freetolove Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 My new boyfriend (1 month) has an ex gf who's been really upset about the new relationship. According to him they've broken up over a year ago. My bf has been open about it and good about setting boundaries however because they work together, she is constantly in my bfs life (he is okay with introducting me to her as well). It wasn't bothering me at first but it's starting to get old. I've yet to meet her. Should I just wait for things to smooth out or take some sort of action? (e.g. tell her to back off).
Eggplant Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 (e.g. tell her to back off).Don't do this. If you have a problem, take it up with your boyfriend. You have no business with this ex.
Mariposa10 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Don't do this. If you have a problem, take it up with your boyfriend. You have no business with this ex. I agree, don't do this please. Also, why would you want to meet her? Or why does your ex want you to meet her, why is it so necessary... 1
bmh Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I agree, don't do this please. Also, why would you want to meet her? Or why does your ex want you to meet her, why is it so necessary... Agreed...don't tell her to back off. And yes why is it necessary to introduce you? Are they close friends? And how did you find out that she was upset about the relationship? 1
Mariposa10 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Agreed...don't tell her to back off. And yes why is it necessary to introduce you? Are they close friends? And how did you find out that she was upset about the relationship? Oh good, I'm not the only one weirded out by they meeting each other.
Author freetolove Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 He is put on the table that if I want to meet her, he will be more then happy to do it. He doesn't want to hid it from me, like I said he can't cut her out of his life because they work together. I don't have to meet her. I found out she was upset because my bf told me, she's been making his life a little difficult thus making me upset.
bmh Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 He is put on the table that if I want to meet her, he will be more then happy to do it. He doesn't want to hid it from me, like I said he can't cut her out of his life because they work together. I don't have to meet her. I found out she was upset because my bf told me, she's been making his life a little difficult thus making me I would probably be more concerned with the fact that she is comfortable enough with him to state she's upset.... If its been a year since they broke up. HE needs to set boundaries with her. She should not be openly talking about her feelings of his new relationship with him. He needs to tell her business only. 1
Author freetolove Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 Well now she seems to be using her mental health/suicide reasoning to manipulate him. She apparently refuses to see a doctor...
Mariposa10 Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 She's not the problem, you're not the problem. It's your boyfriend who's the problem. If she's creating all this drama, why hasn't he stopped talking to her? Well now she seems to be using her mental health/suicide reasoning to manipulate him. She apparently refuses to see a doctor... 1
xUnknown Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 She's not the problem, you're not the problem. It's your boyfriend who's the problem. If she's creating all this drama, why hasn't he stopped talking to her? this... 1,2,3 other characters.
Omei Posted December 24, 2013 Posted December 24, 2013 already drama 1 month in? Run away find a guy that doesn't have ex's to his hip while you still can! 1
Author freetolove Posted December 24, 2013 Author Posted December 24, 2013 Like I said, they work together.
Keke1 Posted December 25, 2013 Posted December 25, 2013 Like I said, they work together. Why does she even know about you?
Author freetolove Posted December 25, 2013 Author Posted December 25, 2013 She knows about me because my bf told her about me. 1. He says he is proud to be with me. 2. He wants his ex to understand that he's in a relationship. He is setting boundaries.
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