larry1234 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Hi Everyone, I've been a reader of this forum on and off for a while now and could use some insight into things if anyone is willing to offer. I'll try to keep this short but background info, I recently (about 4-5 months) broke off a 5 year relationship (that to me should have ended a long time before that). Over the past month or so I began seeing a woman that I work with and we were going on unofficial dates (we never called them dates but they were evenings with just the two of us). I learned that she too had recently ended a long term relationship. We get along great, talking for hours at a time in person, smiling at each other, I'm highly attracted to her physically,all of the good signs. We work in the same company so it is very hard not to bother her too much while working (just wanting to talk to her). About 2 weeks ago I had to leave the area for work, two nights before leaving we slept together and shared a bed for the night. To be honest I was not that good in bed, I was exhausted from a long work day and did not work up to my potential. She seemed very much to like me the next day, holding hands, kissing, all that good stuff. While I was gone we were texting back and forth keeping in touch, I thought things were going great. The day before I returned home she was in an accident, no injuries just shaken up. I saw her for the first time yesterday and I'm not sure if I am over thinking things but it feels as if things have cooled on her end. Her texts have slowed to only responding to questions from me and our talks have slowed down as well. When I saw her I wanted to kiss her but for some damned reason I chickened out. I'm thinking maybe I have been smothering her too much? Pushing her away? Or am I just missing hints that her interest in me has completely dropped? She responded to a text last night when I had asked her if she needed a ride to work, her response was no as she has her car back but she said thanks as well. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Philosoraptor Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 You're over thinking things. Stop that. Just trust yourself and kiss the girl once things feel right. Stop chickening out, she was all over you after you slept together. On her end she may think you're pulling back and just wanted to get into her pants. So just kiss the girl and put down the need for all this silly anxiety.
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