jennysuzie Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Im sure this what a lot of people are thinking about............... I am lucky to have such a wonderfully supportive mum and sister, the house will be busy on Xmas day with my little nephew and niece, but I can't help worrying about the day itself and how I will feel. What are everyone's plans? Up until a week ago I was planning to spend the morning with my family then spend xmas evening with him and his family. That's obviously not happening now. My plan will involve keeping busy, maybe leave my phone upstairs so I'm not looking at it all the time, minimal or no alcohol! So worried about Xmas night. I know I will miss him like crazy.
organizedchaos Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I'm taking my son to Disneyland on Christmas Eve and I'll spend Christmas morning with him before he goes to his mom's (she's not the recent ex who got me here, she and I are cool now). After that, I'm on my own on Christmas day as my family lives 3,000 miles away and I won't see them until the weekend. So the rest of Christmas Day is up in the air right now. Maybe a friend or two who also don't have any family in town.
BC1980 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Im sure this what a lot of people are thinking about............... I am lucky to have such a wonderfully supportive mum and sister, the house will be busy on Xmas day with my little nephew and niece, but I can't help worrying about the day itself and how I will feel. What are everyone's plans? Up until a week ago I was planning to spend the morning with my family then spend xmas evening with him and his family. That's obviously not happening now. My plan will involve keeping busy, maybe leave my phone upstairs so I'm not looking at it all the time, minimal or no alcohol! So worried about Xmas night. I know I will miss him like crazy. The holidays make it difficult. It's hard because you are forced to relive all of these memories you made with another person. I am actually working on Christmas Day because I work at a hospital. I signed up to work that day on purpose. However, it's still hard. I am spending Christmas Eve with my parents and sister, and we are trying some new recipes. We are just doing something totally different, which is a great thing. Try to make some new memories if possible.
organizedchaos Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 The holidays make it difficult. It's hard because you are forced to relive all of these memories you made with another person. I am actually working on Christmas Day because I work at a hospital. I signed up to work that day on purpose. However, it's still hard. I am spending Christmas Eve with my parents and sister, and we are trying some new recipes. We are just doing something totally different, which is a great thing. Try to make some new memories if possible. Yeah it's the memories of the past 3 Christmas' with her that makes it hard. One of which I flew her back to spend with my family two years ago...but I will not contact her on this day. I know it will be on her mind on this day too.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I feel the same as you. But I see it this way, Christmas comes once a year and it's such a wonderful holiday. Baked cookies, hot chocolate, warm blankets, crackling fire, and the company of your loved ones...How can I NOT be happy? I am taking my happy pill on Christmas (xanax) and just going to enjoy that day. Turn off my phone, stuff it in the drawer and forget about him for a day. I'll be too busy laughing, caroling, taking pictures, catching up with family and opening presents to be sad!! Letting him take your special day is not worth it, he already broke your heart, now you're going to let him take your spirit away too!? You can be sad the day after if you have too, but give yourself one day to just not give a hoot. The mind is a powerful, powerful tool. 1
devastated777 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I feel the same as you. But I see it this way, Christmas comes once a year and it's such a wonderful holiday. Baked cookies, hot chocolate, warm blankets, crackling fire, and the company of your loved ones...How can I NOT be happy? I am taking my happy pill on Christmas (xanax) and just going to enjoy that day. Turn off my phone, stuff it in the drawer and forget about him for a day. I'll be too busy laughing, caroling, taking pictures, catching up with family and opening presents to be sad!! Letting him take your special day is not worth it, he already broke your heart, now you're going to let him take your spirit away too!? You can be sad the day after if you have too, but give yourself one day to just not give a hoot. The mind is a powerful, powerful tool. Ahhh, those happy pills. I honestly don't know what I would do without them. I know I wouldn't sleep. I have been worried about it too but hey, I have a fireplace too! Socks, you have helped me a lot girl! Thanks!
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