geminidarling Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 This is the first time i have ever posted on this board but i hav read alot of everyone elses problems and i thought it was about time i plucked up the courage to talk about my problem. Well here goes: In the middle of 2004 i found out this guy at my work liked me. He wasnt really my type but i think if i had got to no him better i could have gone out with him. I was nice about rejecting him and i thought it was all over until he tryed to kiss me at the work christmas party. We both hadnt had anything to drink so we were completely sober. I told him to back off and now i havent talked to him since. The other day i found out this other guy who works at my work liked me. I dont no anything about him but he knows everything about me, my middle name, my last name, the names of me pets and i was told by another employee at work that he went around asking everyone for my number until someone gave it to him. Now he keeps ringing and messageing me all of the time. He was always polite when we would se eachother before like the little hello how r u and things like that and now everyone is telling me i should be flattered and i guess iam a little. I understand people have crushes and generally it will go away but i think my main problem is i keep inventing reasons not to go out with people. Iam 16 years old, so how do i no what my type is. and even though i have had boyfriends before it was nothing serious. And how do i get over the inventing of reasons to not go out with someone to be able to find out the type of guy iam looking for? ps. sorry if its a bit long and confusing
iceisles Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 You will never know what your "type" is until you get out there and date. Lots of people are much different than they appear on the surface, so don't be afraid to give guys a chance. After awhile, you will begin to recognize what's important to you when you date. And definitely don't be discouraged if things don't go well at first, or even for awhile, because dating is not easy. When you do find someone that you know you aren't interested in, just be polite and tell them that. You don't have to make excuses, but if you feel like protecting their feelings, I guess there is nothing wrong with saying that you are seeing someone or don't have the time to date, etc. I always believe in honesty wherever possible, though. Good luck with everything.
alphamale Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 Originally posted by geminidarling Iam 16 years old, so how do i no what my type is. and even though i have had boyfriends before it was nothing serious. And how do i get over the inventing of reasons to not go out with someone to be able to find out the type of guy iam looking for? sweetie, you are about 12 or 13 yrs removed from wearing diapers and are still a youngin. you know very little about yourself or the world but will figure it out over time (as in decades, not months). ahhh...probably by the time you are 30 or 35 you will figure out your "type" after you have had pain and grief with men who are not your "type" life is a learing lesson that is on-going and many times brutal.
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