If I give a girl my number to call me I met online, I really don't want her to call

[WP4046]

To be honest, if I am into someone, I will pull over, or I will stay up late, just to talk and laugh with them, lock my office door and call him in the middle of the day. If it means I am tired the next day, that's ok. I try to invest the energy I want invested in me. I don't have time to settle for anything less than butterflies so if I don't have the time to pull over or 15 minutes to an hour to spare, I am just not that into you. I make time when I like someone, whether I have the time or not. Lol. I often get 5 hours of sleep, but we have lazy Saturdays together and he usually lets me sleep and makes breakfast. Then we go and do fun stuff if the weather is ok and hibernate if it sucks and watch movies and cuddle.

 

 

If I don't have that option, I will call just to hear his voice. I have a stupid speaker/microphone thing in my car and I am totally hating it. I usually use my corded headset still. Sometimes I am very busy and I want him to know I am thinking about him. I work 12 hours a day. Sometimes, unless he is at my place already, we wouldn't speak if I didn't call in the car. I cant always pull over and sometimes I am just exhausted. I know he appreciates that more than no call at all.

 

 

I'm talking about if you don't know the guy and calling him for the 1st time. You should be in your home not on the road inside a car

[mrs rubble]

Control freak is saying......."give me a call later when you get home and settled"

 

???

 

That part where you say...."I'm not going to talk to a woman for the first time while she's driving" is the controlling bit....and the justification you offer is the clincher!! Say's loads to me!!

[WP4046]

That part where you say...."I'm not going to talk to a woman for the first time while she's driving" is the controlling bit....and the justification you offer is the clincher!! Say's loads to me!!

 

 

Because how can you show your FULL interest in someone while driving and it' the 1st time yall talked?

[ThatMan]

That part where you say...."I'm not going to talk to a woman for the first time while she's driving" is the controlling bit....and the justification you offer is the clincher!! Say's loads to me!!

As a man who has lost a loved one to texting while driving, I have no problem telling people to stop being idiots. I've also had people call me while bar hopping, while in a concert but still in the venue, and also while working retail with customers yelling at them in the background. I have no problem telling people that I'm uninterested in a conversation that'll never work and they can call back later.

 

It's called being a competent adult.

[WP4046]

As a man who has lost a loved one to texting while driving, I have no problem telling people to stop being idiots. I've also had people call me while bar hopping, while in a concert but still in the venue, and also while working retail with customers yelling at them in the background. I have no problem telling people that I'm uninterested in a conversation that'll never work and they can call back later.

 

It's called being a competent adult.

 

 

Thank you. Not sure why some people feel the need to prove they are active

[ThatMan]

Thank you. Not sure why some people feel the need to prove they are active

I think it's very strange. They might not necessarily go out of their way to prove anything but you never know. I wouldn't put it past some people to try to 'prove' they have a life. It's no different than certain tasteless selfies, really.

[mrs rubble]

Because how can you show your FULL interest in someone while driving and it' the 1st time yall talked?

I wouldn't be having a "get to know you" conversation over the phone.

I'd be calling to organize a time and place to meet so I could do it in person and yes I do believe I could do that with a hands free set.

[WrinkledForehead]

Oh goodness. I spend so much time in my car between commuting to school and driving to work and dropping off my kids at various places. If I have to make a call then I will, and mostly it would be because that's when I have time. I didnt encounter anyone that had an issue with it while I was dating because they respected that a phone call would only be my priority at certain points.

[WP4046]

I wouldn't be having a "get to know you" conversation over the phone.

I'd be calling to organize a time and place to meet so I could do it in person and yes I do believe I could do that with a hands free set.

 

 

So you just go to meet strange men without getting to know them on the phone first?

[WP4046]

I;m about to call a girl now and if she is in the car then I may just start meeting people face to face without the phone in 2014

 

I hate texting and won't do it

[WP4046]

well finally a woman I call was not in a car on the road

 

nice convo

[manders_01]

So you just go to meet strange men without getting to know them on the phone first?

 

LOL Yes! As I noted before, that's kinda how OLD usually works. A few message exchanges and if that goes well, then you meet the person. In public, of course.

[WP4046]

LOL Yes! As I noted before, that's kinda how OLD usually works. A few message exchanges and if that goes well, then you meet the person. In public, of course.

 

 

But you are not putting a voice to the face. Don't you want to know if he atleast sounds sane before you get dress and take the time to go met this guy? what is the big rush anyway?

[manders_01]

But you are not putting a voice to the face. Don't you want to know if he atleast sounds sane before you get dress and take the time to go met this guy? what is the big rush anyway?

 

A voice to the face? LOL The rush? Why waste my time? You can tell a million times more about a person face to face than on the phone. Not a waste of time at all. One, if not more, phone conversations seems like the waste of time to me.

[WP4046]

A voice to the face? LOL The rush? Why waste my time? You can tell a million times more about a person face to face than on the phone. Not a waste of time at all. One, if not more, phone conversations seems like the waste of time to me.

 

 

Seems like people who meet that way are trying to have sex. JMO

 

 

Because why not talk on the phone about a week and then meet?

[manders_01]

Seems like people who meet that way are trying to have sex. JMO

 

 

Because why not talk on the phone about a week and then meet?

 

I'm not sure if there's anything else I can say that will make you understand. It has nothing to do with sex, never has with me. You are so locked into this speaking on the phone multiple times, which in my opinion is so ridiculously silly it's beyond me but there's nothing I can do to make you see you are in the minority of thinking, that I don't know that you'll change. Again, good luck! I truly hope you find a lady who's on the same page as you with this dedicated (i.e. not doing anything but talking to you), possibly multiple phone calls, prior to meeting, thing. Just not how I, nor anyone I've ever known, has operated in OLD.

