iplaymybassinthesun Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I've had 'oneitis' for my female friend for 3 years. Shes been a good friend but I've always had stronger feelings. My previous 'oneitis' crush lasted five years before that, until she slept with my best friend. She posted on facebook that shes been in a relationship for the past two months. I'm pretty depressed about it. She and I used to text all the time, hang out, play music together. I wanted to write songs with her. Then she disappeared and now I know why. I mean, I knew this would happen. Shes a happy, upbeat, beautiful person. She only wanted to be friends. There was just no attraction. I respected that, but the feelings are there. I can't help it. I feel crushed and depressed. I know it will pass. But it feels horrible. I have oneitis crushes for years at a time.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Aww bless u thats so sweet x u will be okay try and focus on yourself and I wouldnt look at her FB as it may upset u... u will meet someone soon enough x 2
todreaminblue Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I have a crush on a guy ....he doesnt like me ....i think he is pretty special in many ways.......going on nearly two years he is the center of my radar...... in saying that i have never crushed on someone like i have him adn he can be quite blunt with me.......never had a guy i liked a lot turn me down he did.......i should have moved on but i havent...so i am dating others........i cant expect just because i have fallen for someone, they would fall for me or even see me .............i am hoping the feelings fade..i often feel guilty because i feel i am betraying my feelings for another.....warped huh...........dont check facebook and limit contact........its the only way........try to get out there....even though you are hurt....i have a theory everyone who ever has a relationship fail or never even eventuate,all date others with hurt attached......there is always another out there.......always....and feelings are emotions.......emotional attachment isnt steadfast......i hope...deb 1
Author iplaymybassinthesun Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 I've thought about deleting my facebook but its my only contact with people socially. I've been focusing on myself for about 8 years since the last woman I was with. I havent pursued a woman since but instead I get caught up in emotional attachments with women who have no idea im attached
todreaminblue Posted December 20, 2013 Posted December 20, 2013 I've thought about deleting my facebook but its my only contact with people socially. I've been focusing on myself for about 8 years since the last woman I was with. I havent pursued a woman since but instead I get caught up in emotional attachments with women who have no idea im attached what woudl happen if you decided to tell ..worst case scenario is no right....but then it might be yes.....i like you too was waiting for you to say something..you never know until you ask...deb
Author iplaymybassinthesun Posted December 20, 2013 Author Posted December 20, 2013 I asked my father what he thought. He goes 'is that all? her loss! she'll be bacj! you catch more fish with honey!' etc, and then I realized, if I had an ounce of the confidence my dad has, I would never be hurt by these trivial things
Klaatu17 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 I'm in the same boat...I have had a crazy thing for this woman since last July. It started off to be what I thought was heading towards a relationship, but I soon discovered that I was deep in the friend zone. This came to the light of day one night near the end of July in a drunken argument in a bar in which she told me "You need to get the F$%# out of this bar right now!" I left and even though I tried apologizing via text a few days later, I got no response. So 2 and 1/2 months went by with NC and I could not stop obsessing on her. Finally in the beginning of Oct we reestablished contact and have hung out about 2 or 3 times a week since then, which on the one hand is great...but on the other, I now know what she is doing pretty much every night of the week. Tonight she texted me that she had a "couple dates"...I don't even know what that means... (And I didnt ask) So as much as it's great that I have this person back in my life, it also sucks at the same time because I just like her so much and she's made it very clear that it's strictly friendsville...oh well...I just wish that I could "get over her" and just enjoy the friendship, but it doesn't seem to be happening.
Klaatu17 Posted December 21, 2013 Posted December 21, 2013 By the way, I just looked up what "oneitis" means...yup...I got it!
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