brokenlight Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 (edited) Friendship (7 YEAR'S AGO) started when I was approx 18 person was a decade older, met on fb started chatting A LOT. The other swore they'd always care and proved it. I begin to trust them and tell them personal stuff that I never shared, I'm not a very trusting person. For as much as 8 hours a day we would chat. Family member access the fb page and assume because the friendship is so close that it's a homosexuality friendship writes the friend and curses them out . Friendship continues but overtime not as much chatting as before because of financial hardship on my end. Accusations of not sacrifice my time for them as they had for me. Afterwards goes on a 6 month nc tantrum. Eventually answers only to treat me really cold and say it's over forever. Most recently give crazy dates to talk like new year. I than ask was the friendship easy to get over person says it was a piece of cake to walk away. Blames me because of family help I'm hurt I'm losing more than then years I'm losing the friend that genuinely made me happy I still care and want the friendship. What do I do? Edited December 21, 2013 by brokenlight more details
justinewong Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I'm going to be completely honest with you. If you didn't know he's feeling neglected than you're obviously not caring enough for him. Neglect is painful, and to him, you probably seem like a friend who only contacts him when things turn out bad for you. Want to make it up to him? Make him the priority.
Author brokenlight Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 I'm going to be completely honest with you. If you didn't know he's feeling neglected than you're obviously not caring enough for him. Neglect is painful, and to him, you probably seem like a friend who only contacts him when things turn out bad for you. Want to make it up to him? Make him the priority. Thanks for your advice i really could use it. I'm totally at a lost now it's don't talk to Me no matter how hard I try as well as ignored messages I think it's completely over. I get harsh treatments now.
Author brokenlight Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 Yesterday I asked was it easy to get over the whole friendship and the response was, "piece of cake". It kills me I truly care but I'm only hurting myself. Is there any hope in the long run for the future?
justinewong Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Okay, there's 2 circumstances 1) He really doesn't want to become friend anymore 2) He's just angry and want you to try harder. Either way, it's a lesson to you to never take your friends for granted. I'm going through a similar situation as you, but the difference is I'm in your friend's shoes.
Author brokenlight Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 But 7 years maybe if I give space maybe it'll get better?
justinewong Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 It won't, cause he'll just forget about you.
Author brokenlight Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 I cry daily I want the friendship I might of taken it for granted to some degree but I couldn't talk like we had previously, I genuinely enjoyed the person presence and time they made me happy. I'm crushed emotionally.
justinewong Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Well that's the thing with life. It doesn't matter if you cried daily. As harsh as I sound, the fact that he's being really cold to you shows how neglected he probably have felt.
justinewong Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 I don't know, because I don't know what your friend is like. However, if I was your friend, I'll probably forgive if you apologies hard enough.
Author brokenlight Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 Hopefully I'll get another chance I'll appreciate her way more than.
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