[WP4046]

I'm not sure if there's anything else I can say that will make you understand. It has nothing to do with sex, never has with me. You are so locked into this speaking on the phone multiple times, which in my opinion is so ridiculously silly it's beyond me but there's nothing I can do to make you see you are in the minority of thinking, that I don't know that you'll change. Again, good luck! I truly hope you find a lady who's on the same page as you with this dedicated (i.e. not doing anything but talking to you), possibly multiple phone calls, prior to meeting, thing. Just not how I, nor anyone I've ever known, has operated in OLD.

 

 

could be because you are under 30

[ThatMan]

WrinkledForehead, manders_01,

Roughly one decade ago on this day, a single mother and young child began their commute home from a family dinner. The mother had a busy life and she grew accustomed to chatting away on her phone while driving. She's never ran into trouble before, and plenty of drivers also talk on their phone without trouble. But despite many uneventful years of talking while driving, on this particular night she should have kept both hands on the wheel. She lost control, crashed, and bleed to death while holding her child before help could arrive on the night of Christmas eve.

 

We are all creatures of habit. You can go years driving recklessly and still not crash. Dangerous situations begin to appear when poor driving habits become familiar and convenient. Nobody gets behind the wheel thinking that today will be the one day when something goes wrong. But driving while on the phone will eventually caught up to you when you least expect it. Buying a bluetooth or hands-free device is an easy thing to do. BUt you are still responsible for keeping your focus on the road. Keeping focus doesn't always come easy when you feel that you *must* have an important conversation right then.

[manders_01]

could be because you are under 30

 

I'm 35.

 

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[manders_01]

WrinkledForehead, manders_01,

Roughly one decade ago on this day, a single mother and young child began their commute home from a family dinner. The mother had a busy life and she grew accustomed to chatting away on her phone while driving. She's never ran into trouble before, and plenty of drivers also talk on their phone without trouble. But despite many uneventful years of talking while driving, on this particular night she should have kept both hands on the wheel. She lost control, crashed, and bleed to death while holding her child before help could arrive on the night of Christmas eve.

 

We are all creatures of habit. You can go years driving recklessly and still not crash. Dangerous situations begin to appear when poor driving habits become familiar and convenient. Nobody gets behind the wheel thinking that today will be the one day when something goes wrong. But driving while on the phone will eventually caught up to you when you least expect it. Buying a bluetooth or hands-free device is an easy thing to do. BUt you are still responsible for keeping your focus on the road. Keeping focus doesn't always come easy when you feel that you *must* have an important conversation right then.

 

First of all, I lead a car-free lifestyle so please don't assume to lump me into your post. Secondly, there are millions of people on the road each day that don't get in accidents while taking on a cell and hundreds that do get into accidents, plenty having nothing to do with cell phone use. Lastly, please reread my posts, you're missing my point; it's not me advocating driving while on a cell phone.

[WP4046]

First of all, I lead a car-free lifestyle so please don't assume to lump me into your post. Secondly, there are millions of people on the road each day that don't get in accidents while taking on a cell and hundreds that do get into accidents, plenty having nothing to do with cell phone use. Lastly, please reread my posts, you're missing my point; it's not me advocating driving while on a cell phone.

 

 

So say you start chatting online on a monday night and you then find out she is free to meet on saturday. Are you telling me u don't want to have atleast 2 phone conversations to lead up to the face to face meeting?

 

One on Monday and one last conversation before sat like on Thursday. And each convo is 15-20 min each to break a little of the ice and to confirm u are talking to someone who is

 

not 14 years old

member of the opposite sex

[manders_01]

So say you start chatting online on a monday night and you then find out she is free to meet on saturday. Are you telling me u don't want to have atleast 2 phone conversations to lead up to the face to face meeting?

 

One on Monday and one last conversation before sat like on Thursday. And each convo is 15-20 min to break a little of the ice and to confirm u are talking to someone who is

 

not 14 years old

member of the opposite sex

 

Nope, why waste time? I'm going to learn a lot more about the person face to face than on the phone. In fact, the only prolonged conversations prior to meeting turned out to be someone catfishing me. It's not to say that every meeting has led to more but when it hasn't, he and I aren't wasting our time on someone that in the end, we're but interested in. And when it has worked out, that's just the sooner we're able to be together.

 

In fact, my current beau and I met via OLD on a Wednesday night. We messaged again and texted on Thursday night; he asked me out that night. We had our first date on Friday, less than 48 hours from the time he first contacted me.

[WP4046]

Nope, why waste time? I'm going to learn a lot more about the person face to face than on the phone. In fact, the only prolonged conversations prior to meeting turned out to be someone catfishing me. It's not to say that every meeting has led to more but when it hasn't, he and I aren't wasting our time on someone that in the end, we're but interested in. And when it has worked out, that's just the sooner we're able to be together.

 

In fact, my current beau and I met via OLD on a Wednesday night. We messaged again and texted on Thursday night; he asked me out that night. We had our first date on Friday, less than 48 hours from the time he first contacted me.

 

 

So you don't even talk on the phone when you are not together?

[WP4046]

be thankful if she calls at all. or even texts.

 

 

why? I don't look like the elephant man lol

[WP4046]

because most girls just throw the phone number away.

 

 

We exchange numbers, why would I just give my number? lol