Mark1 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I recently began working in retail in a seasonal role. One of the women there is a very pretty 40 year old woman. I feel I am getting mixed signals from her, and wanted to get other people's perspective: Signs she is not into me: -Does not engage me in conversation. I always have to initiate the talking/asking questions about her life etc -In comparison, all the other women there, of all ages and marital status ask me lots of questions (me being the new guy), flirt with me, joke around with me etc -No physical contact/no joking around with me like I have seen her do with other employees On the other hand, this is where I think the signals are weird: -She is in the middle of a divorce, and any time her and I are alone (say, in the break room), she complains about her husband, and how much of an ******* he is. Im not sure if this is normal. Almost as if she wants me to get a hint. -Another example, she told me how she's entering cougar status, and that should be "interesting" and that how she is excited to hang out with some younger guys she knows in their mid 20s (maybe she was hinting to me at something? she DOES know I dated a cougar over the summer) -She told me she's going out this weekend with a female friend in her 20s who is going to introduce her to some younger guys and "have drinks, and just flirt a little" she said -She told me how her younger brother's best friend flirts with her a lot I have no idea what to think of all this. My gut is she's definitely not into me, but in that case, why is she telling me all this stuff about younger guys, and dating and stuff? I'm pretty bummed if my gut is right, but I just wanted to get other people's thoughts.
bubbaganoosh Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Your an ear. She talking and your listening. The woman is going through a bad time. Divorce isn't easy and I think she's trying to keep her ego up to make herself feel better. For all you know her stbxh might have put her down a lot and she's feeling kind of empty. Don't put a lot of stock in her words like she's trying to pick you up because it might not be what you think. She's hurting and needs an outlet and no doubt most of the other people she works with have heard all the gory details of the divorce and don't want to here any more. Be a friend and listen but don't assume anything. Remember the first three letters in the word assume is ass. 2
Elias33 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Your an ear. She talking and your listening. The woman is going through a bad time. Divorce isn't easy and I think she's trying to keep her ego up to make herself feel better. For all you know her stbxh might have put her down a lot and she's feeling kind of empty. Don't put a lot of stock in her words like she's trying to pick you up because it might not be what you think. She's hurting and needs an outlet and no doubt most of the other people she works with have heard all the gory details of the divorce and don't want to here any more. Be a friend and listen but don't assume anything. Remember the first three letters in the word assume is ass. Exactly. This woman is healing, better to stay at a distance.
truth_seeker Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 She's quiet in a public setting but opens up to you when alone. She is sending out feelers to see how you react, if you will bite. My money says, she wants to bang you. Just use you for some mindless fun, an escape from her drama.
d0nnivain Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I don't see romance or sex potential here. If you met in a bar maybe. At work, she needs better boundaries but nothing she's said indicate that she's into you although she is looking for some rebound fun (but not necessarily with you). Be very leary of a workplace tryst because that's all this would be. They never turn out well. 1
StanMusial Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 This is the type you run from, as fast as your legs can move.
TheGuard13 Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 It doesn't sound like she's flirting with you, more that she's using you as someone to listen to her.
MidwestUSA Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 Agree that she has poor boundaries as far as rambling on about the divorce and her cougar status. Sounds like she's almost trying to convince HERSELF that she's hot/desirable, she's so over the top with her BS. I don't think it translates to her wanting to bang you. Sorry. You could push the issue, but I'm betting she's a basket case.
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