fides Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 (edited) Hi everyone. First post here, but been an avid anonymous reader for a while now. I was just hoping that you guys can help me out. So a couple of weeks ago, I met a girl, and she impressed me a lot. I became slowly interested in her as we hung out a couple of times. I think she saw me as a potentially really close friend (maybe she was interested? not sure), as we talked and got to know each other well. We were able to talk about some deep and intimate topics! A few days ago, I basically decided to "go for it" and asked her out on a real date sometime. So far, I haven't heard back. I think she's probably not interested and is ignoring me. I totally understand if she's not interested, and I have no hard feelings. But I worry if we will ever talk to each other again... I don't want to annoy her by contacting her again. But at the same time, I feel guilty that I possibly wrecked something good between us. I just don't want it to be awkward, when I see her again down the line. What should I do? I guess I'm having a hard time moving on and not thinking about it, for some strange reason. Thanks for the responses! Edited December 17, 2013 by fides
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 How did you ask her out? If it wasn't in person, do you know she got the message? If it was, you should have gotten an instant answer. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 i think askign in person is the best way by voice call ro face to face........never by text....i think an amounbt fo awkwardness should eb expected........when i got rejected by this guy i really liked i felt really awkward with him....still do a little bit....because he growls at me occasionally ...not literally....but ....lol...ahem...not explaining.....smilin..he basically has no qualms in telling me where to get off...i respect that..he could be a bit more smooth about it..... i try to make it not awkward for him i am open if he talks to me...if he doesnt talk .....i dotn approach or open myself ...i steer clear....he can be a little blunt.....sometimes and gives me mixed vibes...........i cant take that mixed emotions bouncing off him....... because those feelings of mine beat the same always and are not evaporating............maybe she will do the same for you..make it easy ......or she might be blunt.....all in all......life will go on......no matter what she does......or doesnt do.......dont be hard on you...you feel what you feel .....if she is mean.....stuff her.....smile and be yourself...deb
MalachiX Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Why beat yourself up? If you hadn't asked then you'd be in a frustrating situation where you had feelings for this person but where too frightened to do anything. You'd probably be on here venting about being stuck in the "friend zone." You put yourself out there and now it's up to her to see what she wants to do. Honestly, if she stops speaking to you because you asked her out then that's not the kind of person you really want as a friend or a girlfriend. If she at least has the decency to give you an answer, you can take a break and hopefully go back to being friends. At least then you'll have the knowlage that you gave it a shot.
Author fides Posted December 18, 2013 Author Posted December 18, 2013 Yeah, it would be better if I had asked her in person. But here's the deal, we normally don't see each other in our lives unless we plan for it. We don't live near each other, we don't work or go to school together. So I was thinking I would ask her out to dinner again so I can see how she truly feels, and I would get an instant answer. I basically texted her along the lines of: "Hey, it was nice seeing you. I really enjoyed getting to know you better over dinner. Would you like to go out to dinner again some other time?" So I haven't heard back from that. Maybe that was too suggestive, especially since we've only had 1 planned meeting before this? What should I do now to try to salvage this situation?
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