jennysuzie Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 hi all I have just decided to post on this forum, more as a way to vent and distract myself than anything else. I was with my boyfriend, living together, for just over two years. we also work together. a few days ago I mentioned to him we hadn't been getting on well for the past few months.....we argued and got it all out in the open....at the end of it he said he wanted to be alone. I left and stayed with my mum. its his house. over the last few days we have seen each other in work, texted a bit. texted and asked me what were we going to do? that gave me a little bit of hope. I saw him last night at the house, I had to go get some stuff. he said again he wanted to be alone, he didn't think we would last long term, but he didn't want to end it but had no option. I respect his decision, I made it very clear to him that I didn't want to end it (I wrote him a letter), I wanted to work on our relationship and sort out whatever issues we have. he have had a rocky relationship; we got together very fast after I came out of my last relationship, he had jealously issues, was quite possessive, I fought back, we argued a lot. things sometimes got physical. things settled and we got on. recently we had been bickering and arguing over little things, we weren't doing much together, just working and living together. but surely all couples go through highs and lows? in my head I know I will be ok, I have an amazing mum and sis to lean on. I know that I can't make him want me. its just so hard. im 28, and I just feel like a failure. I really thought we had a future together. I broke up with my last bf because I couldn't see a future with him. now its happened to me. everything seems so overwhelming at the moment.
calgaryhearts Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Hello there, I don't have any words of wisdom but I just wanted to let you know that this board has been a great source of strength for me over the last few days. Come back to the boards often and read other posts with similar situations. I'm going through a break-up of sorts and this board has been a god send. Wishing you strength. CalgaryHearts
Author jennysuzie Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 thanks for replying. yeah I know these boards have helped me already. and its very early days. but I cant do this no contact thing since we work together! can anyone help? I know I will be civil to him but how will I cope with seeing him so often and hearing him talking about going out, doing things without me, new gf etc?? ive been texting his mum and sister all day , they are as devastated as me. a silly part of me hopes they can change his mind. this is too hard...............
Haydn Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Hi Jen, Working with an ex is very very difficult, he dumped you? You should try to look for another position within the company somewhere away from him. You need some distance, can you get this? Time away from seeing him is what you need if possible. If things get violent, then you really dont need that. I have just decided to post on this forum, more as a way to vent and distract myself than anything else. I was with my boyfriend, living together, for just over two years. we also work together. a few days ago I mentioned to him we hadn't been getting on well for the past few months.....we argued and got it all out in the open....at the end of it he said he wanted to be alone. I left and stayed with my mum. its his house. over the last few days we have seen each other in work, texted a bit. texted and asked me what were we going to do? that gave me a little bit of hope. I saw him last night at the house, I had to go get some stuff. he said again he wanted to be alone, he didn't think we would last long term, but he didn't want to end it but had no option. I respect his decision, I made it very clear to him that I didn't want to end it (I wrote him a letter), I wanted to work on our relationship and sort out whatever issues we have. he have had a rocky relationship; we got together very fast after I came out of my last relationship, he had jealously issues, was quite possessive, I fought back, we argued a lot. things sometimes got physical. things settled and we got on. recently we had been bickering and arguing over little things, we weren't doing much together, just working and living together. but surely all couples go through highs and lows? in my head I know I will be ok, I have an amazing mum and sis to lean on. I know that I can't make him want me. its just so hard. im 28, and I just feel like a failure. I really thought we had a future together. I broke up with my last bf because I couldn't see a future with him. now its happened to me. everything seems so overwhelming at the moment.
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