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WP4046 Established Member

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me for the very 1st time if she is in the car driving. How can she be into a conversation if she is on the road? I swear the getting to know process is all screwed up in 2013.

 

Either a girl wants to

 

1. Text instead of calling me

 

2. Call me on the road

 

 

Why not call when you are home and settled? Things wasn't like this in 1999

 

Damm I miss the old days. Then a girl had a nerve to not call me back when I said this

 

"Listen, give me a call when you get home and setttled and then we can continue talking"

 

 

No 1st phone conversations should take place while someone is out in public. Or maybe I am the one who is Mork from Ork

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me for the very 1st time if she is in the car driving. How can she be into a conversation if she is on the road? I swear the getting to know process is all screwed up in 2013.

 

Either a girl wants to

 

1. Text instead of calling me

 

2. Call me on the road

 

 

Why not call when you are home and settled? Things wasn't like this in 1999

 

Damm I miss the old days. Then a girl had a nerve to not call me back when I said this

 

"Listen, give me a call when you get home and setttled and then we can continue talking"

 

 

No 1st phone conversations should take place while someone is out in public. Or maybe I am the one who is Mork from Ork

 

Hahahaha... Funny!!!!

I think u r right... but it's not like end of the world :)

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There are alot of busy people who.choose,online dating due to hectic schedules. I'd assume they would fit a phone call in when they can. That being said I too would prefer a person Im just getting to know to pay attention to.our conversation without major distractions.

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There are alot of busy people who.choose,online dating due to hectic schedules. I'd assume they would fit a phone call in when they can. That being said I too would prefer a person Im just getting to know to pay attention to.our conversation without major distractions.

 

 

 

everyone has down time

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I know a lot of people that do phone calls in the car. Unless I have plans, most of the time when I get home from work the last thing I want to do is get on the phone. That's my time, my R & R time. So calling on the way home would be convenient for me.

 

I don't see why you're bothered by her calling while she's driving.

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I know a lot of people that do phone calls in the car. Unless I have plans, most of the time when I get home from work the last thing I want to do is get on the phone. That's my time, my R & R time. So calling on the way home would be convenient for me.

 

I don't see why you're bothered by her calling while she's driving.

 

 

Because it's not appropriate for a 1st convo

If I know you, then fine

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Because it's not appropriate for a 1st convo

If I know you, then fine

 

What's inappropriate about it? :confused:

 

I would say the exact opposite...I'll carve time out of my schedule if I know you otherwise you'll be called when it's convenient for me.

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theothersully Established Member

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Agreed. I just text to set up a real conversation to avoid the impersonal nature of phone calls.

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Agreed. I just text to set up a real conversation to avoid the impersonal nature of phone calls.

 

 

Yeah just text and not get a feel for who you will be meeting

 

makes no sense

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Yeah just text and not get a feel for who you will be meeting

 

makes no sense

 

Pretty sure they were poking fun of you. :)

 

With all due respect, it sounds like you're older and haven't dated in the OLD / cell phone era or are just clinging to bygone days. Either way, long phone calls to get to know one another when you're both at home doing nothing else are a thing of the past. Most people who use OLD exchange a few messages and if there's an interest, go on a date. The date is the getting to know one another time. I think you'll find it a bit challenging to find a woman who is in line with how you hope things will unfold but it's always possible. Good luck!

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Do you want her to be late for her current online date? How rude of you. She needs to get there early so she can bail if he is ugly and then call Number 3 on the way home.

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me for the very 1st time if she is in the car driving. How can she be into a conversation if she is on the road? I swear the getting to know process is all screwed up in 2013.

 

Either a girl wants to

 

1. Text instead of calling me

2. Call me on the road

 

Why not call when you are home and settled? Things wasn't like this in 1999

Damm I miss the old days. Then a girl had a nerve to not call me back when I said this

"Listen, give me a call when you get home and setttled and then we can continue talking"

 

 

No 1st phone conversations should take place while someone is out in public. Or maybe I am the one who is Mork from Ork

 

Bravo, youre absolutely right. disrespectful. if you cant put in 15 minutes for a call and not multitasking, then how are you in other things..

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I agree. Once you know someone, fine. But if it's a "getting to know you" call it annoys me too. Likewise if they call you while they're doing something else. You can hear the slight gaps and pauses in the conversation, and that their attention is going off and on the conversation.

 

And eating. Never ever call me when you're eating.

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Appreciate the fact that she's willing to call you. Some of us don't have as much luck on dating sites. Getting even a mistaken call is a huge improvement.

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Yeah just text and not get a feel for who you will be meeting

 

makes no sense

 

You get zero feel for someone on the phone. Someone's phone voice and phone fake personality are just fronts.

 

Think of all the times you see a mom screaming at kids and switch into "phone mode" to take a call.

 

The phone is the least personal way of communicating. I can read most people better through a text.

 

Now i move fast though. If she's to my liking, I text hello, then meet to talk. No phone bs. Waste of time. Phones are only good later, when you are at a distance, but are being yourselves because you already know each other.

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If I couldn't call people from the car, I'd never call anybody back. Once I hit that door, I have the dog, laundry, dinner etc. I work long hours & I have a long commute. If the person lives at home or with room mates in the car may be her only alone time.

 

 

In the very beginning, you can't dictate how & where somebody communicates with you.

 

 

If it really bugs you that much & the person won't alter their patterns (I wouldn't), you two may be fundamentally incompatible.

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If I give a girl my number to call me I met online, I really don't want her to call

 

 

 

 

maybe I am the one who is Mork from Ork

 

 

 

 

OP, did you ever pause to look at the title of this thread ???

 

 

(though the last line of your first post makes up for it a little bit)

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Do you want her to be late for her current online date? How rude of you. She needs to get there early so she can bail if he is ugly and then call Number 3 on the way home.

