Why so consistent Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 the break up is not that bad just because of my personality that make this happen , she have no problem to remain friend but no hope for me to win her back. Last night she login and i didn't call her as i did before and today she did login again (she have no reason at all since she don't login since morning but after i finish from my work). If i remain NC and give myself and her sometimes will u guys think is gonna work out ? because i dont think tell her how i feel right now is gonna change anything and i really willing to change since Jealousy and over control is really hard for other who in relationship with me if i dont trust them.
chris21422 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 yep continue NC for now.. you both need time and space from each other.
Never Again Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 It's best to assume you have no chance and stick to NC. You both need space, as Chris said, but she may never want to get back together.
happydate Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 the break up is not that bad just because of my personality that make this happen , she have no problem to remain friend but no hope for me to win her back. Last night she login and i didn't call her as i did before and today she did login again (she have no reason at all since she don't login since morning but after i finish from my work). If i remain NC and give myself and her sometimes will u guys think is gonna work out ? because i dont think tell her how i feel right now is gonna change anything and i really willing to change since Jealousy and over control is really hard for other who in relationship with me if i dont trust them. NC is used as a time for healing between both of you. Time heals all wounds and that is true in all relationships. Sometimes after NC, you will forget her and move on and she will too. Sometimes, there are some residual feelings between both of you and she might miss you and may want try again. Don't overthink it. Starting doing what you've been doing, see old friends that you missed while dating and do something new. Join meetup groups and meet new people during this healing period. I suggest that you don't jump in to date too soon though. I have a friend who broke up with her girlfriend, then NC for about a year and then met up again only to date and now happily married for 12 years. Another friend of a friend girlfriend broke up with him in highschool, went off married another guy and then many years later after his death, she facebooked him, met up and old love rekindled and is now married. Stranger things may happen, but just don't let your hopes too high. NC, do whatever you do and heal. 1
Author Why so consistent Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 NC is used as a time for healing between both of you. Time heals all wounds and that is true in all relationships. Sometimes after NC, you will forget her and move on and she will too. Sometimes, there are some residual feelings between both of you and she might miss you and may want try again. Don't overthink it. Starting doing what you've been doing, see old friends that you missed while dating and do something new. Join meetup groups and meet new people during this healing period. I suggest that you don't jump in to date too soon though. I have a friend who broke up with her girlfriend, then NC for about a year and then met up again only to date and now happily married for 12 years. Another friend of a friend girlfriend broke up with him in highschool, went off married another guy and then many years later after his death, she facebooked him, met up and old love rekindled and is now married. Stranger things may happen, but just don't let your hopes too high. NC, do whatever you do and heal. 4 days ago i mess up again that's when she told me that she about to blocked me in all way but she didn't and she said i'm about to make it , "i never go back with my ex and u have no hope , if u want we can only be friend or i can block you if u wish". And i tell her how i feel but she said dont want it anymore even if i changed and said won't login so often as she used to be , maybe she really mean it or because i push thing too often after i promised that give her space and time. the thing is everytime i call her she will pick up right away and always login in time after i finish from my work , is she want to open contact and monitor my action instead of word? and she said those cruel word because i push thing too often but she's really nice if i keep my cool and **** away.
happydate Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 4 days ago i mess up again that's when she told me that she about to blocked me in all way but she didn't and she said i'm about to make it , "i never go back with my ex and u have no hope , if u want we can only be friend or i can block you if u wish". And i tell her how i feel but she said dont want it anymore even if i changed and said won't login so often as she used to be , maybe she really mean it or because i push thing too often after i promised that give her space and time. the thing is everytime i call her she will pick up right away and always login in time after i finish from my work , is she want to open contact and monitor my action instead of word? and she said those cruel word because i push thing too often but she's really nice if i keep my cool and **** away. In my 2 examples, there was actual "LOVE" involved with these couples, but these 2 women wanted the more bling factor. Then they realized, their true love were with their original men instead. There always be an emotional bond between you and your ex. It's really hard to severe this bond. She made a choice not to date you or be with you for reasons of her own choice. You need to honour that, for if you don't, you will not have the emotional freedom you seek to date others. Stay NC and do your own things and you can still stay as friends with her and keep the channel open. Just don't delve into the past. If there's actual "LOVE" involve between 2 of you and all she wanted is a break or to try a new man, let her be. Let her prove herself wrong or right. Either way, you exercise your own freedom by being yourself and by dating other people. Perhaps years down the road, she may come back to you and ask you for forgiveness. Who knows then you will probably have a new girl or married to one. But as I said -- Time heals all wounds. You may find closure years later.
barky2 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Yes remain NC. If she wants to talk to you, she knows how to get ahold of you. Any movement right now on your part makes you look weak. No woman wants a weak man. Leave it be....trust me. Barky
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