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[1994O]

me and my girlfriend of 9 months broke up a week ago. she said the timing of the relationship felt wrong. we are still in love with eachother. any time i have seen her she has acted like we are a couple (i love you,kissing,cuddling,sex) all of that romantic stuff. she also says she misses me alot and she says she is confused and doesnt know how she feels. i really want her back in my life. any advice what to do? i have not initiated any contact with her she initiates it. i am so confused. she is not the type of girl to string me along aswell. we are going to a concert on thursday and she suggested dinner before the concert. i am so confused someone please help me.

she also tells me she doesnt think she will ever be able to move on from me and that she knows we will get married and have kids someday

[Omei]

some girls like to stur in some drama I have no clue why but they do even when they're perfectly happy they do it out of boredom, shes playing a game.

 

You can play too...

 

If I were you id take the breakup seriously Cancel the concert say you need time to heal, go no contact and I bet you she will retract her choice very quickly once she see's she cant be single and keep you too, sounds like she still wants you.

 

Because thats what your doing being her bf without her having to commit.

Edited December 18, 2013 by Omei

[1994O]

how long should i go no contact for? my only fear is that if i do that i will lose her. i think you are right though.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

Stay NC until she contacts u.... I dont think all is lost here but be careful how u play it... make her come to u x

[PegNosePete]

she says she is confused and doesnt know how she feels

Alarm bells...

Normally this phrase means third party involvement.

Sorry to say, there is a very high chance that someone else on the radar, dude.

[Omei]

Alarm bells...

Normally this phrase means third party involvement.

Sorry to say, there is a very high chance that someone else on the radar, dude.

 

Maybe? But since shes saying things like I love you and I know were gonna have kids, marry I'll never be the same without you, the im bored gonna play with him still sticks in my mind and if he went instead of gravling I think shed be in a huge shock.

 

I used to do it as a young girl I think many young couples do this.

 

How old is she?

[1994O]

she is 17 and I can honestly say there is no other man involved as I would know about it.

[hermitinator]

me and my girlfriend of 9 months broke up a week ago. she said the timing of the relationship felt wrong. we are still in love with eachother. any time i have seen her she has acted like we are a couple (i love you,kissing,cuddling,sex) all of that romantic stuff.

 

 

 

She is using you.

 

I don't know who made the decision, but I am assuming it was her considering you want her back in your life but in your words, "the timing of the relationship felt wrong".

 

 

She sounds like she is playing the field (by not committing but acting like you are still together without all the hardships of the relationship, but all the benefits of romance).

 

In high school, I dumped my boyfriend by suggesting friends with benefits. That is what you are right now. In the end, it never worked out because I was stalling and cheating, not only him, but myself from moving on.

[xUnknown]

trust me on it....Cancel the concert and tell her you can't do that. go NC and stick with it. Either she'll realize what she is missing and come back, or she won't , in which case she doesn't deserve you anyways.

[1994O]

Stay NC until she contacts u.... I dont think all is lost here but be careful how u play it... make her come to u x

 

How should I play it so?

[1994O]

Also she acts so happy when see see's me. Says she missed not being with me. She's confused as she's not sure if she's made the right choice in breaking up. If I act like I don't care and like I've moved on she gets upset

[PegNosePete]

I can honestly say there is no other man involved as I would know about it.

Do you know how many guys think this? Eventually they learn (usually the hard way) that some women are pretty good at keeping secrets.

 

Well since you've already broken up you should go NC and see what happens.

[1994O]

I've looked through her phone just out of curiosity and she's not flirting with other guys so I don't know how there would be another man involved.

[1994O]

We ended the relationship due to a lot of petty fights. I think we need a break from eachother. But I really want her back in my life and anytime we have met since we broke up we have gotten on well but I think that's because the slate has been wiped clean? I know we are meant to be together. She even says it herself.

[Omei]

If you want any chance of getting respect and perhaps her back you need to get her to actually miss you to be actually gone so she can regret her choice.

 

Easier said then done but if not done its likely you're gonna be strung along for however long you let it with no reward.

[1994O]

We went to the concert and had a great night. We chatted after and eventually she told me that she would give it another chance but is just scared of ending up back in the same place and losing me forever. I think in time she will realise that things have changed and we won't end up like that. She suggested to go on another date and see how things go

[legion113]

I think you two should sit down and really figure out what went wrong and the steps you can both make to avoid those same mistakes. Going back in without doing this will lead to the same result. Don't let her realize things have changed, SHOW her.

[1994O]

so should i confront her about this? i think i should wait until after the next date as i dont want to jump straight back in. she did seem positive about giving it another go but didnt say it yet