kindofsad Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Six months on since my break up after 6 years together, as far as I know Ex is still with the person she left me for. We have been NC on and off over this time, but completely NC for last 6 weeks. I went on a date for the first time last week, this is something I would not have even be able to contemplate a few months ago. It went really well and we hung out on the weekend too. I was so worried that I would not find anyone else etc. however the last couple of months I think I turned a corner my self esteem improved and I was happier. I decided I wanted to enjoy life again and not wish it away so I started chatting online and set up the date. Last night though I had the worst sleep in ages, I really could not stop thinking about my ex, I know despite the way I have been treated I still care deeply about her. I am not sure if it is christmas coming up that has triggered this or just starting acceptance after NC. I have been honest with the new person, I don't want a relationship right now and just to 'hang out', I enjoy their company and don't really think about my ex when I'm with her. Should I be thinking about my ex so long after she has moved on? Six months sounds like such a long time, but in my mind it does not feel very long.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 Im coming up for 6 months and also met someone (cant believe it! lol) I also have those moments so I guess its probably normal x Now think back to how you felt those first few days/weeks after the BU... look how far we have come :-D x
Author kindofsad Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Received a phone call from a car hire company to say my ex had not returned her car and she had used my landline number as a contact! Yesterday I was so mad that I got through Christmas and New Year without breaking NC and now this. I passed on the message through my sister, I was going to completely ignore it, but you know in the back of my mind I was worried she had an accident or something. It is amazing how much it brought her back to my mind, I did get a little 'high' at the thought of an excuse to contact her, feeling like this shows that I am not healed yet so I avoided direct contact. Really though how selfish to still use my contact details for her own means! I really think she has no idea how much I have been hurting over this break up and trying to get my life back together. *rant over* :-)
mantlefan Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Even if she did have an idea of how much you are hurting, she would probably either not care or enjoy hurting you. Either way, keep NC, and keep remembering you deserve better.
Winter blue Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Six months on since my break up after 6 years together, as far as I know Ex is still with the person she left me for. We have been NC on and off over this time, but completely NC for last 6 weeks. I went on a date for the first time last week, this is something I would not have even be able to contemplate a few months ago. It went really well and we hung out on the weekend too. I was so worried that I would not find anyone else etc. however the last couple of months I think I turned a corner my self esteem improved and I was happier. I decided I wanted to enjoy life again and not wish it away so I started chatting online and set up the date. Last night though I had the worst sleep in ages, I really could not stop thinking about my ex, I know despite the way I have been treated I still care deeply about her. I am not sure if it is christmas coming up that has triggered this or just starting acceptance after NC. I have been honest with the new person, I don't want a relationship right now and just to 'hang out', I enjoy their company and don't really think about my ex when I'm with her. Should I be thinking about my ex so long after she has moved on? Six months sounds like such a long time, but in my mind it does not feel very long. I have also reached the six month mark recently. In a way I feel a lot better than four, five months ago, but I do still think about her every day, not every moment anymore, but those memories still flesh back to me all the time. I don't know if it has anything to do with the recent contact she made. I also am seeing someone new now, when I'm with her I don't think about my ex, but when we are not together, I find myself comparing her with my ex unconsiously, err... I guess I'm not completely healed either
CelticGibson Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 You may have been broken up 6 months but in reality you are only 6 weeks out of it because you were in contact on and off up until 6 weeks ago. This is why it is still fresh to you. Stay No Contact for another 6 months and see how you feel then....
FortunateSon Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I am a little over 7 months post BU of a 6 years relationship, about a month NC after she broke contact. I also heard the first of the year that she is already in a relationship with someone, who from what I have been told, is the exact opposite of me. I am still struggling but have been getting better. I have been casually dating and can't imagine being in another relationship yet. I suppose it's important to go at your own speed, it's not a competition 1
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