What's the point anyway? Only good looking ppl will find love, esp multiple times

[polynomial]

There's no point in this thread either because no matter what words someone might say, it still won't make me attractive. I just feel super low and depressed right now. Like what's even the point of trying to move on? Ain't no better life waiting for me there anyway.

[d0nnivain]

Nobody is attractive when they are depressed.

 

 

There is a lid for every pot.

 

 

If you don't find yourself attractive, what are you doing to change that? I recently got my hair cut & colored & bought a new outfit. It helped. When you look better you feel better.

[Keenly]

I've seen married ugly people, all the time actually. It happens.

[moving2fast]

polynomial, I haven't the words to convince you of a point. I know you may not believe it, but someone somewhere has found and will find you attractive. It's not all about looks. Not all "pretty" people find it, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder...Everyone looks good to someone for some reason or another and looks are superficial and everyone has his/her own palate. Please know, you are beautiful, love yourself first, appreciate your uniqueness and all you have to offer. I really wish I could hug you, hope this cyberhug suffices: ((((polynomial)))

 

When you're feeling better, you'll see yourself and life in a different light. I really am not one to talk on this subject(heard this before need to take better care). I am so sorry you're feeling this way.

[Toddbt12y1]

When someone loves you, looka are nothing. You will look good to them. You are depressed, and it amplifies your negative energies against you.

 

You are capable of finding someone. First you doubt you will over your small chest size(which wouldn't bother me), now this.

 

It is simply the chain of depression. You got a guy once or before, you can now. It is just hard.

[polynomial]

When someone loves you, looka are nothing. You will look good to them. You are depressed, and it amplifies your negative energies against you.

 

You are capable of finding someone. First you doubt you will over your small chest size(which wouldn't bother me), now this.

 

It is simply the chain of depression. You got a guy once or before, you can now. It is just hard.

 

Thanks.

I dont know why today is so hard. I've been crying all day basically. Am completely anxiety-ridden, really depressed. Feels as if ill never get out of this slump ive created myself

[InnocentMan]

You're right. All attractive people are in love, with a great partner. Conversely, all less attractive people, never find love, and live a miserable existence.

 

Also, attractive people never get dumped, suffer a loss, or get diseases. They don't understand how lucky they are. Ironically, less attractive of people tend to be the most shallow. Strange the world eh.

[Frank13]

It is better to look good than to feel good.

[radiodarcy]

i know what you mean. i'm not exactly ugly. but i'm no head turner either. it really does seem that the more blessed you are in the genetic dept, the more romantic options you have...

[InnocentMan]

It is better to look good than to feel good.

 

That's just not true. The two most attractive women I went out with, both were serious self-harmers, with borderline personality disorders. You really think they wouldn't swap their looks for peace of mind?

 

Sometimes the price people pay for being 'attractive', just isn't worth it. People like to blame their level of attractiveness on all their ills. It saves them from having to do any work on their personalities, and general attitude towards life.

 

It can even be argued, that people with average looks, are much more likely to find love. Even just from a mathematical point of view.

 

Just as a final point; your attractiveness to another human, is probably less than 50% about physical appearance.

[polynomial]

That's just not true. The two most attractive women I went out with, both were serious self-harmers, with borderline personality disorders. You really think they wouldn't swap their looks for peace of mind?

 

Sometimes the price people pay for being 'attractive', just isn't worth it. People like to blame their level of attractiveness on all their ills. It saves them from having to do any work on their personalities, and general attitude towards life.

 

It can even be argued, that people with average looks, are much more likely to find love. Even just from a mathematical point of view.

 

Just as a final point; your attractiveness to another human, is probably less than 50% about physical appearance.

 

Would love to hear the mathematical point of view (being a mathematician myself )

[InnocentMan]

Would love to hear the mathematical point of view (being a mathematician myself )

 

If you take an imaginary line, and put attractive people above it, and everyone else below it. There will be millions more people under the line, than above it. If you add to that, people of average looks are less likely to be already attached. This means, that there is a much bigger pool of potential people that you could fall in love with. Much bigger than the pool that attractive people have to choose from.

 

This is assuming that people choose partners based on physical attraction alone, which of course, is a ridiculous concept, and simply not true.

 

The one advantage that physically attractive people have, is the confidence that it gives them. This in turn, makes them more attractive.

