hotpotato Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Of course, and any action can be perceived in any way by any person at any time according to any mood, differently. The key component with successful men is they *don't care*. They act the way they want to, without care as to how it is received. How they act varies by man, each according to his own standards, experiences and methods. In my demographic, it will be the cat calls, whistles, 'nice ass', etc, etc, along with the lingering stare. Of course, this generally (not always) happens outside of the presence of one's spouse. Where within, it is interesting to observe the 'stimulation' it provides. Having spent a lot of time around married people for nearly 35 years now, and watching them age and change, I find the 'creepy' factor to be a real minor one, generally something to be managed, and I find the wives quite adept at such management. They're really good. And how successful are those cat calls? .0001% success rate?
carhill Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 And how successful are those cat calls? .0001% success rate? Probably less. They don't care. They like doing it so they do. In my examples, they're already successful; they're married. The guy who sits around worrying about what is respectful and what is not and what is well received and what is not merely conscripts himself to a path of analysis, while the catcall guy is smiling, having fun and being 'out there'. Neither gets a reward in life for their path. Both get dead. I guess it's up to each individual who they want to be. 2
hotpotato Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Probably less. They don't care. They like doing it so they do. In my examples, they're already successful; they're married. The guy who sits around worrying about what is respectful and what is not and what is well received and what is not merely conscripts himself to a path of analysis, while the catcall guy is smiling, having fun and being 'out there'. Neither gets a reward in life for their path. Both get dead. I guess it's up to each individual who they want to be. So because they dont care about making people feel uncomfortable, they are successful? What if it's not fun for the individual on the receiving end? 1
xxoo Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 So because they dont care about making people feel uncomfortable, they are successful? What if it's not fun for the individual on the receiving end? Some people enjoy making others squirm, whether it is amusement or thinly veiled hostility. 2
ThatMan Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 So because they dont care about making people feel uncomfortable, they are successful? What if it's not fun for the individual on the receiving end? Then they need to stand up for themselves. We cannot control how other people behave. You can only choose how to respond to others. It's always nice when people are genuine and keep it real. In these cases, you know that you're dealing with a man who doesn't care if he makes other people uncomfortable. I think that's a very important thing to learn about a man.
WP4046 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 And how successful are those cat calls? .0001% success rate? what does it matter if they are already married? Not in my case a guy who is slightly shy and single it wouldn't make much sense. But if you are already married then he has nothing to lose
irc333 Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 what does it matter if they are already married? Not in my case a guy who is slightly shy and single it wouldn't make much sense. But if you are already married then he has nothing to lose Yeah, and it's usually the same married men that say, "I'm married, but I'm not dead! Har Har Har Har!!"
Mrlonelyone Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 So because they dont care about making people feel uncomfortable, they are successful? What if it's not fun for the individual on the receiving end? He's saying in his age group and area married = success in love. So as long as you don't get divorced you are home free.
hotpotato Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 what does it matter if they are already married? Not in my case a guy who is slightly shy and single it wouldn't make much sense. But if you are already married then he has nothing to lose By successful I mean getting the response they want. If they are married why are they doing it? Find a mistress? Irritate random women? Maybe they should go home and catcall the wife...These guys certainly dont act like they are taken. It's not all about him, once again, what about the women he is catcalling? I would think it would make more sense for a single man to do it. A married man already has a woman. Why waste energy chasing women when you already have one? What exactly do men gain by being so disrespectful?
hotpotato Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Then they need to stand up for themselves. We cannot control how other people behave. You can only choose how to respond to others. It's always nice when people are genuine and keep it real. In these cases, you know that you're dealing with a man who doesn't care if he makes other people uncomfortable. I think that's a very important thing to learn about a man. That may be the answer. May have treat them like stalkers though-pretend they aren't there the best you can. I'm starting to wonder if the purpose is to get a rise out of someone.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted December 22, 2013 Author Posted December 22, 2013 I basically pretended that he was not there. I was listening to my ipod but I was just uncomfortable the entire trip :/
RedRobin Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 I basically pretended that he was not there. I was listening to my ipod but I was just uncomfortable the entire trip :/ Next time, try this... stare at the guy blank faced with no expression. Straight on. Don't look away. Look at him like you are taking in every detail of his face like you are going to identify him to the police... or thinking about pulling out the mace. If he says something to you, don't respond. Just keep staring. 9 times out of 10, they will look away or go away themselves. This works on the cat-callers and *ss grabbers too. They are usually big fraidy-cats. That's why they do what they do.
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