Noproblem Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Well, I just noticed that guys will be interested in me for about a week maybe less maybe more! I would pretend I don't see that and then just when I begin thinking about them...... Puff, they are not interested anymore! It's like guys here have a very short interest span! Which makes me a bit upset because why they would care about me and just when I start caring a bit, they decide to look the other way! Like seriously, some girls or boys take time to return the feelings back, call it being complex, playing games or shyness. Still, it's not a button we click and we are interested right away!!!!!! FYI: Yes, I don't look at them at all, but still.....
Fondue Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 It comes down to this: If you don't show someone interest back, why should they continue to be interested in you? Wasted effort/investment/etc. We see it on this thread all the time. From women and from men. "If he/she isn't interested in you, move on and pursue someone else." If you give someone at least a little bit of an opening or something to work with, you will find their interest will linger on for longer. I feel like you probably close all the doors completely. Be it to play hard to get or lack of interest. Who knows? With that said. I have to wonder why it bothers you that they may have short attention spans... Considering you "don't look at them at all." That is some narcissistic thinking right there.
Onethirtyeight Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 If you don't like them then they're seeing that when you doing give them anything to work with. Not many guys are going to hang around a girl that doesn't like them back. That would be a stupid waste of time.
winny Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Well, I just noticed that guys will be interested in me for about a week maybe less maybe more! I would pretend I don't see that and then just when I begin thinking about them...... Puff, they are not interested anymore! It's like guys here have a very short interest span! Which makes me a bit upset because why they would care about me and just when I start caring a bit, they decide to look the other way! Like seriously, some girls or boys take time to return the feelings back, call it being complex, playing games or shyness. Still, it's not a button we click and we are interested right away!!!!!! FYI: Yes, I don't look at them at all, but still..... 1 week is pretty less I would say... if someone is genuinely interested in you and liked you, they would try bit more. But yes, if you do not even answer to a single text they send you, or smile at them ever... then no one will wait even for a week....
soccerrprp Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Why in the world would you think they would be interested after ignoring them for so long (1-week)? Why would you be surprised by this???? 1
Author Noproblem Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 Why they wouldn't be interested after one week or so! I would be interested in someone after one year if I liked him Why you function so differently! Why it's just an investment to you. Why it's not real feeling Seriously! Why it's let's look at this, and this, and that, and that other girl and if by any chance and any luck one of them will look back at us and smile that's a win. As long as you'll get some, it's a win. None, then yeah; let's try else where. I don't know. I admit. You are right, I should look at them, but still I can't just look at any guy just because he seems to be interested What if it's only a game to him and seriously. I know when he looks at me, he probably does the same thing to 10 others. By the time I am kind of sure he is interested after few incidents. He'll be gone. And yes. That's fine by me except I have feelings and then It will takes me 2 weeks or 3 to get over him. So, what I really like .. as an advice, if you are not serious about any girl, to stop staring at her and then change your mind after a week. Prolong it to be 2 weeks or 3. Obviously, if she thinks you are a creep she'll do something to make you know that. Since, she doesn't. It is probably because such things take time and she might like you too but before she give you any signs of that, you already have moved on.
Author Noproblem Posted December 21, 2013 Author Posted December 21, 2013 So, I'm not trying to be sore or anything. But you do have a short interest span and your replies just proved that. Next time anyone interested, I'll just ignore they even exist until the week ends and then they'll return back to their non-existent world just like before.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 When a guy is truly interested you can't beat him off with a stick. It's almost irrelevant what you do unless you tell them "f off". 1
FrankieFrank Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 (edited) If a girl I liked didn't respond to me for a week despite my attempts to get her attention, I'd just assume she isn't interested and move on. This isn't "short interest span", this is "protecting yourself from getting too invested in someone who more than likely doesn't feel the same". I bet if roles were reversed, you'd be doing the same. Besides, looking? You are waaaaay overthinking it. Looking is meaningless, if a girl doesn't even LOOK at you, nevermind actually interacting, there is absolutely nothing to base message "she must be interested in me" on. Even if she looked back that would mean very little, I can look at dozens of people as I walk on the street, doesn't mean I want to marry and have kids with all of them. Not every look is "hungry eyes" thing, and even if it were, if it doesn't materialize into anything else, it's ultimately useless. Edited December 21, 2013 by FrankieFrank 1
StanMusial Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 If a girl I liked didn't respond to me for a week despite my attempts to get her attention, I'd just assume she isn't interested and move on. This isn't "short interest span", this is "protecting yourself from getting too invested in someone who more than likely doesn't feel the same". I bet if roles were reversed, you'd be doing the same. Besides, looking? You are waaaaay overthinking it. Looking is meaningless, if a girl doesn't even LOOK at you, nevermind actually interacting, there is absolutely nothing to base message "she must be interested in me" on. Even if she looked back that would mean very little, I can look at dozens of people as I walk on the street, doesn't mean I want to marry and have kids with all of them. Not every look is "hungry eyes" thing, and even if it were, if it doesn't materialize into anything else, it's ultimately useless. LOL I was thinking the same thing. OP why do you think if someone looks at you, they are interested in anything more than looking at you for that moment? Do you want them to keep staring at you for weeks at a time until you decide if you like them? Then what? You both stand around staring at each other? 1
Onethirtyeight Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 No, you have to understand where we're coming from, as guys in general. Unless you're really something we're not going to give you attention unless you give it to us. So if you're just average and you're not even looking at guys then we're going to lose interest pretty quick because there is nothing you're offering us that we can't go get elsewhere. Or at least that's how it is for me. I'll show a girl I'm interested in that I like her and she either shows me that its worth my time or I move on. Why would I waste time and energy after that point? Also yes I look at multiple women when I'm not in a relationship because women like to play all sorts of convoluted mind games and its not really worth only having one option at a time. 1
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