 

You can take two people of similar levels of average attractiveness, one might be very successful with the opposite sex, while the other wallows in self-pity all their life. It's all about attitude, and a good attitude will even attract people that you consider 'out of your league'.

 

Letting the looks that you were born with dictate your entire personality, is a total waste of a life.

[Chris715]

Would love to hear the mathematical point of view (being a mathematician myself )

 

Well then polynomial, you're already VERY attractive to me

[Toddbt12y1]

Thanks.

I dont know why today is so hard. I've been crying all day basically. Am completely anxiety-ridden, really depressed. Feels as if ill never get out of this slump ive created myself

 

It is the cycle of depression. Of losing something you valued. You will have moments of glee and moments of sorrow. If you don't give up, you will find out, that you've won. That things can and have gotten better. Sometomes, you have to get dragged through the muddy waters of emotions.

 

When you really love a person, as if they are your soul, and you two are one. To lose that person is like having a loved one die. You'll be alright. Just fight through it. You aren't ugly. Your boobs are fine. Your mind is beautiful. All of you is, just realize this confidence.

[Haydn]

No one is ugly. I bet you are a right head turner and well fit polynomial. As for innocent man.....Possibly gorgeous? But i am no fruit.

[polynomial]

Well then polynomial, you're already VERY attractive to me

 

sadly it's not written on my forehead tho

[Chris715]

All I know is if some girl had "mathematician" written on her forehead I would totally ask her out

[Omei]

I think I have only been attracted to one man in a relationship, upon looking all my other bfs were not attractive at all ones even pretty ugly with a broken nose that he never got fixed.

 

I am a really pretty girl, the one thing that the unattractive guys had were confidence and persistence it took them a little longer but once I was hooked I quickly fell in love and I remember at the time thinking there was no one hotter.

 

Hope that makes you feel better.

Sometimes I feel ugly too I hate my body cept my face but guys tell me im a great girl all the time, now if one would actually try for me that would be nice lol

[glimpse]

Don't base your happiness on being accepted by someone.

[BC1980]

It's all relative. My ex wasn't the cutest guy objectively, but he was to me. I was really attracted to him. He would always tell me how beautiful I was, but he still dumped me.

 

I've seen many people who are married that I personally found unattractive. My sister is a gorgeous woman, and she is single. She honestly has the worst luck with men of anyone I know, but she is much prettier than her married friends. My cousin, in the other hand is very plain looking and overweight, but she has been happily married for 10 years. It's all relative. Attractiveness comes from within quite often.

[BC1980]

Don't base your happiness on being accepted by someone.

 

Exactly. Why does getting dumped mean we weren't worthy. Why do we value ourselves less?

[stillafool]

I've seen married ugly people, all the time actually. It happens.

 

Yeah OP, just watch Bridezilla and you will see people marry no matter what they look like.

[ponchsox]

Love has nothing to do with looks. And if people base their love soley on looks, they have big time problems.

[Noproblem]

So, I won't tell your the usual clishe

 

If you think you are not attractive

 

if it's just your body. Diet, exercise, laser hair removal and if necessary surgery

 

If your body is fine, but you think you face looks ugly o

 

A dermatologist or cosmetic surgery can change that.

 

If you don't have the money for that: then work hard for a year to get the money and then change your reality ( or like Mitt Romeny used to say: Borrow money from your parents if you have to)

 

If you don't have the courage to do that then yes keep on whining!

 

But you can change by starting feeling you can be attractive

 

And FYI: I see unattractive men and women getting very healthy relationships with beautiful and successful people who love them! ALl the time!

 

Guess why?

 

Because attractiveness is not the only answer: Personality, traits, knowledge , confidence, goodness, understanding, being at the same place and the right moment, and finally having similar goals all contribute to being in a good relationships.

[L1ght]

Being attractive honestly isn't all about looks(though being clean, healthy and in shape certainly never did anyone harm).For starters success and money can pretty much buy anything in this life including love so perhaps those are the types of things you should work hard on in your life if you want to date people who are more attractive than yourself. Being successful brings a massive amount of confidence and along with this confidence a persons personality can really shine though and make them more attractive to the opposite sex. Also get in shape.....I mean like real good shape cos then at least you will be compensating for whatever natural good looks you lack in your face with a lean and sexy physique that the opposite sex would salivate at the sight of.

Its a simple choice....be a winner or be a loser, its up to you.

Edited December 20, 2013 by L1ght