Nothisgirl Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Another thread got me thinking...what's the age gap between you and your married partner...I am 33 and he is 44.. I've read quite a few posts where the MM is 10+ years older My exH was also 10+ years older...clearly that's not working for me lol
blue963 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I think the age gap depends upon the people and their attitudes and outlooks. 3
happy stillmore Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 My husband is 5 years older than me. XMM was 9 years older.
Got it Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 My husband (MM) is the widest age gap I have ever dated. He is 7 years older. My ex husband is 3 months younger. Normally I have dated my age or at most a year older.
skywriter Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 The xMM was 35 years old and I was 42 yrs old when we initially started the A.
halfalive Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Another thread got me thinking...what's the age gap between you and your married partner...I am 33 and he is 44.. I've read quite a few posts where the MM is 10+ years older My exH was also 10+ years older...clearly that's not working for me lol H is 8 years older than me, exAP was 18 years older than me. I never felt an age difference AT ALL.
carhill Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Back when I was an OM in my 20's, the young lady was 22 and I was 25 when we first met. I was single and she had been married four years at that point and had a toddler. I would say, over the decades, most of the potential MW's were younger, but not much. I can't think of an older one offhand. Within the realm of relationships, I'd say they were contemporaries, age-wise. After the first one, I became more wise about sussing them out, so things didn't progress with future iterations.
solostand Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 He was 15 years older than me. He was a high school teacher in my school system. Thank God he never taught me considering that he taught "health" which included the birds and the bees.
Baby123 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 20 years. We loved eachother- he left- we had a year together in the open- but ultimately it was the age gap (and different life stages) that got us, not the A or the Marriage.
lilmisscantbewrong Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I see a pattern here - most women have XMM's older than them. My xmom was 15 years younger than me. My husband and I are the same age. His XOW was only about 5 years younger than him. 1
bentleychic Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 10 years difference. ExH was 2 years older. I love the age difference with MM, honestly and even if we don't work out, I'll look for a similar age difference in my next partner.
Ladydrib Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 48 years older. Just kidding. 21 though! 2
SarahJames Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I dont know, but "daddy issues" seem to be a theme. Mine was significantly older too - made me reflect on what wqs wrong with my childhood and the relationship with my father 6
MissBee Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 10 years difference. ExH was 2 years older. I love the age difference with MM, honestly and even if we don't work out, I'll look for a similar age difference in my next partner. I'm curious, why?
Quiet Storm Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I dont know, but "daddy issues" seem to be a theme. Mine was significantly older too - made me reflect on what wqs wrong with my childhood and the relationship with my father Yes, and not just abusive or absent fathers, but alcoholic, preoccupied dads, dads that play favorites, etc. Also older men are smoother with women. Being married for decades, having daughters...he learned what women respond to. The words that make wife & daughter smile, make ow smile, too. Older men are more experienced at knowing how to validate, paying attention, making her feel wanted and sympathetic.
moving2fast Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I'm 25, the MM 35. The guy I'm seeing now is 47. I tend to get involved with older men when I'm dating, the MM wasn't a typical relationship(saw us as friends). I do have issues with my father as well.
bentleychic Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I'm curious, why? My experiences with men just slightly older have been very negative. Very immature, unable/unwilling to provide for the families, caught up in video games and hanging with the guys, not ambitious at all. (We're talking 30's, ftr and includes my exH.) Granted, this may just be my select experiences, but it is MUCH different with MM and the few older guys that I've talked to on a close relationship level. I do realize this could be more about personality and less about age, but I've found that I definitely prefer guys at least 6-10yrs older or more at this point in my life. I felt this way before I ended up marrying now exH as well as my first love was 6 years older than me. Just ftr, I don't know if "daddy issues" apply in someone only 10 years old, but I have none. LOL I have a fantastic father who has always been in my life, works his butt off and always has, a wonderful family man who would give his shirt off of his back to any random stranger and he's an awesome Grandpa. Everyone that knows him cannot say enough good about him. I definitely don't have daddy issues, though unless that means thinking finding someone with similar qualities would make me very lucky.
Lillyfree Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 i also have issues with my father, however both my H and OM are my age. i did have a brief fwb thing with a guy my father's age (single) when i was 20... and know exactly what that one was about. right now, the thought of touching someone who's 20+ years older makes me shudder.
Whisper Quiet Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 He is physically one year older than me.
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