kiterider12 Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Shes been a friend for 10 months. We've both stopped talking about other boys/girls. We talk from time to time. I spent thanksgiving with her family. she asked me to go to church with her the last few weeks. I want to see if there is anything more there. I asked her to my company xmas dinner and she came. and said she wanted to come. I love being around her and talking to her i want to see if there is anything more but very timid to findout. i dont want to "confess' anything just find out. Curve ball .....she leaves the country this weekend for 3 weeks. Should i ask her out on a date before she leaves? I texted her late tonight about doing something like this party date again when she gets back with no responce. Thoughts ideas? plans?
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Ask her on a date before she leaves. Discuss what kind of contact if any you will have while she's away. 1
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Shes been a friend for 10 months. We've both stopped talking about other boys/girls. We talk from time to time. I spent thanksgiving with her family. she asked me to go to church with her the last few weeks. I want to see if there is anything more there. I asked her to my company xmas dinner and she came. and said she wanted to come. I love being around her and talking to her i want to see if there is anything more buvery timid to findout. i dont want to "confess' anything just find out. Curve ball .....she leaves the country this weekend for 3 weeks. Should i ask her out on a date before she leaves? I texted her late tonight about doing something like this party date again when she gets back with no responce. Thoughts ideas? plans? Cowards die many times before their deaths. The brave experience death only once Go for it!!!
Author kiterider12 Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 i took the risk and put myself out there i asked her, " i had a great time last night and thought 3 weeks in a long time. I'd like to take you out before you leave. I know your really busy so i am free any day....which day is best for you?" She responded: "I just put my time off in! I'm slammed all week, I have xmas party on thursday xmas with my family sat, girls night out friday and leave sunday" ( i knew about all these event beford hand its not somthing being made up. She left it VERY neutral, and cant blame her. I guess i need to wait until she gets back and then see where to go from there. Thoughts??
Author kiterider12 Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 i see this as an accomplishment.....first time ive mentioned i may be interested
Zahara Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Hmm...if I was into a guy, I'd really want to see him before I leave for 3 weeks. I would have suggested breakfast, maybe lunch, brunch, coffee -- somewhere in between all her other plans for Thurs, Fri and Sat. I guess just wait till she gets back. 1
crederer Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Dont ask, tell her that you're going to take her out when she comes back. Girls like when a guy takes charge.
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 i took the risk and put myself out there i asked her, " i had a great time last night and thought 3 weeks in a long time. I'd like to take you out before you leave. I know your really busy so i am free any day....which day is best for you?" She responded: "I just put my time off in! I'm slammed all week, I have xmas party on thursday xmas with my family sat, girls night out friday and leave sunday" ( i knew about all these event beford hand its not somthing being made up. She left it VERY neutral, and cant blame her. I guess i need to wait until she gets back and then see where to go from there. Thoughts?? Always be thinking... "What's Next?" and getting her to commit to something. You should have asked for a lunch or something with a low time commitment, but high fun potential. With women you are going to find that persistent and aggressive will open doors otherwise impossible. Never be afraid to ask for her calendar space! You are worth it... right? Oh... and great job in taking that step! Go For It!
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