IDreamOfNormalWomen Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 I have been looking for a girlfriend for years. A problem is that I don't have any female friends to hook me up because I share so few interests with women. I am one of those "hyper-rational" men who is very number- and rule-oriented. I am an engineer, and my Myers-Briggs is INTJ. Apparently a personality like mine is kryptonite for women. I am self-aware enough to put the brakes on my natural inclinations when in social situations; it's not as if I am a boor or an autist. It's just that you should be able to be yourself around the one you love, and frankly I can't be myself around any women I know. I have met a few (VERY few) women whom I get along with, and invariably I am not attracted to them physically. I can attract women I am physically attracted to, but usually nothing proceeds beyond a first or second date because I have so much trouble connecting with them. I am very near to resigning myself to singledom. I really think there's something biological going on here, like the personality traits I require to get along with someone are just very rare among women. Couple that with the need for physical attraction and the number of women I'm compatible with is vanishingly small.
sportzhl24 Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 In your case I think you really need to learn to be more accepting of people and less critical of characteristics. Know this: nobody is perfect. Nobody. Every human has character flaws, and if you are going to be in a relationship you need to learn to look past certain flaws; even embrace them. And also, this may sound inappropriate, but think with your dick a little more. Use your physical attraction to women to get you closer to them, in other words. I hope that helps 1
CrystalCastles Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 I think you might be fishing in the wrong ponds. You should look for a personality similar to yours. I'm an INFJ and I'm seeing an INTJ. We're getting along great! Maybe look for scientists/engineers? They tend to be more introverted and you'd share a lot of similar interests.
Author IDreamOfNormalWomen Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 I think you might be fishing in the wrong ponds. You should look for a personality similar to yours. I'm an INFJ and I'm seeing an INTJ. We're getting along great! Maybe look for scientists/engineers? They tend to be more introverted and you'd share a lot of similar interests. For sure. The problem is it's a numbers game. Only 19% of engineers are women, with a slightly higher percentage among the physical sciences and parity among the biological sciences. I have gotten along well with the female doctors I have known, but thus far nothing has stuck.
Author IDreamOfNormalWomen Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 In your case I think you really need to learn to be more accepting of people and less critical of characteristics. Know this: nobody is perfect. Nobody. Every human has character flaws, and if you are going to be in a relationship you need to learn to look past certain flaws; even embrace them. And also, this may sound inappropriate, but think with your dick a little more. Use your physical attraction to women to get you closer to them, in other words. I hope that helps It's not as if I am turning down fun times with attractive women. The problem is that the women are of an age where they don't want to spend time with people they have no future with, with whom they are not compatible. I am getting there too. If you are saying I should leverage physical attraction so a woman can "learn how I work", then I see what you are saying. In my experience it doesn't last long enough for that to come to fruition though.
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