wanting more Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 No daddy issues here!!!! (hate that generalization as much as "the OW gets pregnant on purpose) xMM and i worked together for years, traveled together for years. Were friends for years and then crossed a line that should've never been crossed. I wasnt looking for a father figure. 1
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 Yes, and not just abusive or absent fathers, but alcoholic, preoccupied dads, dads that play favorites, etc. Also older men are smoother with women. Being married for decades, having daughters...he learned what women respond to. The words that make wife & daughter smile, make ow smile, too. Older men are more experienced at knowing how to validate, paying attention, making her feel wanted and sympathetic. So then what about the man that is 15 years younger than his xmow? Mommy issues?
tweetiebirdie Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I'm 13 years younger than my MM. I don't feel an age difference at all and I actually really enjoy being with an older man. I am completely in the same boat as the person who said that if this relationship doesn't work out, I'd love a future relationship with the same age difference.
Popsicle Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Mine is 2 years older. His wife is 5 years younger than me. That might be why he stays with her!
Ashley87 Posted December 23, 2013 Posted December 23, 2013 Mine was/is 13 years older than me. I'm 22 he's 35 (never felt an age difference)
Rhema Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Mine is 9 yrs old. I read that the MM is usually older. But idk.
thecharade Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Wow! What a pattern. He and I were the same age, his W just a couple years younger, as is my H. Maybe we don't fit the pattern because we were a "resurrected" relationship from many years back? It seems that when an MM is falling for an OW, she is younger. Almost always. What does it mean? Are the stereotypes true: men chase youth and women chase financial stability? Just wonderin'.
chelsea2011 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I think age is an individual thing and depends upon the person. I know some people where age definitely matters. To each his own and if it doesn't matter to you who cares right?
Arieswoman Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 This is an interesting thread. My exH was 2 years older than me. His affair partner was 10 years younger than him. He is still with her. My second husband is 2 years younger than me. There are advantages and disadvantages to having an older male partner. On the plus side they are likely to be more advanced in their careers and be able to provide a better lifestyle. If they are significantly older (10 years or more) the minus side is they will probably pre-decease the woman who could end up as a "young" widow, maybe with kids to put through college/uni. Swings and roundabouts, really.
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