bob the brave Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Just curious, how important is drinking to your socialization when it comes to dating? Do your activities together often involve having a drink or more? Hard stuff, just a beer, wine? Do you go to bars, talk and drink for hours? Have just a few drinks to relax? Could you date someone who dosen't drink much just because they don't like it, or would you consider that lame or anti-social?
Philosoraptor Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Not much on drinking. Never been on a date where drinking was involved. So zero. Alcohol has zero impact in my dating experience.
veggirl Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I drink. My bf didn't drink AT ALL when we first started dating. Now he will drink but when I met him he didn't at all. I thought it was interesting......I'd never met someone who didn't drink! I was fine with it though. So, no our activities didn't involve any alcohol and I liked that cause I felt like we were more creative with thinking of things to do since it seems like a lot of people's "go-to" is dinner & drinks. I'd be fine dating a non-drinker again (although hopefully that is never a necessity as I won't be single again lol) Well, as long as they were okay with me drinking if I wanted to. I mean there were a couple times we went out (like to a concert for example) where I had some drinks and he didnt. He didn't care. If he was upset or offended if I drank then that'd be a dealbreaker.
Keenly Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I don't drink and I don't like to drink , but on that first date I NEED one to combat the shyness.
MissBee Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Just curious, how important is drinking to your socialization when it comes to dating? Do your activities together often involve having a drink or more? Hard stuff, just a beer, wine? Do you go to bars, talk and drink for hours? Have just a few drinks to relax? Could you date someone who dosen't drink much just because they don't like it, or would you consider that lame or anti-social? I am a social drinker and most of my socializing naturally includes some wine or a cocktail or a beer, but it isn't something I need neither is it something I care if other people do. I have 2 friends who don't drink and I suppose it can be awkward for them as people assume they do and are always offering them drinks and when they're hanging out everyone else drinks, but no one judges them for it. They decline and people move on and it's not a big deal. I think it is lame for adults to peer pressure other people into drinking or act like they're lame because they don't choose to. It's a personal preference and I don't judge anyone for it. The guy I last dated wasn't a drinker.He drank this one kind of wine once in a while but aside from that didn't drink anything else and it was fine with me. I don't care if a man drinks or not, so long as it isn't a case where he is scolding me or judging me if I choose to drink.
Phoe Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I've never been on a date that involved drinking. I only ever drink once every 2 or 3 months anyway. I have nothing against having drinks as long as it's reasonable, I just don't find it happening often. My boyfriend was a bit of a drinker during his time in the navy and no longer drinks. He says he wants to see me drunk but we both know there's no reason to tempt him into drinking again when he's really in a good place right now not drinking. I could easily live the rest of my life without another drink, wouldn't bat an eyelash
mammasita Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I don't think alcohol should have any importance when it comes to dating......it's nice to have a drink or two, but not a good thing to use as a crutch. Just be you I speak from experience and many lessons learned
d0nnivain Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 We met in a bar so in some way it played a large part. I wasn't drinking because I was driving. We both enjoy a cocktail or two. There's a line from a country song called Alcohol that says something about helping white people dance . . . but for a drink my husband would probably never dance with me. lol
MidwestUSA Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 There's a line from a country song called Alcohol that says something about helping white people dance . . . but for a drink my husband would probably never dance with me. lol Brad Paisley 1
devilish innocent Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I was never a drinker so I never drank on any of my dates. I would just occasionally drink a little if I was with a group of friends who were drinking. Sometimes there would be a guy I liked in the group, and the alcohol would help me loosen up a little so I could flirt with him more than I usually would. That's the most impact alcohol had on my love life. I would have been okay dating somebody who drank moderately in social situations, but a heavy drinker would definitely worry me.
jba10582 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 you can find people on all points of that spectrum, and, it becomes as important as you want it to be. I've kind of completely laid off the hard alcohol altogether, as, I used to be a bourbon snob somewhat, but, I think the liver function has more valuable ways of dealing with things that my normal intelligence can gather.
todreaminblue Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Just curious, how important is drinking to your socialization when it comes to dating? Do your activities together often involve having a drink or more? Hard stuff, just a beer, wine? Do you go to bars, talk and drink for hours? Have just a few drinks to relax? Could you date someone who dosen't drink much just because they don't like it, or would you consider that lame or anti-social? i havent had a problem with not drinking...most of my dates have been drinkers......they dont harass me to drink....friends do more than dates...i still dont drink......and i dont need to get drunk to have fun....deb
Elliotte Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 When it came to meeting someone for a date, I'd usually invite the woman out to a bar. Something about a place with dim lighting and a nice drink or two really sets the stage for a nice conversation, especially if you're first getting acquainted. I also used to get a lot of dates through hosting house parties, including meeting my wife. And there were certainly times where I was the fun party host, grabbing guests together for a round of shots, playing beer pong, etc. Now I drink a lot less, nor do I go to bars often or have parties as much...busy putting energy into more important things in life. I wouldn't say alcohol is important to dating, but there is no denying that it can be helpful.
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