napy666 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Do any of you think about that ex that was probably the "1" you really loved and cared about the most and when it ended they moved on to get married, pregnant, and live happily ever after - while you remain single and alone and miserable and you were hoping they would not find someone and get back with you? Or thought that - that ex was the 1 you were truly in love with and cared about so much that you regret it all ending or something. To me yeah I will be honest I checked up on my ex-boyfriend and he found a new girl and she's prego with his kid, and her own daughter from another guy, and they're a happy little family. To me I see this and feel hurt like I wanted that to be me and him but it wasn't. I just keep thinking maybe he was the only guy I will ever love and care for. Maybe there is something wrong with me I don't know. He was the longest relationship for me, I purposed to him too. I guess it also bothers me that my best friend is friends with my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend who is prego. I don't like that at all.
FortunateSon Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 You should change your perspective: you are the one that got away! It is easy to speculate that your ex has moved onto a perfect life of happiness, but that is not realistic, nothing is as it always seems. They have life to deal too.
Elliotte Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Hard not to notice you're conveniently leaving out the details of why you two broke up here... usually a person doesn't "get away", a breakup is for good reason. 1
Author napy666 Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Hard not to notice you're conveniently leaving out the details of why you two broke up here... usually a person doesn't "get away", a breakup is for good reason. He said our time was dead and gone. And he being 25 wanted to live his life as a 25 year old, i.e. drinking, smoking, partying it up. He DID NOT do this after we became a couple, he stopped when we were together but his friends influenced him again so he did it behind my back. And when we broke up we tried working things out but he wanted the party route and I didn't want that or want him to do that so he picked that over me.
Author napy666 Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 You should change your perspective: you are the one that got away! It is easy to speculate that your ex has moved onto a perfect life of happiness, but that is not realistic, nothing is as it always seems. They have life to deal too. Oh please, he has this girl, they got 1 kid and 1 on the way, they got their own house, both of them drive, and he works. Sounds like a happy little life to me.
Elliotte Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 He said our time was dead and gone. And he being 25 wanted to live his life as a 25 year old, i.e. drinking, smoking, partying it up. He DID NOT do this after we became a couple, he stopped when we were together but his friends influenced him again so he did it behind my back. And when we broke up we tried working things out but he wanted the party route and I didn't want that or want him to do that so he picked that over me. Gotcha, so you gave him an ultimatum, he chose the other option (as people tend to do when given a "choose me or else" demand) and now you wish maybe you had been more open to him having his party times? Considering he had wanted to party AND to be with you, you let him 'get away' by forcing him to choose. Am I right?
Author napy666 Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Gotcha, so you gave him an ultimatum, he chose the other option (as people tend to do when given a "choose me or else" demand) and now you wish maybe you had been more open to him having his party times? Considering he had wanted to party AND to be with you, you let him 'get away' by forcing him to choose. Am I right? No I had wish he would of picked me. If the guy picks you over whatever it was, it shows that they loved/cared about you more. If it was me I would have picked the person over the thing.
Noproblem Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 You will find your passion some day somewhere
MidwestUSA Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Oh please, he has this girl, they got 1 kid and 1 on the way, they got their own house, both of them drive, and he works. Sounds like a happy little life to me. The key is 'sounds like'. Think of dirty diapers (you hate kids, right?). She has probably cut him off sexually. They're working on a mountain of debt. Their house has a rodent infestation, and the picket fence is rotting and crumbling. He works because he HAS to. Meanwhile, you're single and carefree. See how I turned that around? 2
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