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Not really sure what I'm looking for. I want to share this piece:

 

After dating for two and a half years, my 18 year old girlfriend dumped me on September 18th. She started dating a man she had just recently met. On December 5th, she married him, so about two and a half months after breaking it off with me.

 

She knew I was saving up for a ring.

 

I am feeling okay about it. I just wanted to share and see if anyone has any similiar stories?

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You dodged a bullet.

 

Congratulations.

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I try to remind myself of that often haha

 

I messaged her my congratulations, simply because there is no hope from me anymore for reconciliation. She then explained it wasn't because she was pregnant and that this 27 year old is the one.

 

The strangest thing..:)

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Yikes. I don't see that marriage lasting.

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Yeah I think so also, but I didn't know if it was because of my ego or because of my logical mind talking.

 

Has anybody ever dealt with something like this?

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It might last forever, it might end next week. Just be grateful it's not you. I can imagine an older woman doing this, but 18? Wow.

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She then explained it wasn't because she was pregnant and that this 27 year old is the one.

 

Bahaha!

 

Right.

 

She's in the throes of passion and wrapped up in chemistry. It'll fade. It always does, and then we'll see how certain she is.

 

It might last forever, it might end next week. Just be grateful it's not you. I can imagine an older woman doing this, but 18? Wow.

 

Agree on the fact that he should be grateful. However, I find the concept of "the one" to be the domain of the immature - I find the idea of making any kind of commitment while still in the honeymoon period (so somewhere between the first year or two) to be even more so. Immaturity isn't necessarily bound to age.

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Not really sure what I'm looking for. I want to share this piece:

 

After dating for two and a half years, my 18 year old girlfriend dumped me on September 18th. She started dating a man she had just recently met. On December 5th, she married him, so about two and a half months after breaking it off with me.

 

She knew I was saving up for a ring.

 

I am feeling okay about it. I just wanted to share and see if anyone has any similiar stories?

I had heard that her parents had looked a guy for her, don't know what happened then, it was about 7 months ago. And it was a mutual friend who told me, who i lost too in matter of weeks.

 

Never heard anything from her anyway, it's like 1 year now.

 

Always curious what's happening to her, what she would be doing, and so on, but she probably never think of me.

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lol. this is weird. really cant be explained. 18 yo married after 2.5 months.

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Yeah, weird for sure. That's why I was looking for some kind of opinion or logic or something lol. I feel pretty good most of the time but I have moments where I feel terrible, especially since our 2.5 years were problem free and she left because she had to "see if she can be strong without me"

 

Idk but it's like she went right off the deep end.

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bro, i didnt read any other of your threads and dont know your full story. are you sure this new guy appeared only after the break up? maybe she was talking to him while she's with you? if not, then she's only being impulsive and took this rebound too seriously.

well if i had a sister or a close friend that wud do the same ill do anything to prevent a marriage based on 2.5 month relationship after a break up of 2.5 years relationship.

ur lucky ur not the man she married. cuz he might face bigger problems than you.

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I'm 100% sure.

 

She only met him in early September. The reason I know this is because she told me when they met and I've actually met this guy. She didn't met him until she started college (we go to the same college) and that was this semester. He also started college this semester and they met at a fraternity/sorority event. So if she was talking to this guy before then she must be some sort of magician.

 

At most they could known each other for about four months before marrying.

 

And her mom seems okay with it even though she wanted us to wait. But that's probably because she knows that her daughter has to make her own mistakes.

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My ex started dating a month after moving out of our house than got married within six months. We were together just shy of 5 yrs. The only reason I knew this was because she called me both times so I wouldn't hear it through the grapevine....

I was dumbstruck at first but the more days that go by realize I need to live my life & what goes on for her is none of my business anymore. Better to focus the energy on my life and make it the Best. Why would I want to be with someone who obviously doesn't want to be with me? Who knows why they do the stuff they do? I guess because they can.

I agree with the comment that you dodge a bullet. I did too. Hang in there it gets better for sure.

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I try to remind myself of that often haha

 

I messaged her my congratulations, simply because there is no hope from me anymore for reconciliation. She then explained it wasn't because she was pregnant and that this 27 year old is the one.

 

The strangest thing..:)

 

Wow, classy thing to do. Good on ya mate! Shows there is a lightyear of emotional maturity between you two. I always thought, when it comes to romance, women are much more instinctive creatures, not logical at all. So, don't think on this too hard. Love is not magic, a feeling, at some point loving someone is a conscious commitment of heart and mind and this is what she fails to see and why if she succeeds it will be blind luck.

 

You need someone more grounded, that can appreciate your level of maturity. I had a boss that was married 5 times and loved each one of them! As soon as they would break up, he would find another almost immediately. I couldn't do that but, ironically, he seemed to be one of the happiest, well-adjusted, most popular people I have ever met. People like this just don't let it bother them and move on. Easer said than done. I could never do that, but those people I know who could seemed to fare the best.

 

Just let her go and get back out there step by step

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Who gets married at 18 these days? And then we complain for the rising number of divorces...

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I'm 100% sure.

 

She only met him in early September. The reason I know this is because she told me when they met and I've actually met this guy. She didn't met him until she started college (we go to the same college) and that was this semester. He also started college this semester and they met at a fraternity/sorority event. So if she was talking to this guy before then she must be some sort of magician.

 

 

So the new guy is 27 years old and goes to Frat parties, it seems like your ex and the new cat are very very very immature. I lived across the street from a frat in college, these guys acted like they were 10 but were all between 18-22 years of age. Your ex's new man must be a slow learner, like someone stated earlier, you dodged a bullet. You are young, you will meet someone better, you have to, it doesn't get any worse than this, lol.

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Who gets married at 18 these days? And then we complain for the rising number of divorces...

 

Yeah, who does that at 18???????? That marriage is doomed from jump street!

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Who gets married at 18 these days? And then we complain for the rising number of divorces...

 

People who have found their "SoulMates" -_-

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People who have found their "SoulMates" -_-

 

I have seen many soul mates who fight in courts about who will take the couch. :rolleyes:

 

I don't want a soul mate. I want someone different than me who will love me, care for me and make sacrifices for me.

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