beyondcrushed Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 (edited) 9 month relationship with a guy who broke it off with me 2 months ago. We work together. After a few weeks, I finally accepted the break up and moved on. Started dating. Took weeks for my exbf and I to be able to work together without weird feelings/interactions. Just before that point, he made some shady moves at work. To clear the air, he asked to talk to me. He let me know he didn't do those "moves" on purpose and isn't being and will not be malicious towards me at work. I believed him. Then we have a personal discussion. He told me how he was ready to date and went online and my profile came up as one of his matches. I asked him how he felt when he saw my profile i.e. hurt, surprise. He said he felt nothing really, just surprised. He said was surprised by the photos I chose saying they are too glamourous and doesn't show how adventerous I am. (lol) He said when he saw me, he decided immediately that online dating isn't for him and removed his profile. (lol). Then I say, "yah, I don't really think its for me either." I told him when I first went on a young guy immediately proposition sex to me and how I ignored him. My exbf said, "why? I would go for it if a younger woman wanted sex with me." I told him I went on a date with a few men. My exbf then made assumptions saying,"Oh, I'm sure you must be going on dates and sleeping with other men, and that's fine." Meanwhile, i'm not sleeping around. He then said he doesn't know why we didn't work out. And we discussed possible reasons. Then he says I'm gorgeous and have a great personality. He said the breakup was hard for him too. He said he knows I'll always be there and would go back to him so he chooses to not and to be on his own instead (to do his own thing aka play the field). He said we need to work our **** out and get better. But he never once mentioned trying again, except that we'd just end up in the same place a few months down the road. Regardless, I felt good about clearing the air and felt it would be better to work with him. But he lied to me about a work related item since our chat. And he never strikes any conversation with me or brings anything personal up i.e. how was your weekend? No normal co-worker chit chat. He is a control freak ego maniac too. Do you think he was even bothered by my pof profile even if he didn't say he was? Just the fact he had to criticize it. And why is he so quick to make assumptions about me sleeping with men? And are his assumptions making him close the door on any thoughts about being with me anymore. Given all this, I wonder if he had or has any feelings at all for me. What do you think Edited December 18, 2013 by beyondcrushed
TylerDurdenn Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 He said he felt nothing really ^ Here's your answer
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Don't discuss your present or your future with your EXs. Nothing good comes of it. I think he was genuinely trying to be a nice guy so work isn't soo weird. I don't think it means he wants you back
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