Victory1134 Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Having a difficult time getting over break-up. Quick back story: We started dating a month after she got out of an engagement (2nd one). I moved in after 3 months and we got engaged 2 months later. Sounds more like infatuation than love. We didnt spend much time together because of her job I spent most of the time with her 2 kids. I did any and everything for her and the kids. She wasnt willing to sacrifice anything. She complained about not getting to spend time with friends. I complained about not getting to spend time with her. We started looking at houses, planning wedding... She then dumps me saying she has feelings for someone else and its not fair to me. Also said she was afraid she would always wonder "what else is out there" Said she was going to take time for herself but had a new guy over a week after dumping me. I asked her if she ever really wanted to marry me. Her answer was " I wanted to want to marry you" Anyone else ever heard this one before? So, now shes 28 and has been engaged three times (twice in a calendar year) and she has broken it off each time. NC for 6 weeks but still struggling. I still have her up on this "pedestal" for some reason. Grass is greener syndrome? Commitment-phobe? Emotionally Immature? Narcissistic Personality? All of the above? Any advice would be great...im sure im better off without her. Just cant convince myself.
EuTuBrute Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 "....now shes 28 and has been engaged three times (twice in a calendar year) and she has broken it off each time." HERE IS YOUR ANSWER 2
legion113 Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 NUTS Count your blessings. The good news is that this type of behavior isn't going away, she'll keep doing it over and over again. Don't be jealous of the new guy, he'll be going thru the same thing with her soon enough.
CaliBabe Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 The fact that she got engaged to you after two months isn't a huge red flag to you? You barely know someone after that much time. Grass is greener? Maybe. Looking for someone to take care of her? Maybe. Either way, she ended it and if I were you, I would be glad that she did this now, so early on, than later. I'm sorry this happened to you, but this screamed of red flags.
Author Victory1134 Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 Nope after 4 months... Wait that doesn't sound much better
organizedchaos Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 OP, you REALLY didn't see the fact that she got out of an engagement a month prior to getting with you, and it was her 2nd one this year, as a WARNING SIGN? And you get engaged to her just 4 MONTHS LATER??? Seriously? You don't know what went wrong?
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