reginald_thm Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Over the summer I had a one night stand with a girl. We continued to hook up for a few weeks, but didn't really go on any dates. After a month and half, she didn't text me back once and I figured that was that. Fast forward to now. I hit her up last weekend and we went on an actual date last night for dinner. I didn't really ask about why she stopped talking to me last time, but she said she was "mad" at someone. I'm assuming it was another guy she was into but feelings weren't reciprocated or confused. So I guess my question is, now that she is interested again and not confused with some other dude, is it safe to try to date this girl? Or should I expect the same thing again?
soccerrprp Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Good luck. I would never get back in contact with someone who faded out on me for a month. You weren't her first choice and she certainly was not prepared to make you a commitment. She's back b/c her "better" choice didn't reciprocate. She responded to you b/c she had no one else at the moment interested in her. Once a better option comes along, you're history....again. 4
Author reginald_thm Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Yeah, I kinda thought that too but we weren't really dating, just sort of a FWB kinda thing which is why I wasn't really banged up about it. I guess the only thing I can do is be forward with what I want out of it the next time I see her and she what the deal is. 1
rocketman122 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 you were intimate with her while she was with someone else?
winny Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Not a great idea.... Why would you wanna date someone who clearly doesn't consider you as her first choice. I agree with those who think she met you coz there was no better option available. 1
emva07 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 not a good and stable start for a relationship.
Phantom888 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 You can't expect a serious or even mildly decent relationship with someone who is so casual. Unless of course you just want a fling. 1
Author reginald_thm Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 agreeing with everyone here. i'll treat it as a casual fling while i look for better options. not going to push it into a relationship.
todreaminblue Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 i think if you set boundaries and dont wear your heart on your sleeve you can date this girl.....thats my opinion...if you really like her.....how is it different from a girl who has dated a few months before but it didnt work out with that date?......everyone who is dating normally has had some disappointment when they thought it would work and it didnt....only your first relationship or date you had will be a first choice....everybody nearly...dates again....its not a matter of being second best..unless you feel you are........deb
truth_seeker Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I would flip it on this bitch. She doesn't respect you and is using you only as a last resort option. Play her. Let her think she has you wrapped around her finger... then let her know you're done with her. "I like you but I met someone else who just does it better for me. Best of luck!" She'll probably want to kill you and might come after you, but this girl needs to learn a lesson to not play with people's emotions.
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