Crazy Crab Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 found out through the grapevine she is already dating someone else. i'm pretty bummed about it. it sucks hearing about all the things they are doing together. when i was on facebook, all pictures that i was tagged in on my ex's family and friends are all deleted. makes me feel like i'm being erased and forgotten. i'm not as hurt as i would be when we first broke up, but i'm still angry about her putting effort into this rebound, and not wanting to make our relationship work. whats your guys' view on this? will this rebound last? will she realise the grass isn't greener?
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Dont find out anything! Stay aloof and stop checking any social media. Delete delete. Stay out of harms way my friend. QUOTE=Crazy Crab;5413879]found out through the grapevine she is already dating someone else. i'm pretty bummed about it. it sucks hearing about all the things they are doing together. when i was on facebook, all pictures that i was tagged in on my ex's family and friends are all deleted. makes me feel like i'm being erased and forgotten. i'm not as hurt as i would be when we first broke up, but i'm still angry about her putting effort into this rebound, and not wanting to make our relationship work. whats your guys' view on this? will this rebound last? will she realise the grass isn't greener? 1
Author Crazy Crab Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 i know i shouldn't have been snooping. i wanted to send a text to her saying "i found out you're seeing someone, good luck with that." i just wanted to hear it from her.
organizedchaos Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 found out through the grapevine she is already dating someone else. i'm pretty bummed about it. it sucks hearing about all the things they are doing together. when i was on facebook, all pictures that i was tagged in on my ex's family and friends are all deleted. makes me feel like i'm being erased and forgotten. i'm not as hurt as i would be when we first broke up, but i'm still angry about her putting effort into this rebound, and not wanting to make our relationship work. whats your guys' view on this? will this rebound last? will she realise the grass isn't greener? None of us are fortune tellers so we don't know if this rebound will last.
InnocentMan Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Don't make yourself crazy wondering what she is up to now. Assume she met someone, fell in love, got married, and is expecting twins. If it makes you feel better, you can also assume in 2 years, her husband got bored, cheated on her, and she spends all her days thinking about you. She might be happy, she might be miserable. The point is, none of it should affect you. You won't be content until you find this state of mind. Fretting about her won't help you get there. 1
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 So she tells you? `He is better than you?` How would you feel?? Ignorence is bliss. Really. i know i shouldn't have been snooping. i wanted to send a text to her saying "i found out you're seeing someone, good luck with that." i just wanted to hear it from her.
Lilo85 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 It's really hard to admit, but if he's already with someone else and has posted it online is because she doesn't care if you see it or not. If she really loved you, or even wanted a future friendship with you.... well, she wouldn't do that so soon. Best thing you can do is ask someone you trust to change your Facebook password and email. Delete her phone number, her emails. Everything. Do not give yourself the opportunity of being weak.
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 She broke up, anything she does is her business. Move away and stop looking for reasons. It's really hard to admit, but if he's already with someone else and has posted it online is because she doesn't care if you see it or not. If she really loved you, or even wanted a future friendship with you.... well, she wouldn't do that so soon. Best thing you can do is ask someone you trust to change your Facebook password and email. Delete her phone number, her emails. Everything. Do not give yourself the opportunity of being weak. 1
Author Crazy Crab Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 It's really hard to admit, but if he's already with someone else and has posted it online is because she doesn't care if you see it or not. If she really loved you, or even wanted a future friendship with you.... well, she wouldn't do that so soon. Best thing you can do is ask someone you trust to change your Facebook password and email. Delete her phone number, her emails. Everything. Do not give yourself the opportunity of being weak. the thing she's trying hard not for me to find out. she blocked me on facebook and everywhere and i found out through someone else. she's not rubbing it in my face or anything like that..
barky2 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Like rd said, find someone yourself. I've been where you're at, and went thru it all. Get it wet dude. Go have some fun. Barky 1
loversquarrel Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 i know i shouldn't have been snooping. I wanted to send a text to her saying "i found out you're seeing someone, good luck with that." i just wanted to hear it from her. do not under any circumstance do the above. You will look stoo-pid and pathetic. 1
StyleOnEm Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Some people aren't meant to stay in our lives forever my dude. Take the lessons you learned from the relationship & become a better man for the next relationship.
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 youre looking at it wrong. the more she does that stuff, the more youre allowed to go do it too. trust me, yes it sucks, but you wont be thinking of her when youre having fun with someone else. life is hard. deal with it, don't let it deal with you. talk out your feelings, and all will be well shortly. the pain you feel, weve all felt. it hurts, but in the end, it goes away. youll be fine.
2fargone Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 found out through the grapevine she is already dating someone else. i'm pretty bummed about it. it sucks hearing about all the things they are doing together. when i was on facebook, all pictures that i was tagged in on my ex's family and friends are all deleted. makes me feel like i'm being erased and forgotten. i'm not as hurt as i would be when we first broke up, but i'm still angry about her putting effort into this rebound, and not wanting to make our relationship work. whats your guys' view on this? will this rebound last? will she realise the grass isn't greener? How would you know it's a rebound ? How would you know the grass actually isn't greener ? You seem pretty self-centered.... Her life really doesn't revolve around you. 1
WhiteTan Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 (edited) Who knows if this current relationship is gonna work or not? maybe it will, maybe it won't.. but if this relationship doesn't last, that doesn't mean she won't end up marrying the next guy she meets after him. regardless of what her situation is, it's time to stop worrying about her life and start focusing on yours. if she doesn't want to give things another chance with you, there's nothing you can do but move on. because one day she WILL eventually find the guy who she's meant to be with and if that guy isn't you, it's gonna hurt like hell when they find eachother if you're still holding on in any way, shape, or form. let her go because she let you go. if it's meant to be, you'll find your way back to eachother. if it isn't, you'll find your way to something better but only if you can accept things for what they are. Edited December 21, 2013 by WhiteTan
Author Crazy Crab Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 How would you know it's a rebound ? How would you know the grass actually isn't greener ? You seem pretty self-centered.... Her life really doesn't revolve around you. well i don't know for sure. its just info i got from my friend. all he told me is that she's posting a lot of pics with this dude, who i never heard of. they are even traveling together
Author Crazy Crab Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 let her go because she let you go. if it's meant to be, you'll find your way back to eachother. if it isn't, you'll find your way to something better but only if you can accept things for what they are. you sound like my ex. she said something exactly like that. she said "maybe one day fate will make us meet again, and we mean something to each other."
TylerDurdenn Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 you sound like my ex. she said something exactly like that. she said "maybe one day fate will make us meet again, and we mean something to each other." She doesn't mean any of that, she doesn't love you or want you, she has moved on. I'm dreading the day I hear about my ex with somebody else, but it's going to happen and I have to be mentally strong at that moment. Keep your head up and have fun! 1
Trapito Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 you sound like my ex. she said something exactly like that. she said "maybe one day fate will make us meet again, and we mean something to each other." She said this to ease her own guilt. Ask your friends to NOT update you anymore. You don't need to hear how happy she is. I only post happy and nice things on fb, I don't put any weepy, sad, sobbing stuff on there. Maybe she is happy, maybe she's trying to convince herself and others she's happy. You and others beside her don't know anything that goes on in her head. Just let it go. I know it's hard, I do. Don't let this break your spirit. Occupy your mind with something else.
WhiteTan Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 you sound like my ex. she said something exactly like that. she said "maybe one day fate will make us meet again, and we mean something to each other." It was her choice not to be in your life anymore, not fate's, so she has no right to say that.
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