Maxtor Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Sorry for the rant, and yes, i'm in a bad mood right now, dont need to adress it, i just need to write this down and read some opinions: Screw you! You, that makes dating a game, you that instead of loving your next, you make me play games, hurting feelings in the process, and killing any type of human emotion along the way. Screw those stupid images posted on social networks saying "Instead of loving other person, love youself first" or "Those who dont care are happier than those who do". Are these people stupid? If everyone cared about one another, the world would be a better place. And im not talking about loving or dating someone you dont like just because, im talking about those people who actually like the guy\girl but instead of just speading love, use and abuse the other just for plain fun and to get him\her after them. If the girl i date puts me above her, and i do the same to her, whats wrong with that? I dont have to stop having a life, but if i can get her happy and she makes me happy, everyone is happy! But those love doctors say that i have to be a challenge and i have to wait 3921749128 hours before i answer, leaving the girl in agony, but if i text her right away she would do the same to me. Argh.
Philosoraptor Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 If you don't want to play games then you need to be patient and wait for someone who is open and mature. When I was dating and a woman would play games I would let her know that I'm not going to stick around very long if she can't be open and honest. If it didn't stop I wouldn't see them anymore, simple as that. You are in control here if you don't want to play games. Just be ok being single and you can easily pilfer through the immature and find someone who matches up with you.
Meritocracy Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 So hear you bro. I only lick the taint when I'm giving a woman oral but all the LOVE DOCTORS keep saying it's supposed to be the clit. Who are they to tell me what to do? How dare they try to change me! If it wasn't for their toxic influence maybe I'll would have found a woman who loves me for me by now.
CptSaveAho Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Screw those stupid images posted on social networks saying "Instead of loving other person, love youself first" or "Those who dont care are happier than those who do". Are these people stupid? If everyone cared about one another, the world would be a better place. Common sense dictates... if you don't know how to "love yourself" how can you possibly love someone else
Author Maxtor Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 Common sense dictates... if you don't know how to "love yourself" how can you possibly love someone else Problem is, people that this to the extreme. Some even go to some gurus and apply what they learn to the relationship when the other person doesnt want to apply anything. I keep hearing "If you having a good time with her, leave!" I mean, what the hell, if i'm having a good time i'll stay.
Andy_K Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Common sense dictates... if you don't know how to "love yourself" how can you possibly love someone else When I'm single I 'love myself' quite often, but I don't think it really adds to my dating prospects 1
Woop1337 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Develop a thick skin and some self control. Because most of the time it is game. And the game is chess not checkers. As an experiment, next time you date a woman. Indulge every impulse you have when it came to her. Text her when you feel like it. Show her affection at all times, etc. Tell me how that goes. If that woman eats it up and over a consistent period of time. Good job, you just found your soulmate.
CptSaveAho Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Problem is, people that this to the extreme. Some even go to some gurus and apply what they learn to the relationship when the other person doesnt want to apply anything. I keep hearing "If you having a good time with her, leave!" I mean, what the hell, if i'm having a good time i'll stay. i dont disagree with what these dating doctors or gurus are stating... to me its "common sense" the fact that you think you are special and different and then come post here when what you are doing doesnt work... maybe its time for you to change like most people that come and post here... time to look in a mirror and chant "mirror mirror on the wall who is to blame for this fall" and point at the mirror
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Problem is, people that this to the extreme. Some even go to some gurus and apply what they learn to the relationship when the other person doesnt want to apply anything. I keep hearing "If you having a good time with her, leave!" I mean, what the hell, if i'm having a good time i'll stay. I don't have any words of wisdom or advise. I know it sucks. Dating forces me to wear a mask in order to get an opportunity to be myself later.
Eivuwan Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 I don't know what are all these games that people are talking about. My bf and I talked for hours everyday as soon as we met and we both showed each other a lot of affection. In fact, he got me a flower and a birthday cake on our first date. I don't know why dating isn't like that for others. If you don't like someone don't lead them on. If you like someone then show them that you do and if they don't reciprocate, then it's not meant be. That's all. 2
CrystalCastles Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 I completely agree with the above poster. I don't like playing games. I cannot tolerate a man who plays games. I went on a date with a man and from the get-go, the both of us were honest and open and stressed the importance of communication. If I care about someone, I'm not going to conform to some stupid society rules about playing mind games and leaving my man guessing as to what my next move is. That is stupid. If I like a guy, I will show it. There's nothing wrong and nothing disgraceful about that. People are always so afraid of putting themselves out there in the event that they'll get hurt, but that's what dating includes! If you're so scared to show affection and be honest and open because you might get hurt, don't date!
pteromom Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 You don't have to define your own reality by what the "experts" say, but it is good to read what they say and use it to analyze your thinking to see if what you are doing is in line with what you believe you SHOULD be doing. And of course to check if what you are doing is actually working for you. By all means, if you don't want to play games or wait to call, then don't. But also remember that when you are dating someone new, she: - doesn't know you yet and - has likely had some very bad or even scary dating experiences So you can't just go all gung ho and fling yourself into it, because you look like a clinger or like you are desperate. The best approach is to be open, vulnerable, and honest but also to wade in rather than fling yourself upon someone. But game playing isn't necessary if your goal is a LTR.
Author Maxtor Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 I don't know what are all these games that people are talking about. My bf and I talked for hours everyday as soon as we met and we both showed each other a lot of affection. In fact, he got me a flower and a birthday cake on our first date. I don't know why dating isn't like that for others. If you don't like someone don't lead them on. If you like someone then show them that you do and if they don't reciprocate, then it's not meant be. That's all. Just open the forum, and you'll read "should i initiate contact?" "it's been 2 days, no text reply" "he\she said its moving too fast" "should i \would i do this and that or wait" I sad thing is, in real life i've heard expressions like "ill wait for him\her, he's\she's gonna chase me" or "i'll play hard to catch" Its really depressing, i know people who went insane because the person they loved was just messing with them. Stop.
Delilah1623 Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 If there is game playing it's probably not the right Person. You're trying to get them to like what you are pretending to be instead of the real you. For example, I'm a little nuts. My last relationship I pretended to be normal. But you can only pretend for so long. My current bf thinks its cute that I talk to my dog and that he talks back. He talks to him sometimes too:love:
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