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Why will a guy cry...if his girlfriend is going away from him

 

PS :The guy broke up with the girl(for whom he cried) after a couple of months from that meeting over another girl

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Too vague a question, imposible to answer.

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Yep, too vague. Though I suppose it would be because guys also have emotions, even if it's expected that they aren't to show them as much as girls do.

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Sabrina88, maybe you were born in 98? That would make sense.

I agree, the question is quite vague, and it looks like one of those I know he knows that I know that he knows...

 

Anyway, if he had this girlfriend, and they break up, maybe it'll take him some time to get over it. Also, at times people need to break up for rational reasons, but that doesn't mean they stop being attracted to that person.

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Here is my story

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/419050-my-long-distance-boyfriend-likes-my-friend

 

I am trying to get over my ex who left me for my so called friend and geting married to her now...but this question keeps on bothering me that...

 

When i met him and if he was not in love with me ..as he met my friend and fell for her...then why was he so emotional when i was leaving him two things happened

 

1.He cried and hugged me telling me that he don't want me to leave him.

2.During the trip he told me he want o marry me and spend his life with me but the moment i was leaving he said me these words "I know i promised you to marry but don't take that seriously...as i was emotional at that time and i don't want to give you false hope till i talk to my parents"

 

Also, After the trip when he was ignoring me...he will call me in between just to tell me "He loves me and told me he want to be with me and he want me to never leave him"

 

Whenever i try to tell my self..."He didnt love me or I need to move on"...this thought makes me rethink whatever i am telling myself...Please help me..I want to get over this feeling of being rejected...

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I remember your story, Sabrina.

 

I can think of two things.

 

1) He fell for the other girl, so what to do with you then? He had to detach himself from you but in a delicate manner, because he must know how sensitive you are, and he surely wouldn't want to hurt you. But you should understand that he cannot stay with you just not to let you down. He needs to be with the one he's in love with. He probably got emotional when you were leaving. We cannot know what was on his mind, like ""this is the last time I see her" or "this is the end between us" or what else. You could have asked him all these questions you're obsessing about. But he's also young, and maybe dealing with some emotions for the first time. So he might not even be fully aware of what was going on with him, lots of confusion, or torn between two girls, etc.

 

OR

 

2) He decided to take the easier way, the other girl is where he leaves, he makes his parents happy. No troubles in sight, apparently. But we don't know if he's really in love with this girl, is it infatuation? Will their relationship work long-term? Does she love him as much as you do? Will she make him happy? Maybe he's making the wrong decision, you cannot tell, and probably he cannot tell either. But it's his decision, and you cannot change it.

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I remember your story, Sabrina.

 

I can think of two things.

 

1) He fell for the other girl, so what to do with you then? He had to detach himself from you but in a delicate manner, because he must know how sensitive you are, and he surely wouldn't want to hurt you. But you should understand that he cannot stay with you just not to let you down. He needs to be with the one he's in love with. He probably got emotional when you were leaving. We cannot know what was on his mind, like ""this is the last time I see her" or "this is the end between us" or what else. You could have asked him all these questions you're obsessing about. But he's also young, and maybe dealing with some emotions for the first time. So he might not even be fully aware of what was going on with him, lots of confusion, or torn between two girls, etc.

 

OR

 

2) He decided to take the easier way, the other girl is where he leaves, he makes his parents happy. No troubles in sight, apparently. But we don't know if he's really in love with this girl, is it infatuation? Will their relationship work long-term? Does she love him as much as you do? Will she make him happy? Maybe he's making the wrong decision, you cannot tell, and probably he cannot tell either. But it's his decision, and you cannot change it.

 

I understand whatever you are trying to tell me...but what i am confused is...i am having this feeling of hatred for my ex boyfriend and my ex friend..as i m feeling like a fool in this entire situation and having a feeling that i am worthless....i don't know how to get over this..don't know how to forget all this and move on...should i forgive dem for what they did and be fine with all this situation or should i erase those ppl from my life...n move on...i am not able to stick to one thing....keep thing about why this happ...how can someone do that and all this

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I can't tell you what to do or how to deal with it. We're all different. I guess I wouldn't hide the fact that he wanted to be my boyfriend, I would let my mother know. And anyone else asking me about it, so that the truth is known, but without giving out vibes of hatred, just carelessly. You need to move on. Go no contact with both friends.

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