Guitarisgood Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Facebook, whatsapp, msn or just normal phone texts. What do you guys think? Do they play a role in dating much? Obviously for us younger generations they are a great way to organise dates but besides that, I feel that texting kills relationships. Would love to ask girls if they can get to know someone and fall for someone via text - obviously from my point of view, NO. So many times I feel people over text and then end up just friends. What do you guys think?
d0nnivain Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I came of age way before all that stuff & was happily married by the time they became mainstream or even popular on college campuses. I think that used correctly technology is a wonderful tool but I think too many young people hide behind it & don't know how to socialize or interact in person, face to face & that is a huge loss for everybody. 1
TylerDurdenn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I hate texting girls, I'd much rather have a 10 minute conversation on the phone than text eachother pointlessly for the whole day. Oh and I usually get bored and forget to text back 2
PegNosePete Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I feel that texting kills relationships. No, texting does not kill relationships. People kill relationships. Texting, facebook, IM etc are tools that people can use to communicate (or not). If a couple sends texts instead of talking and the relationship fails due to lack of communication, who is to blame? The mobile phone network, or the piece of metal and plastic? No. If you want your relationship to last then you need to communicate. The tools you choose to use - telephone, text, facebook or real life - are up to the two of you to decide. If one or both of you is not happy with your communications then you need to find a new method. Blaming texting is quite ridiculous. Blame the person who chooses not to communicate in a way that satisfies the other party. 2
ponchsox Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I want to get to know someone through personal interaction, not texting and social media. 2
Leigh 87 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Texting can sometimes be an indication of a guys level of interest; ie, some guys text daily and regularly to girls they are into, versus ignoring girls they are not much into. Interest levels aside, no, I personally don't fall in any kind of "love" via texting! Falling for someone is determined solely through PHYSICALLY being with them, or talking to then via phone over a long period of time. I would say falling and feeling REAL feelings is only authentic when it is physically driven.
rocketman122 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 texting was a "filler" for times we were busy and didnt have time to talk. so you send a quick text to let the person know you think about them even though youre very busy. and then youre able to talk later in the evening. we spoke, at least, 3 times on the phone and at least 3 texts a day. not the norm, I know.
manders_01 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 While I'm old enough to have started dating pre cell phones, I'm thankful for them. I have major phone anxiety (calling my closest friends and family sometimes takes me hours to get the nerve to do) so texting works best for me. I have done both new relationships with phone or text being the main form of communication and all of them have come out about the same. However, I understand that the easiest way to have a true conversation rather than just an interaction is via the phone. My preference is to skip that and do those face to face. That's just what makes me the most comfortable.
soccerrprp Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 No, texting does not kill relationships. People kill relationships. Texting, facebook, IM etc are tools that people can use to communicate (or not). If a couple sends texts instead of talking and the relationship fails due to lack of communication, who is to blame? The mobile phone network, or the piece of metal and plastic? No. If you want your relationship to last then you need to communicate. The tools you choose to use - telephone, text, facebook or real life - are up to the two of you to decide. If one or both of you is not happy with your communications then you need to find a new method. Blaming texting is quite ridiculous. Blame the person who chooses not to communicate in a way that satisfies the other party. I agree with this for the most part. I text my gf daily and as often as I feel I need to. Yes, we talk and good gracious, we didn't get to this stage in our relationship through texting, but it was and is a tool for brief forms of communication. Your style and inadequate frequency of communication is what kills relationships. One of the first things a couple should talk about is how, when are we going to communicate. What are my needs? How do you feel about....? But, personally, I would have an issue with someone who relies too heavily on electronic forms of communication when more serious, intimate things need to be discussed. I will not date someone who cannot (will not) pick up the phone and have a normal conversation. I will not date someone who cannot have a reasonable conversation face-to-face. All in all, each method has its purpose.
bene Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 For me texting is for quick change of practical information or just a nice way to let someone know that they're on your mind. It doesn't replace other interactions and it is not the means to get to know someone. Short and sweet messages are nice, lenghty conversations via texting are draining.
OrangeSnack Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I think it's pretty difficult to communicate with someone without using some form of technology. I think balance is key. You can't overuse technology as the only form of communication. Telephone calls are great. It's a pity that the younger generation rarely uses telephone as a form of calling. It's so odd, i'm 27 and I text/call. I always thought I preferred calling over texting but in the past 5 years of my life, the introduction of smart phones, my career, life, has drastically changed. I found that texting to be much easier. I can respond faster and it costs less. (I'm a frugal person). However, I will pick up the phone to call good friends, the ones I like/pursuing, and parents. It's always nice to hear my partners voice over the phone and I always compliment them how I missed their voices. My cousins who are a generation younger than me are completely GLUED to their phones. I mean at family events or holiday dinners, my younger cousins would all hang out in the living room with their eyes glued to their phones. Where as my older cousin and myself are either socializing or talking to our grandparents. I kind of fear that our younger generation is lacking social skills because of technology. Especially in the future I fear that my kids will be like my little cousins. In other words, there needs to be a balance.
Phantom888 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I was dating in college, during a time when there was no cellphones or texting. We used pagers, but that was one-way communication mostly. I must say, dating with texting is a whole lot easier. For one thing, you can make last minute changes without panic.
GoreSP Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I think it's a good way of keeping in touch with our partner...but both partners have to be on the same 'wavelength' on this one... My current partner hates messaging through phone (he told me right when we met) and takes a while to answer texts - so I text him only when I have a question or want to make plans - never to 'chat' Last partner would text me all.the.time. Both were fine...
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