Little White Lies

[freetolove]

My boyfriend recently admitted telling a little white lie to me so he could see me. I asked him if he was home and he said not yet so I would agree to meet up with him (he had a long day at work and I didn't want him to drive back and forth if he was already home). He brought up recently that in fact he was already home but because I was totally worth it and he wanted to see me really bad. The little white lie makes me a little nervous. Am I over reacting? Keep in my we're adults (early 30s and early 40s)

[Kizza]

yes, you are over-reacting...with-out a doubt.

 

Let this one go. He wanted to see you and made sure he got to without making you feel bad. Be grateful for that and don't turn this in to a negative thing.

[Philosoraptor]

Wait so he wanted to see you and told a white lie so you wouldn't tell him to stay home?

 

I'd say you were overreacting by not wanting him to make his own choice to drive back and forth. His willingness to do so is a positive, not a negative.

[runningfar]

I'm not a fan of lying, but in this case I would not be worried even in the slightest. I would tell him in the future you prefer he tell you the truth and you will trust what he says he wants to do or is capable of and not make a decision what is best for him unilaterally (ie stay in if he's tired).

[Untouchable_Fire]

My boyfriend recently admitted telling a little white lie to me so he could see me. I asked him if he was home and he said not yet so I would agree to meet up with him (he had a long day at work and I didn't want him to drive back and forth if he was already home). He brought up recently that in fact he was already home but because I was totally worth it and he wanted to see me really bad. The little white lie makes me a little nervous. Am I over reacting? Keep in my we're adults (early 30s and early 40s)

 

That isn't a big deal. Get a grip lady!

 

If its a big pattern then you maybe have an issue, but one... And he freely admits to it.

[jimloveslips]

He lied so he could see you, rather than NOT seeing you.

He didn't lie about not being able to see you!

He's lying for a good reason!

What do you want?

 

If you can tell me you've never ever lied for a BAD reason, then sure I can understand why you would expect him to be the most perfect human being ever and never tell a lie (even though he lied for a GOOD reason).

 

Everyone lies.

Everyone.

[Zahara]

OP, you've never told a white lie, in all your life? C'mon now.

 

He told a white lie so that he could see you. Let it go.

[d0nnivain]

Are you kidding? This man was trying harder to see you & you are giving him grief.

 

 

OK fine he lied about being home but he didn't lie about not being where he wanted. He was one place but wanted to be with you.

 

 

A man who tells that kind of lie is the type who will look you in the face & say "no honey I'm not tired" when he's dead on his feet just to make you happy

 

 

He's a gem, not a jerk.

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

White lies are so necessary in a caring relationship. That goes for family/friends/lovers.

 

I suck at it. I am a terrible liar and get anxiety when I try to lie. "Keeping it real" is my default behavior and people can't stand to be around me when I'm like that.

 

My wife is much happier when I tell white lies. When I tell nothing but the truth, she is not happy. Fact.

 

And it doesn't matter how much I sugar-coat it, truth causes resentments.

 

All the people in my family get along and really care about one another, and all of them liars (white lies).

[d0nnivain]

AShogunNamedMarcus

 

 

This is the universal white lie all MM must memorize & be prepared to deliver on command:

 

 

No honey, that does not make you look fat.

 

If you are a truly nice guy & it does look hideous in her, feel to free to follow it up with "But I think ________ looks better."