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I have had many chats with friends who have left my hometown / state about my love life troubles. They all say the same thing, which is to leave my hometown / state. If there is anyone out there who is also telling a friend this, I have some advice for you : STOP.

 

 

The pool is not different anywhere else. If anything, you will have a worse time with it thanks to your uprooting and your cultural differences with your new surroundings, as well as your lack of a literal social network in your new city. I knew quite a few who moved somewhere else for someone else, only to have it not work out. I have dated men who were from other states (in a variety of situations, mostly college years where you will meet others from other states), and they are no better than the ones before you in your own city. I understand why it is that others say these things, what they are really telling you is that they want you to be happy and they think they will be happier somewhere else.

 

 

I had a friend who moved from my hometown for a job, he left with a snotty attitude that he was going to find happiness and he was leaving us all to rot in his own filth behind. A few years later, he came back for a weekend and said that he was miserable in his new city. Our city is, according to him, "the kind of place where people live, in other cities they don't." Bad attitude followed him. You do not change, your surroundings change, and then you're really alone.

 

 

So please, those who are telling their friends that they need to be in another city or state in order to find happiness, STOP. Someone might listen without knowing such information and find out the hard way that they are in such a position.

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I dunno, I really liked Seattle and the people there and hope to move back there when I graduate, I lived there from when I was 8 to 17 and would consider Washington to be my home state. Right now I'm in the Midwest for school and I like the people here just as much but the geography sucks. At the same time I hate the North East where the majority of my family is from and I was actually born, we returned to my Jr. year of high school and I now go back there for holidays and such. I like being outside and being and individual, two things I think are less common in the North East.

 

Some areas are better for some people than others.

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It's ok to like your hometown or not like your hometown whichever the case may be for some reason. I'm talking about having a good attitude about your surroundings and not automatically think things will be better somewhere else without knowing much about it. Plus the pool of social networking is difficult enough, I find.

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Wherever you go, there you are.

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You need to change yourself if you are going to uproot because the scenery can change but if you are still the same person, then you are going to get the same results as before

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