how to not act like a mother toward your boyfriend

[it'smehello]

i used to not care what my guy was doing, was happy and all. until i noticed that he just makes it in life. he got a CS degree but was one class away from failing out of his major. hes got a job but doesnt do his best. he waits and waits to do something with his life, a slow progression. Otherwise, we are great. but this drives me nuts and i am nagging all the time now. i just want him to be more consistent and plan things out. maybe im in a losing battle. like today he was away from his office and was done with some work at 5pm. work ends at 6. it was a 20 min drive back to the office. he was just going to go home and not call the office. i nagged him to call the office to check in and to not lie about it. i mean come on, isnt that common knowledge? why must he be reminded. he does hate that job but still.

i want to not care. how do i do that.

[Nocturnal]

Chances are, nagging will create the reverse desired effect. I don't know how humans ever came to think that nagging will make people do something. Never worked for me. It can even be so that when I am on my way of doing something and someone tells me do to it, I can lose all interest in doing said thing. So just support the guy and maybe give the occassional suggestion, but don't make it routine and don't nag. Perhaps sit down some day and discuss what you both want out of life, talk about dream job etc. etc. see if he has some place he wants to go but remember to listen, not judge or interrupt if he does start to talk about dreams/goals.