Succession Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Generally, when I take my girlfriend out, I plan the date and pay for it. This works for me - as long as I have the ability to plan, I can pick activities that cost very little. Therefore, to the extent I resent spending money, I only have myself to blame for not planning a walk or DVD movie or cooking date. However, she is more of a party person than I am and, of course, New Years' is fast approaching. I suggested we go to a football bar at 8 and then a quieter bar for a midnight toast. She suggested we go on a cruise. I agreed, somewhat pleased that she felt comfortable enough to offer input. Then this followed: Her: "You do realize it's pretty expensive, right?" Me: "I figured. How much?" Her: "About $150. Each." Me: "Okay. Were you thinking I should pay for both of us, or just my ticket?" Her: "Just yours. Since I suggested it, and it's more expensive than what you suggested, I'll pay for my own. I wanted to compromise." Maybe I'm taking my specific situation and incorrectly concluding that it's a normal thing in society, but from where I stand, this is pretty common. When a woman suggests a check be split (under any circumstances), it's considered a nice gesture. When a man suggests a check be split, it's considered cheap. Have your experiences matched mine? What about when inviting a romantic partner to an event like a concert or game with advance purchase tickets? What about when inviting a partner on vacation? I want to see how the discussion here differs from the discussion on TOS.
Taramere Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 What made you title this in the way you did? Is it a reference to women having our cake and eating it? Why "another woman"? Is this a reference to the latest in a long line of women who have eaten cake on their dates with you? 2
TheGuard13 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I'll never understand this reference. Why the hell WOULDN'T you have cake and eat it? It's a stupid saying. 2
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 What made you title this in the way you did? Is it a reference to women having our cake and eating it? Why "another woman"? Is this a reference to the latest in a long line of women who have eaten cake on their dates with you? Good questions. I think because the cruise is expensive it would be silly to have one person pay the whole thing. However as Taramere aptly points out... This seems to be a general gripe rather than specific.
Eggplant Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I'll never understand this reference. Why the hell WOULDN'T you have cake and eat it? It's a stupid saying.If you eat it, you can't have it to save for later.
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