ScarlettWings Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 So i am very confused about whats going on with my Ex and I on Dec 6th he broke it off with me because he felt he pushed himself too fast into something. It wasnt because he didnt care about me or wasnt attracted to me because he was he was just scared and had doubt and didnt want to keep the relationship going while he felt like that. So we decided okay lets be friends because we both still want each other in each others lives. At first it was awkward but then we started talking some more Via text and then went out as a group with frinds to see the new Hobbit movie. Well instead of sitting beside any of our other friends he sat down beside me and was acting as if we were still together teasing and sharing my popcorn and drinks. So i thought maybe he had rethought things over well the next day imessaged him asking if he could please being me my things from his place as i do need them he said yeah sure, Ended up forgetting them at his place but instead fo wasting gas i offered for him to stay and we can just watch a movie or play games as friends. Well one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together and it was the most passionate sex ive ever had. Afterwords i clued into what had happened and i asked him what this meant and he told me he didnt know he wasnt planning on that to have happened and he needed some time to process and wanted to see how the next few days went. Well its been two days now and we have talked a bit through text but he seems very reserved now. I am going to be seeing him tonight to talk about this because i have no idea what he is to me now like i do want him back, i told him that but this is really up to him as he is the one who left me to start with. Advice? I really am confused here.
thompkevin Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Oh sweetheart, I am sorry to break this to you but he was planning on that to happen. He knows you are not over him and would sleep with him if he manipulates you. And that's what he is doing. The first and most important thing you should know is to not sleep with him again unless he commits. Otherwise, you will just end up being his FWB. Also, start no contact for a while and give yourself some time to figure out what you want. (Read more about it here). This will also give him some time to miss you and will make him realize that you are not going to wait for him forever.
jackiedandy Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Yes, some people will keep you around for all the benefits. No Contact will give you some time to think about whether this is right for you or not. Maybe there's a way you can influence your ex into thinking you have much more to offer than a booty call.
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