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The 5 Love Languages: How Would You Categorize Them?

Under The Radar

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Under The Radar Established Member

Under The Radar

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These are the 5 expressions of love for those that have not read the book:

 

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

I would rank my preferences as follows:

 

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Physical Touch

3. Quality Time

4. Acts of Service

5. Receiving Gifts

 

I'm curious ...... how would you rate your love languages?

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manders_01 Established Member

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1. Quality Time

2. Physical Touch

3. Words of Affirmation

4. Acts of Service

5. Receiving Gifts

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fujidabruin Established Member

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Coincidentally, I ranked the 5 LL's the exact same way..... not the way I expected, previous to reading the Chapman book.

 

BTW..... I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anybody who wishes to understand loving relationships. If it is worth your time to build something intimate and lasting, then it is WELL WORTH taking a few hours to read the Chapman book.

 

Thanks for posting this UnderTheRadar

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AnyaNova Established Member

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Great thread! You do come up with some interesting things to discuss up in that loft above where you work (am assuming a gym? Hoping I'm not remembering the wrong person!).

 

For me

 

And since I'm curious if there are any trends (ooooh, I have SPSS, when I learn how really well, I could run an ANOVA), is like to add that it might be interesting if people listed their age and gender so it easy to spot and find.

 

Female 35

 

1) physical touch and quality time tie for the top

3) words of affirmation

4) acts of service

5) receiving gifts (not that I don't like to receive gifts per Se).

 

 

 

 

These are the 5 expressions of love for those that have not read the book:

 

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

I would rank my preferences as follows:

 

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Physical Touch

3. Quality Time

4. Acts of Service

5. Receiving Gifts

 

I'm curious ...... how would you rate your love languages?

MrCastle Established Member

MrCastle

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1.) Physical touch

2.) Quality Time

3.) Acts of service

4.) Words of affirmation

5.) Receiving gifts

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

Eternal Sunshine

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Physical touch

Quality time

Words of affirmation

Acts of service

Gifts

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regine_phalange Established Member

regine_phalange

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These are the 5 expressions of love for those that have not read the book:

 

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

I would rank my preferences as follows:

 

1. Words of Affirmation

2. Physical Touch

3. Quality Time

4. Acts of Service

5. Receiving Gifts

 

I'm curious ...... how would you rate your love languages?

 

Thats nice!

 

1. Acts of service

2. Physical touch

3. Quality time

4. Words of affirmation

5. Receiving gifts

Emilia Established Member

Emilia

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1. Quality Time

2. Physical Touch

3. Words of Affirmation

4. Acts of Service

5. Receiving Gifts

Same, the first three quite close together and way ahead of the last 2.

Shepp Established Member

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These are the 5 expressions of love for those that have not read the book:

 

 

 

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Okay I haven't read or heard of the book but taking them to mean what I assume to mean then i'd have to say:

1. Quality Time - this has got to be number one by a mile for me

2. Physical Touch - important for me

3. Acts of Service - assuming this means like doing things for each other and not acting like a servant.

4. Words of Affirmation - words just aren't that important to me

5. Receiving Gifts - not that I dislike gifts but their not essential at all.

carhill Established Member

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1. Physical Touch

2. Words of Affirmation

3. Acts of Service

4. Quality Time

5. Receiving Gifts

 

I've read the book and it resides in my RV for repeat reading. I first came across it while in MC and reading a book on HSP (which ties into my priority list).

Quiet Storm Established Member

Quiet Storm

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Mine Female, 37

 

1. Acts of Service

2. Words of Affirmation

3. Physical touch

4. Quality Time

5. Receiving Gifts

 

My husbands Male 39

 

1. Physical Touch

2. Acts of Service

3. Quality Time

4. Words of Affirmation

5. Receiving Gifts

 

 

It is important to note that just because you prefer to receive love in certain ways- does not mean that you naturally show your love that way. It often takes conscious effort to express love in ways that don't come naturally.

 

For example, many men say they show love by Acts of Service- being a good provider, warming up her car, carrying the groceries, etc. But they prefer to feel love by "physical touch".

 

It's not going to work if a guy says "My love language is Acts of Service. I show you I love you by warming up your car in the morning, I massage your feet, I work 10 hours a day for us. I need more sex!" And then she says "Well, I iron your clothes, run the kids around while you're at work, I'm even nice to your mother! I need more romantic words".

 

The point is to figure out your partners love language, so that you know what they need to feel loved. And for your partner to figure out your language, so that they can give you what you need.

 

I've seen guys say "I work 60 hours a week for this family- she has to know I love her!" Meanwhile, she is craving the romantic words he used to say when they were dating. She doesn't feel loved, which erodes the connection she feels, which means she's less likely to be "in the mood".

 

It is a very good book & if every couple were to read it early in their relationship, it would solve a lot of problems. Unmet needs create a lot of resentment, which slowly takes over until there's nothing good left.

jphcbpa Established Member

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Male, 41 years old.

 

How I receive love...

 

1) Quality Time - quality time means quality, not necessary needing to see each other everyday. when we are together let's us eat, laugh, snuggle, share, play ect

2) Physical Touch - playful touching, snuggles, hand holding, teasing

3) Words of Affirmation - I enjoy hearing things like, "I love you, thinking about you, sweet pet names" etc

4) Acts of Service - I would rather serve than be served

5) Gifts - I would rather spoil than be spoiled

 

I show love more by acts of service (helping cook/clean, being thoughtful) and gifts (flowers, hidden love notes)

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violet1 Established Member

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Funny you would post this thread. I've read bits and pieces of the book and I recently took a love languages quiz online.

 

1. Acts of Service- It brightens my day when my partner does things for me without me asking. For example, coming home to a clean home, laundry done, taking out the garbage, etc.

2. Words of Affirmation- I adore being told I'm loved or that I look beautiful when I've taken a lot of time getting ready. Things like that melt my heart.

3. Physical Touch- I love holding hands in public, big bear hugs, cuddling on the couch watching TV.

4. Quality Time- I like spending time with the person I'm with, but I don't need his full, undivided attention all of the time.

5. Receiving Gifts- I'm not much of a materialistic person. Unless there was a lot of thought put into a gift, I really don't care to receive one. I'd much rather give than receive.

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Daisy2013 Established Member

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1. Quality Time/Physical Touch tie

2. Words of Affirmation

3. Receiving Gifts

4. Acts of Service

 

I also tend to show my love in this order. There is nothing better than quality time or a hug for me. Gifts might be tied in first as well for me showing love as I enjoy giving to those I love just because.

BlametheIrish Established Member

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Physical touch

Quality time

Words of affirmation

Acts of service

Gifts

 

Although it is a gift to spend quality time together, with acts of service by physical touch and words of affirmation. :)

zebracolors Established Member

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38 yo female:

 

Quality time

words of affirmation (If this refers to things like encouragement?)

physical touch

Acts of service/gifts

 

For me, the acts of service and gifts tie at 5 because I feel that the quality time and words of affirmation are reward enough for me. Though if those are done or given, its because the other wants to do them and I do appreciate them:)

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