BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Well, I recently joined a dating site. Right now, it's just for fun and to gain back my self esteem by all the messages I get from men. It's flattering nonetheless. But there is this one guy...who is *so* sexy and we've been talking back and forth. I'm not interested in a relationship, but a girl has her needs...if you know what I mean. Would this be a dumb idea?
Lilo85 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 It would be a good idea if it's what you want... but given it's someone you've met online, better make sure your mates know where you're going and with whom! 2
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 It would be a good idea if it's what you want... but given it's someone you've met online, better make sure your mates know where you're going and with whom! Actually, the thing is...I have slept with this guy before the last time I broke up with my ex. We were broken up for a couple months and well, I have a huge appetite for sex and him and I hooked up. We lost contact after I got back with my ex, but now that I'm single again...why not? 1
Mariposa10 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I think in your case, it'd be a bad idea.... You are still mourning and healing.. I mean you just broke up with your ex... But then again, I don't really know you. I just don't want you to do something you'll regret and will only make you feel worse. I am also maybe being biased because for me those sites are scary Why don't you take care of your own needs, for now. It's all so recent..? 3
Mariposa10 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Actually, the thing is...I have slept with this guy before the last time I broke up with my ex. We were broken up for a couple months and well, I have a huge appetite for sex and him and I hooked up. We lost contact after I got back with my ex, but now that I'm single again...why not? Oooooh, you already know the guy, that changes everything. 1
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Oooooh, you already know the guy, that changes everything. Yea he is handsome. And he emailed me first. He has a full head of hair, tall, in shape, RICH and a beautiful smile and a BIG... ;-)
David87 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Go for it if it makes you happy and makes u get over your BU faster.It's all about you now. 1
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Alright!! I texted him! I still have his number lol We will see what happens. I need a date for New Years anyway! :-) 1
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Well you ex is over you if you have that attitude. So so sad. One born every minute.Yea he is handsome. And he emailed me first. He has a full head of hair, tall, in shape, RICH and a beautiful smile and a BIG... ;-) 1
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Well you ex is over you if you have that attitude. So so sad. One born every minute. What...???? My ex is over me if I have that attitude? One born every minute?
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Need i go on? I dont think so. Take care.What...???? My ex is over me if I have that attitude? One born every minute?
Mariposa10 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Alright!! I texted him! I still have his number lol We will see what happens. I need a date for New Years anyway! :-) So it's not just for sex then? I would be careful trying to replace an ex of three years so fast....It's better to deal with the pain right now than later. Take things really really slow with this new guy because it hasn't even been a week since you moved out of your boyfriend's. You might be wanting to "snap out of it." I don't know how healthy that is. 3
David87 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Well, I recently joined a dating site. Right now, it's just for fun and to gain back my self esteem by all the messages I get from men. It's flattering nonetheless. But there is this one guy...who is *so* sexy and we've been talking back and forth. I'm not interested in a relationship, but a girl has her needs...if you know what I mean. Would this be a dumb idea? She said she is not interested in a relationship with this guy, it's just for sex. 1
NoLeafClover Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Yea he is handsome. And he emailed me first. He has a full head of hair, tall, in shape, RICH and a beautiful smile and a BIG... ;-) I couldn't help but notice you capitalized RICH....So are you into rich guys cuz they're good in bed, or are you into RICH guys because you feel more secure in a relationship....which you apparently are not looking for. You know money don't make your penis bigger.... 7
Chi townD Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Well, I recently joined a dating site. Right now, it's just for fun and to gain back my self esteem by all the messages I get from men. It's flattering nonetheless. But there is this one guy...who is *so* sexy and we've been talking back and forth. I'm not interested in a relationship, but a girl has her needs...if you know what I mean. Would this be a dumb idea? If you are still healing over the demise of your relationship, then yes. It's a bad idea. A lot of times; it will feel good for the moment. But afterwards, you're left feeling more empty and alone. You'll feel worse. I mean, you even wrote that you have low self esteem since the break up and getting these nice comments from guys feels good. Then, I wouldn't. I don't believe your ready for that yet. Just my opinion though. Hey, I went through it too. After my girlfriend cheated on me and dumped me. I was a mess and it took me a long time to get to a level with a girl that I was comfortable enough to be intimate with her. I mean, sure I dated and had fun, but I didn't take it to that level until I was ready. And it took damn near 1.5 years before I was intimate again. And thank God the girl was understanding that it has been a while for me because that FIRST time, I think I was a two minute wonder. BUT! after 15 minutes and a ham sandwich, I was ready for ....uhhh....you know. Lets just say it was a LONG and enjoyable night for both of us! 2
Isadora Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Think about it very carefully. Some people don't see just sex as plain as that. I've recently found out that my ex had a series of ONS's less than a week after we broke up. He said none of them made him feel better and he just got worse. Now he wants me back and I have to tell you, it's not so easy to take someone back when you find out how easy it was for them to sleep with other people so soon after the BU. Just be careful and make sure this is what you really want. Once it's done there's no going back, and it might provide you rest-bite for a while but it might not make you better in the long run. 4
Mariposa10 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I couldn't help but notice you capitalized RICH....So are you into rich guys cuz they're good in bed, or are you into RICH guys because you feel more secure in a relationship....which you apparently are not looking for. You know money don't make your penis bigger.... From that, sounds like OP is angry at her ex. OP, don't do it for "revenge." Otherwise you'll feel bad afterwards. It's good to talk to guys, it can help you with your self-esteem.
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 I couldn't help but notice you capitalized RICH....So are you into rich guys cuz they're good in bed, or are you into RICH guys because you feel more secure in a relationship....which you apparently are not looking for. You know money don't make your penis bigger.... Rich...I just thought I'd state that he was...idk. I don't normally go for rich guys, but it's a plus I guess. And his penis is big enough. lol And this guy is not relationship material. It would just be meaningless fun. I guess, deep down inside, I want to have rebound to let go of my ex and because I know he is sleeping with other people (since he said he is looking for tight pussies). I think it would hurt me less if I slept with other people too. I mean, not other people, just one guy. I'm a horny girl and I have my needs, why not go back to an old flame?? There are several reasons why I want to have sex with this guy. Sex is just sex, right?
Mariposa10 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 This bird is frankly bonkers. I think this is part of the breakup... Our feelings are all over the place...
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I agree but she has posted so much bollocks that its hard to know...who is the sorry party, my money is on....... I think this is part of the breakup... Our feelings are all over the place...
Author BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 From that, sounds like OP is angry at her ex. OP, don't do it for "revenge." Otherwise you'll feel bad afterwards. It's good to talk to guys, it can help you with your self-esteem. Revenge? He would never know I had sex with this guy. I would never let him know, I'm not looking to make him jealous or to hurt him. The sex would be for me. And we aren't ever getting back together, so it doesn't matter what my ex thinks of me. Haydn...oh haydn...I don't understand you. I'll think about it first. I just want to get over him is all...and I know he is going to sleep with other girls and that hurts me...I guess I want to be able to move on like he is. Plus, have I said that I'm horny?!?
Mariposa10 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I agree but she has posted so much bollocks that its hard to know...who is the sorry party, my money is on....... That's the thing that she posts everything, that's why it looks crazy. OP, just take your time. That's all I can say. Take care of your needs and see if you feel the same after you've done that If more people were to rub one out before making any decisions, this world would be a better place
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