JDPT Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I've been doing exceptionally well for the past 2 weeks, I guess this is as long as it lasted but I enjoyed it nonetheless. I met with my therapist yesterday and we discussed a few things about my past that were a bit uncomfortable. And although I know its something uncomfortable its something that I need to deal with regardless. I just didn't want to ruin this good streak I've been having. Work was terrible, I couldn't stand being there, I just wanted to go home and be by myself. All day I've been telling myself that feeling the way I'm currently feeling is a choice and I can easily change it like I've done in the past but it's challenging still. I have the tools necessary to turn this around and focus on me once again, just needed to vent.
deponie12 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Hang in there. I have horrible days as well. My work environment doesn't help me. I would with a bunch of cranky negative people and by the time 5pm comes around I am ready to DIE! My therapist told me that our brains put off chemicals (feel good) when we were with our boyfriend/girlfriend, and it takes a long time for our brains to "reprogram". Big hugs to you! 1
Haydn Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Hi mate, Yes i know, it comes in waves. Then it can overwhelm, but we are doing great friend. We are moving further away from all of this. Slowly we will do it. Keep posting your great advice friend. Take care. Haydn I've been doing exceptionally well for the past 2 weeks, I guess this is as long as it lasted but I enjoyed it nonetheless. I met with my therapist yesterday and we discussed a few things about my past that were a bit uncomfortable. And although I know its something uncomfortable its something that I need to deal with regardless. I just didn't want to ruin this good streak I've been having. Work was terrible, I couldn't stand being there, I just wanted to go home and be by myself. All day I've been telling myself that feeling the way I'm currently feeling is a choice and I can easily change it like I've done in the past but it's challenging still. I have the tools necessary to turn this around and focus on me once again, just needed to vent. 1
Zoe Lilith Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I've been doing exceptionally well for the past 2 weeks, I guess this is as long as it lasted but I enjoyed it nonetheless. I met with my therapist yesterday and we discussed a few things about my past that were a bit uncomfortable. And although I know its something uncomfortable its something that I need to deal with regardless. I just didn't want to ruin this good streak I've been having. Work was terrible, I couldn't stand being there, I just wanted to go home and be by myself. All day I've been telling myself that feeling the way I'm currently feeling is a choice and I can easily change it like I've done in the past but it's challenging still. I have the tools necessary to turn this around and focus on me once again, just needed to vent. That's great! Being able to deal with the situation and control your emotions. I am more angry than sad...I am angry with myself for allowing myself to be fooled by a two faced nasty creature..I was even tempted to send an email to him expressing my thoughts and feelings, but what would be the point of that..I'd just humiliate myself even more...Good for having the stenght and the ability to stay strong and move on. 1
Haydn Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Dont you dare send him anything Zoe. You are far too special for him to receive anything! You and JDPT have help me massively over the last months. Keep it up! That's great! Being able to deal with the situation and control your emotions. I am more angry than sad...I am angry with myself for allowing myself to be fooled by a two faced nasty creature..I was even tempted to send an email to him expressing my thoughts and feelings, but what would be the point of that..I'd just humiliate myself even more...Good for having the stenght and the ability to stay strong and move on. 2
Zoe Lilith Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Dont you dare send him anything Zoe. You are far too special for him to receive anything! You and JDPT have help me massively over the last months. Keep it up! ..I won't do that, I'm just angry at myself for allowing this to happen...I hope this will pass soon..Yes, JDPT's comments are helpfull, honest and make sense.
Peter55 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I get the sad/angry/frustrated moments every few hours also. What helps me out is knowing that I truly did my best. I truly loved her. I truly cared. But it's not my fault that she wouldn't let me in. She was afraid of something, maybe commitment, maybe the future. Whatever it is I keep telling myself it's her problem not mine!! I tried to make it work and I offered options. We were both busy but when we hung I always tried to make it special. What truly helps me though is thinking that she is not the one. She will never be the one. "The one" would never take me for granted. "The one" would die to see me at every moment. I just think of all her faults. She never wanted to hang out with my family but expected me to always hang out with hers. She made me feel insecure! I won't go into details but at first I thought I had issues but I've never been insecure my whole life. What did she do for me? Nothing!! I deserve better! I know I can do better and I will! I was so sad for the first month and a half and then something kind of clicked. Her loss!! I've gained more by not being with her! 3
Author JDPT Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 Having a few drinks tonight I know Haydn will like that yet I have not desire or I like to tell myself that I don't want to contact her. So good to know that I'm almost beyond that. 1
Haydn Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I Had a beer with you mate! I know how you feel, had a moment today where i thought i may wobble. But it subsided. Take care. Having a few drinks tonight I know Haydn will like that yet I have not desire or I like to tell myself that I don't want to contact her. So good to know that I'm almost beyond that. 1
vassilbg Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I think its natural bro. I'm still getting that sad feeling every once in a while, but I'll tell you this: It doesn't last as long, and my days are filled with more positivity as of late. We broke up about a month ago now, and looking back, it was the best thing that could have happened for me. I didn't realize how miserable I was until she left. Give yourself time and acknowledge the feelings you are having. Don't try to repress them. The mistake I have always made was trying to bury the feelings... it makes the process a LOT longer than it has to be. 1
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