Need some .

[Charlingo1]

Hello,

I'm new to things like this, I've never been in a position to ask for advice or help. But it never hurts to get some.

I won't right a massive essay about me and my life because I find it hard to put into words exactly what's happened. So I'll summarise it.

Myself (18) and my ex (17), now I know we're young, and I will have many harder things to go through in life, but this right now is something which is really hard for me. Anyway, broke up last night on the phone, we have been together for two years, I also had a girlfriend before her for 3 years. This relationship was different, she had an ED(eating disorder) when I met her, she also used to cut herself and tried to kill herself twice (before me). As bad as it sounds I feel that because I helped her through this and fixed her up that we became so close, and it was true, we were inseparable. This was also bad, I pushed away all my friends, because I'm at the age were we go out drinking and stuff, I didn't, I don't like alcohol, I don't like parties or anything like that. However she was the opposite, she never really went out to party's, but when she did I would just worry. Let's get back on track now... So we broke up, me and her family are so close, I helped her mum battle cancer and her dad nearly died in a car crash, and we went through it all together, we never argued once. I was a dick to her towards the end, I used to tease her about boys that she texted or text her, even if they were a friend, which was the main reason, I pushed her away. Now we've broken up I'm scared to lose not only her forever but her family. She told me that she never wants to lose me, that I'm like family( alarm bells went off, went from her first love into the friend zone) and she wants to stay in contact with me like every day talking. I agreed because I don't want to lose her either, I know it's stupid because the way to get over her would be the NC rule. But I can't do it, I just can't.

 

I hope this makes sense, I'm dyslexic, so I'm not good at typing long things together. Any help no matter how little would be helpful.

Thank you

[sw2020]

Did she break up with you? If so, probably a good idea to get some space and perspective on your own with NC.

 

You can't have your heart broken and then still expect to be in a strong position to support her, even if you feel that is your job.

 

Good luck dude, not an easy one at all.

[Charlingo1]

Did she break up with you? If so, probably a good idea to get some space and perspective on your own with NC.

 

You can't have your heart broken and then still expect to be in a strong position to support her, even if you feel that is your job.

 

Good luck dude, not an easy one at all.

 

Yeah she did, but I kind of expected it.

I understand what you mean, everyone's telling me that, but I want to remain close with her. She knows I'm not in a strong position, I can walk whenever I just don't want too.

Thanks

[Simplysimon]

Listen your young. Staying with one girl from a young age is not good. You will get urges when older of GIGs else.

 

Anyway to fix your situation. If a girl wants space give it to her. If a girl pushes you away never ever ever try to pull her back ever. She will pull away further.

Never be put in friends zone. What this does is help her get over you. It eases the guilt, her pain and let's her do what she wants with you knowing and allowing it. Don't do this.

 

Now tell her you love her but you want be her man. Don't let her say anything. Tell her the doors open but your out of here. Now walk away and never contact her in anyway, fb, messenger text anything, drop off the face of the earth. That goes for her friends and family to. She will start to miss you. Don't reply for at least 3 weeks to any thing. Then one day when she contacts just say I don't want to know how your doing, or tell you how I am doing, if you want to get back together all I can promise is to discuss. Then arrange a date not in The day for coffee, at night, lay on the romance and seduce her, show her what's she missed. Do not go back into a beta backsliding jerk. Be a man be in control.

 

I know it's all rubbish but unfortunately it's the way it rolls. You gotta make her miss you..

[Charlingo1]

Listen your young. Staying with one girl from a young age is not good. You will get urges when older of GIGs else.

 

Anyway to fix your situation. If a girl wants space give it to her. If a girl pushes you away never ever ever try to pull her back ever. She will pull away further.

Never be put in friends zone. What this does is help her get over you. It eases the guilt, her pain and let's her do what she wants with you knowing and allowing it. Don't do this.

 

Now tell her you love her but you want be her man. Don't let her say anything. Tell her the doors open but your out of here. Now walk away and never contact her in anyway, fb, messenger text anything, drop off the face of the earth. That goes for her friends and family to. She will start to miss you. Don't reply for at least 3 weeks to any thing. Then one day when she contacts just say I don't want to know how your doing, or tell you how I am doing, if you want to get back together all I can promise is to discuss. Then arrange a date not in The day for coffee, at night, lay on the romance and seduce her, show her what's she missed. Do not go back into a beta backsliding jerk. Be a man be in control.

 

I know it's all rubbish but unfortunately it's the way it rolls. You gotta make her miss you..

 

I want to talk to her. And I want to get over her and her to get over me. That's the problem, I don't want to use the NC rule. I don't any to get back with her atm

[Charlingo1]

It's been really hard this evening, I went to her house to pick everything up, I then went to my car and broke down, I have no clue what todo, please someone help.