justash-x Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Does anyone else just feel like shaking their ex and screaming 'what the hell are you doing! You gave up on the best thing ever!' I get angry just thinking he knows he's going to regret it and no one else will put up with the crap I did! I'm still so upset about it all and it is still so raw but I really just want him to wake up and realize what he is throwing away
Poppyolive Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Does anyone else just feel like shaking their ex and screaming 'what the hell are you doing! You gave up on the best thing ever!' I get angry just thinking he knows he's going to regret it and no one else will put up with the crap I did! I'm still so upset about it all and it is still so raw but I really just want him to wake up and realize what he is throwing away Yup, I feel like that...but its him that has to realize, as much as we like to force it...if we force it they won't acknowledge it....or they'll pretend anyways. I don't know your story, so i can only offer advise on this actual post...I sorry you are hurting and that its all so raw....Im sure his emotions are blocking his "realization light bulb" and he will have to go through things, experiences that will bring him to the place of realizing what he had, lost and there may or may not be regret. He may share this with you or he may just bury it and go on. You can only take comfort in knowing all the good you brought to the relationship, and take comfort in the lessons learned and bring them forth in time for a beautiful new love...I am a firm believer (as much as it pains and we want to scream our eyeballs out) that we are given experiences in life for us to learn, grow and clear the air for the best possible opportunities. I feel you, i feel like this a lot with my own relationship that ended, i take comfort in knowing i was the best i could possibly be to him and our love and he knows he wasn't...he will need some more experiences in his life to realize his issues and realize he lost an warm, loving woman...and which i"ll say...TOO BAD looser! Go forth dear one and be the best version of yourself...he can suck an egg! teehee 2
ponchsox Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Yes, I got very angry and called my ex some really low things. Don't lash out at them like I did, do it here or go and scream outside! 1
Kermit76 Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 After almost 4 months I still get angry. I am certain my ex will regret it one day. She just needs some jerk guys to take her out. However my ex has a big ego and even if she had some regret she would never let me know. Its sad but I hope to learn from this 2 year relationship and in time be healed to find love again. 1
EuTuBrute Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 There is alot of posts on the forum that say i regret breaking up with my ex... It hits most everyone at some point... The question is when...HOWEVER there is nothing you can do to "wake" them up...Sometimes they have to hit rock bottom first 2
legion113 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I usually carry a large anchor and heavy chain to speed them on their way to rock bottom. Combined it's called "NO CONTACT"You just place it on them and walk away, and never look back 3
rosedl Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Healthy. Break up is a loss. We grieve losses besides death. Shock Denial Depression Anger Acceptance..... These aren't linear processes either.....I think everyone goes through an angry stage. I did notice that you wrote that you put up with sh*t no one else would tolerate... One of the things I try to do (and believe me, I don't always succeed)....I try to look at my role and examine what I did, what I shouldn't have put up with, and put the onus on me in a few ways...owning real mistakes I made (being contemptuous and biting was one thing I did, he certainly provoked it but it doesn't mean I am not accountable for it)....also, what did I put up with that I should not have tolerated? And, finally, what are the real points for this break up that he is right about that I don't want to see because I want to stay together? 2
ponchsox Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 After almost 4 months I still get angry. I am certain my ex will regret it one day. She just needs some jerk guys to take her out. However my ex has a big ego and even if she had some regret she would never let me know. Its sad but I hope to learn from this 2 year relationship and in time be healed to find love again. My ex has an ego as well and now I'm the jerk and ******* because I got angry at her. I hope it's starting to sting just a little for her.
soccerrprp Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 I get angry just thinking he knows he's going to regret it and no one else will put up with the crap I did! Sorry you feel this way. I am curious as to why you think it's worth the energy to regret the break-up considering your words above? If true, it would appear you have an unhealthy view of your ex. That is, you regret the break-up and yet you are aware that he did not treat you as well as you would have liked and worse, you tolerated BS that others would not have. This also talks to your own self-esteem. Curious.
Real36 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Poppyolive said it all and said it well! We all feel that way at some point, OP. Everyone who has commented on this thread so far is spot on. Just how it is. It will get better!
Kizza Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 "I get angry just thinking he knows he's going to regret it and no one else will put up with the crap I did!" When you find a man who is decent to you then you will be shaking your own self and saying wtf was I thinking that my ex was the one!! I was such a blind idiot, I feel sorry for whoever is dumb enough to put up with his crap now.
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Remember though... they made this decision. Chances are they feel it was a good one and won't regret shyte!!! No reason to get hung up or waste any energy on what they may or may not think... 1
crederer Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Yeah. It's funny cause I felt this way and wanted ex back so bad. Then she came to her senses and wanted to get back together. It's what I thought I wanted but couldn't do it. I did nothing but treat her right and it wasn't good enough for her, and now wants another chance? Naw, you had your chance, I'm gunna find a girl that appreciates it and doesn't shop around hoping to find something better and realize that there isn't anything better and try to come back. They got one shot with me. I treat em right. If they fail to realize that, not my problem. 3
Kermit76 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Could have said it better crederer. Exactly what my ex was like. I remember taking her out for her 30th bd. A weekend getaway at a nice resort. I planned a nice weekend only for her to tell me the restaurant was the worst food she ever had and that there was someone from her past who might be my competition. Unreal looking back. Didnt want to start up on her bd but my fault for dropping it. Treated her so well and she wanted new experiences and to see what was out there. Well there are a lot of jerks out there, cheaters, liars and I am a fond believer what goes around comes around. Its over but I know I was a great bf. Her family and friends saw it. Too bad she didn't. Even when people she met of mine complimented me that I was great, a good person she never seen to acknowledge. My ex and others think they're so smart and were easy to find. As years later they realize when they're miserable in a relationship that maybe they have regrets. Nothing we can do now. Their mind is made up. Let them explore the field out there.
deni9 Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Hope you don't mind me releasing my anger on your thread: I AM SO ANGRY!!! AND LITTLE BY LITTLE I AM ACCEPTING THE WHOLE THING! I was such a good gf to him! I tolerated everything mistake and hurt he has done. I gave him chances out of love to later find out he was doing stuff behind my back. finding woman on Craiglist. lying and doing things behind my back. and now, he wont leave me alone! now he chases me asking for another chance. that he loves me blah blah blah...all lies and bull crap. I don't want him anymore. all the love I had for him turned in to disgust. I want him to disappear out of MY life. I hope he gets better. and learns from his mistakes. I will never hurt anyone again because of this. I know how it feel...never again. and never again will I tolerate it!!! im so angry. and its all toward myself for putting up with it. I gave him so much and it pisses me off. he didn't deserve it. why am I such an idiot???? Psh. all because of love..... that moron....Im praying out of this one. seriously!!! this anger has gone crazy. HE BETTER LEAVE ME ALONE!!! Sorry for the rant...I just had to release it!!! People need to start appreciating others and their love! 1
Author justash-x Posted December 19, 2013 Author Posted December 19, 2013 It was a REALLY bad break up so that's probably why I feel this way..... He ended it 3 months ago and I still don't have an exact reason why!
Haydn Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 You dont need a reason and you have no right to expect one. Its over and done. Now you can live again. Welcome to the club. haydn It was a REALLY bad break up so that's probably why I feel this way..... He ended it 3 months ago and I still don't have an exact reason why!
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