about you, then when you still reminded him there would be no sex, he got upset and bailed, as he figured the family card should have worked, it didn't, he has no more time to waste.

Yes! And if a man wants to get families involved, he should invite you to meet HIS family.

 

I'd cut my losses and forget about him. No decent man who is serious about you will on the first and second date go on and on about not being able to wait to sleep with you. :sick:That should have been your clue that this man is a creep and the family thing was a thinly disguised ploy to have it come to fruition.

Absolutely agreed.

[deathandtaxes]

Sometimes the chemistry and spark is there from the get go and you want to rip off each other's clothes on the first date! So many people so hung up on sex. Sheesh.

[CrossroadsGirl]

Sometimes the chemistry and spark is there from the get go and you want to rip off each other's clothes on the first date! So many people so hung up on sex. Sheesh.

 

I don't think that sex on a first date is a problem per se, provided both people are on the same page and open to the same possibilities in the future. For example, two of my longest relationships (3.5 years and 2 years) began with sex on the first date. In both of these scenarios, we were open to a long relationship and not just a once-night stand/casual hookup. I think the problems occur when one of the people wants something serious and the other does not. This leads one person to feel used and the other to feel trapped, making the future untenable.

 

More recently, I have had an issue with dates where they assumption has been that sex on the first (or second) date will be the outcome....maybe even the goal for them. Don't get me wrong, I am open to intoxicating chemistry taking things where they might go, but starting off on the foot that sex will happen makes me uncomfortable and is a big red flag that this is all that the other person wants...

[deathandtaxes]

More recently, I have had an issue with dates where they assumption has been that sex on the first (or second) date will be the outcome....maybe even the goal for them. Don't get me wrong, I am open to intoxicating chemistry taking things where they might go, but starting off on the foot that sex will happen makes me uncomfortable and is a big red flag that this is all that the other person wants...

 

 

Expecting sex, or pretty much expecting anything on a first or second date, is a recipe for disaster. I try very hard to squash my expectations before I meet a lady for the first or second time. I think it's just more fun that way - seeing how the date will end up. "Intoxicating chemistry" - love that phrase. Thanks!!