Emissary Posted December 17, 2013 Posted December 17, 2013 So I work at a coffee shop in the local mall, it's a pretty busy place often and a large amount of our customers are regulars who work around the mall as well. There's one girl who started coming to our shop a few months ago, and she's quickly become my favourite, lots in common, very easy to talk to, and rather cute as well. This is so much to the point that when I see her in the lineup, I will do whatever I can within reason to make sure that when she's next in line, it's me who's going to serve her. To say the least, I quite fancy her and would like to get to know her better outside of work, hopefully as a dating prospect. The only problem is, as often as she visits our store, and no matter how well we get along, there are certain no-no's I am hesitant to commit when it comes to propositioning her. I can stretch my guise of customer service as far as being really friendly and sociable to customers, it's another thing entirely to pursue a customer romantically. I've done it before, but never at my workplace itself. I pride myself on my customer service because I'm truly one of the best there is, there's no denying it; I dislike compromising myself in that manner. I can only see her at her workplace by appointment, and it's a ladies' spa, so that's kind of out of the question there sadly. I finally found her Facebook profile after weeks of on and off searching (Facebook search sucks terribly, I had her first name which was very unique and it couldn't find her on it's own...) I wasn't able to determine much about her social life, particularly whether she has a boyfriend or not. I have three streams of thought as to what my next move could be. First, I could just ask her if she has a boyfriend, and go from there. I could ask some of her co-workers if she has a boyfriend since I now know which ones are more friendly to her outside of work. Finally, I could send her a random friend request and get my foot in the door that way. I doubt I will go the Facebook route since that's such a feeble way to do things, but it's a possibility I will still consider if need be. We have no mutual friends on Facebook, so it's not exactly believable that I just stumbled upon her profile, so that's a little awkward there.
Author Emissary Posted December 17, 2013 Author Posted December 17, 2013 I think your problem here is you don't want to break out of your professional customer service persona and be yourself to attract this girl at work. But it's the only way your going to have a chance. I would suggest next time you run into her have as much of a chat as your job allows you to have and be real with her, joke around a bit, and say you'd like to chat with her more when you can relax and not act so professional, then get her number and set up some kind of date, like go for coffee together or something simple like that. Actually my customer service persona is very much so who I am, I'm just a really nice guy and I chat and joke with virtually everybody when I can. I do intend to bend my standards and make some sort of a move on her, but I'm unwilling to do it if the scenario is not correct, it would be unlikely to be completely alone due to the Christmas rush, but at the very least I would wish to be serving her alone without any helpers. Fortunately a few of my more closer co-workers are now well aware of my infatuation, they would hopefully have the tact to find an excuse to wander off to do something when she comes to my till lol.
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