MixedUpChick Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 (edited) I met my guy on OLD. Love him to pieces. My best friend met her fellow. ( both used Match). I would think that many people meet someone rather quickly. I was the only one my guy messaged. I met 2 others but was still only on the site for a couple of weeks. I live in a city of a million so perhaps there was more initial choice to find the right guy. It's awesome that you met your guy so quickly, but I dislike it when people make this type of generalization. I've been on dating sites for 3 years (off & on) and haven't met anyone great or I wouldn't still be on them. And no, my standards aren't "too high", my standards are actually fairly low. Finding someone on a dating website is a total crapshoot, influenced by factors such as age, hair color, body shape/size, etc. It's definitely not quick & easy for everyone. Edited January 8, 2014 by MixedUpChick 2
ss1891 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Same here. I rec'd about 75 messages and not a single one was creepy. There were a few odd fellows but not in any way that was sexually forward. My best friend the same. She mostly just heard from regular guys. Nothing too weird. Some women claim to get dozens of perverts contacting them...explicit photos, etc. Either they are exaggerating or something in their profile is attracting the perves. Interesting that you make this assumption based on just a couple of experiences. Fact is, when I created my profile, there was nothing about it that could have possibly attracted the pervs. I didn't even answer any of the suggestive questions. However, I still received a lot of inappropriate messages. Please don't make the assumption that every individual's experience is like your own. I had an extremely hard time with those sites so I was forced to close it. It's not easy for all women and it would be silly to believe that just because some have had it easy, all of us have had the same luck. 1
Author GirlovesArt Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 (edited) The guys that i met from the online dating websites asked for sex after the dinner on the first meetup.. It's kinda disappointing. Why is it so hard to meet a noraml guy ?! Edited January 8, 2014 by GirlovesArt
Frank2thepoint Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 The guys that i met from the online dating websites asked for sex after the dinner on the first meetup.. It's kinda disappointing. Why is it so hard to meet a noraml guy ?! Was there any pattern to any of these guys you kept going out with? How did they present themselves online?
Eau Claire Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 The guys that i met from the online dating websites asked for sex after the dinner on the first meetup.. It's kinda disappointing. Why is it so hard to meet a noraml guy ?! Never happened to me once. You might want to review your profile and screen your dates better. My experience is most decent men go out of their way to avoid any sexual innuendos in order to make a woman feel comfortable
Disillusioned Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times: these guys who keep OLD going by paying for it, are all looking for Miss Right Now. But 99 times out of 100, these guys are shootin' for the moon... 'cause they ain't gonna get her.
MixedUpChick Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times: these guys who keep OLD going by paying for it, are all looking for Miss Right Now. But 99 times out of 100, these guys are shootin' for the moon... 'cause they ain't gonna get her. Some guys are apparently looking for Miss Tall Blonde. The funniest/saddest rejection I ever got, was from a guy on OKC who had a nice profile, listed several similar interests, etc. I sent him an opening message mentioning some of our shared interests, he sent me a polite response thanking me for my interest but said he didn't think we were a good match. I figured that since he bothered to reply at all, it couldn't hurt to try to get more info. so I sent him a message asking what he was looking for, since our profiles indicated a lot of commonalities. His reply was something like "I'm sorry I don't really have it in my profile, but I'm really looking for a Tall Blonde." When I told my best friend this story, she said "You should have told him we're all tall blondes in the dark."
WP4046 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I think it's better to be online when you are already in a relationship
Thegreatestthing Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Yes honestly the interests etc,profile doesn't matter to men,I had a pretty decent long profile before and some ok cam shots and got messages every hour but not huge amounts. I then added proper photos with make up on,hair out,nice clothes full pictures,and only one sentence on my profile,no listing of any interests or personality at all and I get like a message every minute. They honestly don't care about your profile.
Salvatore85 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Yes honestly the interests etc,profile doesn't matter to men,I had a pretty decent long profile before and some ok cam shots and got messages every hour but not huge amounts. I then added proper photos with make up on,hair out,nice clothes full pictures,and only one sentence on my profile,no listing of any interests or personality at all and I get like a message every minute. They honestly don't care about your profile. I disagree, not all men are this way. I tried it for a bit and basically gave up because I wasn't really over my ex at the time but I specifically searched for profiles that interested me. Sure I looked at cute/attractive females but my idea of cute is probably not the same as the next guys considering we all have different taste. Anyway the point is females are the same way, I only messaged females who I had plenty of things in common with and rarely did I get a response, I'm assuming it's because I'm only 5'5" lol. Everyone gets to be shallow online...
Targetlock Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Its the photos that make me notice, but its the profile that makes me want to contact them, and i always write personal and fun messages but I've so far only only had a few conversations and no dates (around a year of OLD) so yeah its tough but i persevere and its not my only option. And these creepy, pervy men give the rest of us 'normal' guys a bad name it seems. 1
WP4046 Posted February 1, 2014 Posted February 1, 2014 Its the photos that make me notice, but its the profile that makes me want to contact them, and i always write personal and fun messages but I've so far only only had a few conversations and no dates (around a year of OLD) so yeah its tough but i persevere and its not my only option. And these creepy, pervy men give the rest of us 'normal' guys a bad name it seems. I'm the same way. If someone has a negative sounded profile and wants to go to dinner the 1st time I will not contact them 1
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