Philosopher Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 On online dating I have had quite a few occasions where I have asked a girl for their number and suggested meeting up. They have then messaged me back but then in their reply they have completely ignored the question regarding meeting up. I usually suggest meeting up by the third or fourth message. Are these women genuinely not yet comfortable meeting up or are they wasting my time?
meeji Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 If I were you, I would move on to the next. I have had this happen to me but more like them saying they wanted to meet but couldn't give me a time and place. I have also had guys set a text and blow my phone up with texts and emails right up to 2 hours before our meeting time and then they disappear. The problem with online dating is that as much we would think people are there to find someone people are there for many different reasons. Recently single and wanting a distraction. Boredom. They have relationships already but the internet allows them to be discreet about their extra curricular activities. They are seriously looking for a match. They want to go out and date but the thought of it terrifies them so they have one foot in the door and the other is ready to run. They are only looking for sex but acting as if they want a relationship. The list goes on. Don't believe that everyone there is ready and willing or emotionally available just because they are on a dating site. Also, don't take it personal if you run into one of these situations. If you know what you want and a flaky woman is not it... keep it moving. Next! 3
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Depends on what you want. If you want an on line friend to flirt with you're fine. If you would like someone to date IRL, they are wasting your time. By the 3-4 interaction, people who are serious are ready to move forward.
Targetlock Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 I've also had this happen a couple of times recently, it can be quite frustrating, you just got to move on and try again.
Author Philosopher Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 Thanks all for the advice I will move onto messaging some girls who actually want to meet up. Perhaps I should switch to a paid online site, I guess if you have to pay, there will be fewer time wasters on those sites. 2
meeji Posted December 18, 2013 Posted December 18, 2013 Thanks all for the advice I will move onto messaging some girls who actually want to meet up. Perhaps I should switch to a paid online site, I guess if you have to pay, there will be fewer time wasters on those sites. I actually haven't noticed a difference on paid sites either but I do realize that online dating is totally different for men and women in that aspect so I cannot comment on that. For me, it was the same.
pyramid Posted December 19, 2013 Posted December 19, 2013 Are these women genuinely not yet comfortable meeting up or are they wasting my time? It's one & the same for me. If someone doesn't want to meet up by the 3rd/4th message, regardless of the reason... they are wasting my time. Too much false chemistry/attachment before meeting in person can be really disappointing.
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