 

 

I wouldn't be surprised

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You get zero feel for someone on the phone. Someone's phone voice and phone fake personality are just fronts.

 

Think of all the times you see a mom screaming at kids and switch into "phone mode" to take a call.

 

The phone is the least personal way of communicating. I can read most people better through a text.

 

Now i move fast though. If she's to my liking, I text hello, then meet to talk. No phone bs. Waste of time. Phones are only good later, when you are at a distance, but are being yourselves because you already know each other.

 

 

I am going to give telephone dating a try in 2014, it's better in my opinion

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If I couldn't call people from the car, I'd never call anybody back. Once I hit that door, I have the dog, laundry, dinner etc. I work long hours & I have a long commute. If the person lives at home or with room mates in the car may be her only alone time.

 

 

In the very beginning, you can't dictate how & where somebody communicates with you.

 

 

If it really bugs you that much & the person won't alter their patterns (I wouldn't), you two may be fundamentally incompatible.

 

 

well you can talk after you get settled and finish with laundry, the dog, and dinner

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Yeah just text and not get a feel for who you will be meeting

 

makes no sense

 

I grew up in the age of cellphones and I am of a similar mind to you. I still have good manners and when I'm interested in a man I will find free time when I'm not distracted to speak to him. If someone is sooooo busy they only have free time to call you while driving (which you shouldn't even be on a cell phone while driving, so I hope all these people are using hands free lol) then how on God's green earth will they have time to actually date OR have a relationship? They will conduct the relationship in the "ONLY" free time they have in the car and the entire relationship will take place during their commute? LMAO oh please. I have a life and I'm pretty busy but trust and believe that I make time for stuff that is important. It's not that I would never call a man while in the car or that if a man does it he's automatically out, but if you seem clearly distracted and seem to have no time to call me besides while multitasking, I don't see the point.

 

I hate incessant texting and would much prefer a man I've given my number to to call me. You don't need to love being on the phone but I've never been in a relationship with a man with whom I couldn't have a good phone conversation. Every man I've ended up being serious about has been one who wasn't afraid to call, who didn't just text me 24/7 and who when we spoke on the phone it felt natural and easy. I have never spoken with someone on the phone who was awkward and then met up and it was a lot better...it was just as strained in person.

 

I don't think because we have cellphones and instant everything it means people have no free minutes a day or that you should have poor manners. If I'm already in a relationship with you or we know each other then yea I'll call and multitask but if I just met you, that's rude. Point is: I think like you do, I can't be the only one, so the whole point of dating is to find people with whom you share similar views on things.

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I grew up in the age of cellphones and I am of a similar mind to you. I still have good manners and when I'm interested in a man I will find free time when I'm not distracted to speak to him. If someone is sooooo busy they only have free time to call you while driving (which you shouldn't even be on a cell phone while driving, so I hope all these people are using hands free lol) then how on God's green earth will they have time to actually date OR have a relationship? They will conduct the relationship in the "ONLY" free time they have in the car and the entire relationship will take place during their commute? LMAO oh please. I have a life and I'm pretty busy but trust and believe that I make time for stuff that is important. It's not that I would never call a man while in the car or that if a man does it he's automatically out, but if you seem clearly distracted and seem to have no time to call me besides while multitasking, I don't see the point.

 

I hate incessant texting and would much prefer a man I've given my number to to call me. You don't need to love being on the phone but I've never been in a relationship with a man with whom I couldn't have a good phone conversation. Every man I've ended up being serious about has been one who wasn't afraid to call, who didn't just text me 24/7 and who when we spoke on the phone it felt natural and easy. I have never spoken with someone on the phone who was awkward and then met up and it was a lot better...it was just as strained in person.

 

I don't think because we have cellphones and instant everything it means people have no free minutes a day or that you should have poor manners. If I'm already in a relationship with you or we know each other then yea I'll call and multitask but if I just met you, that's rude. Point is: I think like you do, I can't be the only one, so the whole point of dating is to find people with whom you share similar views on things.

 

 

Thank you, the fact that you are talking for the 1st time we should have each other's full attention. Back in the summer I had one girl call me while she was a passenger in the car of 3 other girls and I had to tell her we can talk another time.

 

Of course she never called back LOL

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I bet this one didn't call you back either!:laugh:

If some man I'd never met before, told me where (or when) I should call him from the first time I spoke to him. I'd lose his number immediately.

It screams "control freak" to me. :eek:

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I bet this one didn't call you back either!:laugh:

If some man I'd never met before, told me where (or when) I should call him from the first time I spoke to him. I'd lose his number immediately.

It screams "control freak" to me. :eek:

 

 

Control freak is saying......."give me a call later when you get home and settled"

 

???

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To be honest, if I am into someone, I will pull over, or I will stay up late, just to talk and laugh with them, lock my office door and call him in the middle of the day. If it means I am tired the next day, that's ok. I try to invest the energy I want invested in me. I don't have time to settle for anything less than butterflies so if I don't have the time to pull over or 15 minutes to an hour to spare, I am just not that into you. I make time when I like someone, whether I have the time or not. Lol. I often get 5 hours of sleep, but we have lazy Saturdays together and he usually lets me sleep and makes breakfast. Then we go and do fun stuff if the weather is ok and hibernate if it sucks and watch movies and cuddle.

 

 

If I don't have that option, I will call just to hear his voice. :) I have a stupid speaker/microphone thing in my car and I am totally hating it. I usually use my corded headset still. Sometimes I am very busy and I want him to know I am thinking about him. I work 12 hours a day. Sometimes, unless he is at my place already, we wouldn't speak if I didn't call in the car. I cant always pull over and sometimes I am just exhausted. I know he appreciates that more than no call at all.

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