FrankieFrank Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 OLD is not all bad. Yes, there are gonna be derptastic people of all genders, sizes, shapes and varieties. But there are nice normal people too. I think it comes down to luck of timing. Me and my guy met on OLD. It truly was just a matter of good timing that we both happened to be on the site on that day. Had it been a different day, we may have never met. I may have met other guys, had a lousy time, and joined the "I hate OLD" brigade. Maybe I would have met a different guy that I would've liked. But I'm glad I met this one. We mesh together so perfectly it's like we were made for each other. We are two peas in a pod He thinks it's fate, that it all happened so perfectly for a reason. I'm not one to quite believe in "fate" but I do acknowledge that the timing was majorly perfect for us You are a woman, and rather attractive one too, of course OLD is not all bad for you
irc333 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Ah interesting. So it sounds like you actually did put effort in and did contact guys. Starting to think maybe my profile is bad then. Next to no women have broken the ice with me. Then it might be an age thing too. I'm just trying to figure out how I'm doing so poorly online compared to real life. Funny, apparently women are inundated with emails from men that they specifically mention who they DO NOT want contacting them. I suppose you're right there. But on the other side of the coin, I would specifically read a woman's criteria, interests, and hobbies and see if they match mine, I would contact them only to never get a response. It used to suprise me because sometimes they weren't much to look at, physically, themselves...I tend to contact those that are my equal in looks, but it's kind of strange when a woman that's into the Sci-Fi hobbies, strategy gaming, outdoors and share similar beliefs and are looking for the long term....you'd think that WOULD garner a response, right? Nope. Then someone will come back with, "Oh, you have TOO MUCH in common, that's why!" What a crock...seems people have an answer for everything. That's why I just email ANY woman that has a pleasant look on their face in their dating profile and if their profile doesn't come off as bitchy, I would contact them. I've given up on caring if we're an actual "Match" or not based on what's written IN the profile.
irc333 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 3. The interesting, intriguing guy. These folks are rare online. Being this guy will get the woman interested in talking to you. This is important because if you can't talk to her then you can't interest her. Which means you can't get her number to get you on a date. You want to be the interesting guy. Too many people on the site have cookie cutter profiles. Your profile is a snapshot of who you are. If your snapshot sucks, NEXT!!! The third DOES work and I had garnered dates, and have even received COMPLIMENTS on my introductory email...........but on VERY rare occasions. But most women just look at pictures, see you're too short or some easily weeded out physical flaw, and you're out of the running regardless of how "intriguing/interesting" you are.
ls32ssibm Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Pay sites are just as bad as free sites but for different reasons. Sleazy tactics to get you to sign up (Match will tell you people are "interested" in you when they aren't) and there is always the chance that someone else won't be a member when you message them. 1
AlliceInWL Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 There's way too much sausage online. Bottom line. There have been experiments to show just how bad the disparity is in messaging between men and women. Women can get messaged without having pictures up. Guys are too thirsty for sex or female interaction of any kind that they'll message girls who don't even have pictures up. When you realize how deep this thing goes, you have to take it as the joke it is. I question any man using OLD as his main source to find quality dates. Real life will always yield you better results. Don't take it from me, take it from this woman. A self described feminist. Online Dating Sucks For Men Because Of Women Like Me This article is spot on. 1
KatZee Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 Don't use these FREE sites. You get what you pay for. Go to sites where you have to pay for a subscription like match or eharmony. People there are more serious about finding someone because they invested money into the search. These free sites are filled with people who are just bored or not really serious about dating. I have had nothing but great success on this online dating. I met the love of my life on it, and have dated so many wonderful women from my searches. I think it's the only way to meet quality women after your college years. You may have had a good experience with a paid site, but here are the statistics and the actual numbers in regards to pay-for-OLD sites. It's a very interesting read. Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating « OkTrends 1
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