averis Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 I wont bore you all with the story its on here somewhere if you wish to read, basically my fiance and i broke up 4 months ago after a very loving relationship although there was alot of rows and violence, basically when we were lovin it was amazing when we rowed it was terrible, anyways we broke up beginning of sept after a violent row, we didnt think it was the end then 2 weeks later shes with someone else, through the contact weve had over the past 4 months shes in love with him and they r moving in together etc, so i emailed her just before christmas day and it ended up in a massive row when i told her she was a slag and an actress and basically rowed like we used to, she then said if i emailed her again she would report me for harrassment (wtf?), So my question is do i email her now 2 weeks later and apologise for my actions and tell her that im willing to be friends or should i just leave it and let her forever think im a nasty bloke, i really wanna email her to tell her that im sorry but i dont want her to think im stalking her, but i cant go on and focus on moving on with this hanging over my head, advice plz guys, much needed and much appreciated, its been 4 months, i was over her for 2 weeks but now im back to normal, advice plz.
innocntlisy1981 Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 i would defintly email her and say sorry nothing wrong with that!!and thats not harrasment then u will feel better with in urself;-)
NiCoLe20 Posted January 4, 2005 Posted January 4, 2005 i would just leave it be. let her live her life with this guy- if she really loved you she wouldve tried working things out with you instead of having this new guy move in right? and why would you want to be in a violent relationship? its not worth it to me- are you truely happy when things get violent b/w you two? thats not a healthy relationship to begin with
moon Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 I'd e-mail her and definately apologize for causing a fight with her. Maybe throw in a few words about being sorry for other fights you've had with her too. Calling somebody a "slag" isn't too nice. I'd just send out a note of sincere apology and that you wish her well. I wouldn't mention anything about friendship. I personally have never remained friends with an ex. But that's just me. I can think of one that I would probably be friends with right now and who I have had contact with but he's living in another city now and I don't have any contact now. But the reason I could be friends with that guy is because our relationship wasn't that serious and we parted mostly because one of us moved away (me). He never seemed to hold any grudges against me when I did see him again and he was always friendly and nice. But the way you're making out your split---I wouldn't be asking for friendship right now. I'd just say your sorrys and tell her if there is more contact between the two of you in the future you'll leave it up to her to decide. Wish her well.........even though you hurt like hell. But at least you won't feel like the guy who's trying to push his way into her life and getting told to beat it. That sort of feels worse I think. Good luck. It sounds like sort of a sticky situation. But one that I am sure you can rectify with a few kind words. Then I'd say..... keeping in touch with this girl is just going to cause you (and probably her) more harm than it's worth. If she wants to talk to you again (and she might) I'd leave it up to her.
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