TaintedHeart Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 My es'x phone broke a couple of days before he broke up with me, so he's without a phone. Now, you/I would think that this would be a good thing, not being able to contact them, not having to fight any kind of urge. Wrong! This has been driving me nuts! I keep trying to call his phone to see if it's working, which it isn't. I know for a fact that if I called now and it rang, I wouldn't call again, mainly because of my dignity. So yeah, it would make things easier! I know I shouldn't be bothered and that it has absolutely nothing to do with me, but I'm so scared that he will/has changed his number. I just can't stop trying his number!! I tell myself things like 'Don't bother, it's still broken' Or 'What if it rings, how shameful and stupid will I feel and look' and the 'I'll try one last time, and that's it' But none of this works! Why am I so weak. Where is my will power? I honestly do believe that I have none. None at all. I didn't know what else to do, so I posted here, which has calmed me a little...for now. Thanks in advance for any form of advice or suggestions.
im_thedude Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 (edited) Your will power is buried, somewhere, inside of you. A million people could tell you exactly what you need to do, but none of that advice will matter until you truly build up the courage to let go and move on. Take baby steps, and treat yourself like an addict. Try going an hour without calling his number, sending any texts, checking his social media, looking at old photos. Turn that hour into half a day, then a day, then a few days. Condition yourself to automatically say, "no, I will not call this person" every time the urge strikes. Edited December 19, 2013 by im_thedude 2
TylerDurdenn Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 OP he doesn't want to talk to you anyway. Delete his number now. 1
Author TaintedHeart Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 OP he doesn't want to talk to you anyway. Delete his number now. I don't want to talk to him either, if it rang I'd hang up straight away. I don't know why this is messing with my nerves, but it is and I hate it Forgot to mention that I know his number by heart.
SYLLPalmer Posted December 22, 2013 Posted December 22, 2013 It is a process. You will get more graceful with time. I like the addiction analogy above. It is good advice. Tomorrow do something counter to your usual. Change is empowering. Give you mind new material to work with. Aerobic exercise releases the same endorphins we get from "love". As soon as I can hold food down I am going to hit the treadmill with some freaky tunes on the ipod. I was in a rut. This heartsickness is just the incentive I need to start again. Simple things make a huge difference. Peace.
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